Very occasionally "premature"

LegacyUser

My current bed-partner... who happens to be my ex.... (long story).... freaks out if i prematurely ejaculate.

Now this has only happened 4 times in a total of 10 months of sleeping together and it not a bad bloody record at that.

When it happens its one if those lost-in-the-moment deals and is the last thing i want, but she can't get that through her head. Instead i'm "selfish", "disrespectfull", "not a real man" etc etc. She said that "at age 30 i expect a man to totally satisfy me". Yes, she's generally highly strung and high maitenance and hense the reason why we don't go out any more.

Twice it's meant her having to take the mornin-after pill so i understand her annoyance and anger on those occasions - no need to throw me out of the gaf though is there? Is this why she loses it? When we're fooling around without protection its 50/50 equal responsibility. She knows the consequences and so do i - we're both adults.

I just can't stand the way she's acts a bitch about it, seemingly forgetting the all the great times we have and the fact that i can get aroused a little later no trouble. It makes me feel like saying to her, if we get it togther again "Now there's a 2% chance i won't last longer than 5 minutes. OKAY?????!". She claims it never happened with anyone else but i suspect thats crap. I dunno, i'm sure it happens occasionally with most guys?


Anyone else meet know women like this? Am i just damn unfortunate to have such a high-standard woman? Any advise on how to calm her down? She instantly just loses the mood and the night is ruined.

Nuttzz

"selfish" "not a real man"

she doesnt have high standards as you say, she's just a wagon.

shagging your ex is never a good idea anyway, lose her now

*Page*

she needs to get a life! i'm sorry, i climax sometimes and my partners not ready does this make me a b!tch because i cum before him???

no so she should act her age and enjoy it.

heres an idea when my partner cums before me he tends to either go down on me, on makes me climax other ways(sometimes during this it gets him aroused again)

Slutmonkey57b

Soooooo you think your ex is a looper and won't go out with her, but you WILL have unprotected sex with her!

That's pure genius that is.

You are a) going to get your head wrecked with a looper; and b) going to end up with a kid with same looper.

Good luck.

Uthur

I think you'd be better off without her.

seamus

UsuallyLasts wrote:

When we're fooling around without protection its 50/50 equal responsibility. She knows the consequences and so do i - we're both adults.

Indeed.

She claims it never happened with anyone else but i suspect thats crap. I dunno, i'm sure it happens occasionally with most guys?

I guess, if you're younger. But with some experience, one would think you'd develop a bit of self-control, and a "feel" for it (for want of a better word). Of course, self-control is non-existent when drunk, but you have other things to aid your longevity there.

Anyone else meet know women like this? Am i just damn unfortunate to have such a high-standard woman? Any advise on how to calm her down? She instantly just loses the mood and the night is ruined.

Has she ever had an abortion, or is she mortally afraid of becoming pregnant? Then it may be understandable that she freaks out when it occurs. But in that case, I'd be surprised she's happy to go with unprotected sex at all. On the other hand, if she's just pissed off that you didn't wait for her, then finish the job and get rid of her properly.

woolymammoth

UsuallyLasts wrote:

Am i just damn unfortunate to have such a high-standard woman?

high standard? high strung? high maintenance? or just a plain b!tch.. yes, you are damn unfortunate.

UsuallyLasts wrote:

Any advise on how to calm her down?

nope! and i wouldn't even try.

my advice? (and this is going on experience) why not throw your long story out and loose this "woman". it'll be a weight off your shoulders believe me.

besides, you said she's only your 'bed-partner'. you should be able to forget about her more easily since you're not goin' out..

tinkerbell

Okay ... so did I read your post correctly?

You are having unprotected sex with your ex.

You say that she had to get the morning after pill twice (so I'm assuming she ain't on the pill either), is this because of you prematurely ejaculating, i.e. before you pulled out - is that the form of "protection" you are using? If you are using the "withdrawal" method, then you are a fool. You know how high the chances are of her getting up the duff if you don't protect herself.

Yes, she does sound like a bunny boiler. She's high maintenance, she criticises you to no end when you prematurely whatever.

It's just as much her fault that she had to get the morning after pill. If you two were using protection, she wouldn't need to.

Sounds to me like you're better off ditching her, coz she sounds like a muppet anyway. She's your ex for a reason!

LegacyUser

You are using coitus interruptus. Yet you didn't pull out in time. She has a right to be annoyed.

No protection is another thing. IMO you de-serve (sic) each other.

Shabadu

Buy some condoms and find a new mot tbh.

embee

Perhaps I'm stating the obvious here, but you do realise that a condom should really be worn as soon as penetration occurs?

REDZ

her being nasty and stressing you out ain't helping

Evil Phil

Dump her and buy some condoms.

Sleepy

And we wonder why so many kids end up in therapy when these are the circumstances they're conceived in!?

*Page*

a condom should be worn before penatration and with any other form of sexual action(oral ect)

LegacyUser

Pretty straighforward advise there folks - i'd give the same myself I suppose. Thanks.... i know should move on with someone else. Pity.... 98% of the time it's been great.

MaddyDv

mmmmm......I'd like to hear her side of the story! Think how she feels. Imagine if she just stopped what she was doing as you were reaching the height of excitement! SO annoying!
And why oh why are you having unprotected sex with her! Everyone knows a sure way to get pregnant or to get some god awful STI is to sleep with an ex. I think maybe you need to stop sleeping with her, an ex is NOT and ex if you're still at it! Maybe some time on your own would be good, get some practice in! They do have pills for that too you know!

Going Demented

Sounds like she is a bit of an insensitive wagon to me. I would be inclined to tell her where to go. And if you don't want to be tied to this woman for life for god sake use protection.

"Has she ever had an abortion, or is she mortally afraid of becoming pregnant"
- If that was the case i don't think she would be happy to use the withdrawal method.

FX Meister

She's teh one that sounds "selfish" and "disrespectfull" in my book. I had an ex similar to this a few years ago. It didn't happen too often, maybe the odd time if we were apart for a few weeks and it never took long for round two anyway. She gave me shít for it once and I was just pissed off about it so I rolled over and said "finish yourself off" and she hit the roof. It was worth it though to see her reaction.

pwd

A bit of communication is needed here. Instead of reacting to her saying that sort of thing, tell her that you really don't want it to happen, and you feel crap when it does, two inches tall, so please be kind. She's making you worry about it which doesn't help.
If she listens to that, she won't flip out next time, and therefore not irredeemably lose the mood, and therefore you'll be able to finish her a little later.
If she doesn't listen, she probably doesn't think very much about other people's feelings, and isn't someone you want to be sleeping with anyway.

Regardless, don't let anything she says too personally. She's frustrated and having a tantrum.

sceptre

UsuallyLasts wrote:

My current bed-partner... who happens to be my ex.... (long story).... freaks out if i prematurely ejaculate.

When it happens its one if those lost-in-the-moment deals and is the last thing i want, but she can't get that through her head. Instead i'm "selfish", "disrespectfull", "not a real man" etc etc. She said that "at age 30 i expect a man to totally satisfy me". Yes, she's generally highly strung and high maitenance and hense the reason why we don't go out any more.

Twice it's meant her having to take the mornin-after pill so i understand her annoyance and anger on those occasions - no need to throw me out of the gaf though is there? Is this why she loses it?

Want my opinion? Get rid of her. Worrying about what's she's going to do if you prematurely anything isn't helping you. And stop using the withdrawal method. It's asking for trouble. A little not-dealth-with accident and you may have to see her on occasions for the rest of your life. Is that what you want? Cos that's what'll 'appen.