Going to a concert on your own

ClareBear

I regularly go to concerts, festivals etc....never had any problem getting people to go with me to any of them except for now. No one I know would even cross the road, let alone pay to see the Stereophonics in September. Just wondering if any of ye have gone to gigs on your own and if it's not as loserville as I imagine it would be?

Bazz

Why do you need someone to watch a band with you? If you're a fan, you're a fan. You'll go whether you have someone to hold your hand or not.

ClareBear

Bazz wrote:

Why do you need someone to watch a band with you? If you're a fan, you're a fan. You'll go whether you have someone to hold your hand or not.

That's true, but you know, it's nice to have someone there with you.

comet

Yes you will be a total loser if you go to a gig on your own, in fact The Point have started making lone concert goers wear luminous yellow vests, so that no one will be in any doubt that they are there alone. In the past apparently people had fiddled around with their mobile and pretended they were waiting for their friends return from the bar/toilet and pulled it off, those days are gone now though. Hot Press have welcomed the news "Its high time the freaks of our society were shown up for what they are". In fact moves are afoot to broaden the scope of this new initiative, Harry Crosbie of the Point has been quoted as saying that he would be in favour of the vests being worn by groups of 2 people as often you can get 2 loner freaks going together

I've often gone to a gig on my own, i don't see the big deal, once the gig starts you don't even notice.

ClareBear

comet wrote:

Yes you will be a total loser if you go to a gig on your own, in fact The Point have started making lone concert goers wear luminous yellow vests, so that no one will be in any doubt that they are there alone. In the past apparently people had fiddled around with their mobile and pretended they were waiting for their friends return from the bar/toilet and pulled it off, those days are gone now though. Hot Press have welcomed the news "Its high time the freaks of our society were shown up for what they are". In fact moves are afoot to broaden the scope of this new initiative, Harry Crosbie of the Point has been quoted as saying that he would be in favour of the vests being worn by groups of 2 people as often you can get 2 loner freaks going together

I've often gone to a gig on my own, i don't see the big deal, once the gig starts you don't even notice.

Well aren't you just fecking hilarious!!

whiskeyman

its fine to go on your own.
Of course, its great going with mates to enjoy the whole pre and post show, but during the show, it doesnt matter.
I've gone to a good few concerts by myself as none of my mates like the artists I do.
First time was daunting, but you actually realise there's *lots* of people who go by themselves.
You can still have a great time... and you really appricate the music if your by yourself (no drunken mates to watch for...).
Get a ticket and enjoy it... don't miss a concert just coz friends wouldnt go.

Bazz

That's because you're a girl. No offence but chicks tend to go with bf or friend for security. Once the lights go down you won't care if you're alone or not.

PoloBroin

it's true, it's grand while the band or bands are actually playing but it's the in between part where you really feel like a loser I suppose but during the music it's not like you're talking anyway

actually the luminous vest thing would be a good idea, then fellow losers could hook up

and of course on the other end of things is going with a few people and losing them all in a huge crowd and spending the entire time looking for them because either it's the good old pre-mobile days or the mobile network has crashed cos of 80,000 people texting each other

or there's the text taking 3hours to get through eg I'm standing under the tree (but it arrives 2 days later) but veering off topic here

and I speak as a loser who has been to a few gigs on his own, never in the point though,some of them fantastic gigs and glad to have been there

ClareBear

Okay, thanks guys. I was going to go either way. Just didn't like the thought of going on my own but sure who cares I suppose, you're right. Thanks

RuggieBear

i often go to the pictures on my own.....actually a few years back i was the only person at a screening, when a girl came in on her own and sat a few rows ahead of me....after a few minutes she then came over to me and asked if she could sit next to me coz she prefered to have company when watching movies...

herobear

RuggieBear wrote:

...after a few minutes she then came over to me and asked if she could sit next to me coz she prefered to have company when watching movies...

you didnt marry and/or have sex with her didja ?? :P

back on topic, yeah been to loads to gigs on my own, i often just bump into ppl i know or just get talking to randomers, generally people are up for a chat in between songs ive found

seamus

Guess it's not as bad as you would think. I know plenty of people who'd look at you weird, but any time I go to concert with girls, I end up standing near the back with them cos they don' want to dive in, and if I go with my mates and we all lose eachother as soon as the music starts anyway. So I don't see any problem with it. A festival would be different. You'd get just a *tad* bored

I've gone to the cinema a few times on my own, when there's something on my gf won't see (or she's not about) and everyone else has seen it. The Matrix Revolutions for example. I go to the cinema to watch a movie, not to spend time with someone.

goin'_to_the_PS

i think what makes a good night at a gig is the people your with

Ro: maaan!

goin'_to_the_PS wrote:

i think what makes a good night at a gig is the people your with

Certainly people can make it better, but you seriously think it's the most important thing? You'd go to a band you disliked as long as you were going with mates...?

Of course go on your own. Do you want to see the band or not. Anyone concerned with being a loser because of something like this is already a loser.

shabbyroad

Going to gigs on my own - sometimes I enjoy it because the wife feels the need to TALK to me during the gig. I mean FFS ! Twat's that all about ?

I went to Live Aid on my own but that was by accident. Mate and myself said we'd meet up in the bar on the ferry to Holyhead. How the phuck was I supposed to know there were 2 bars on the boat ? He was pissed and I coudn't be arsed getting out of the comfy seat across from the two girls that I had found.

anyway... what were we talking about ?

Creamy Goodness

yeh don't let the fact that no one you know isn't going.

you go.

i'd do it for bands i like (like weezer but i got some friends who like them). you'll regret not going as you never know the band might split before the next time they get a chance to come here. i always look upon a gig like that, it might be your last chance so you gotta be there.

Tiriel

I dunno I'd be very slow to go on my own.. usually if I go to a gig or concert it's a big day out / night out with mates and I really don't know if I'd go on my own. I like to share the experience and don't really like being on my own at things like that.. the cinema I don't mind.. but everyone's different. A friend of mine took off around the world on her own last month and is having a ball.. something I would never have to guts to do and not sure I would enjoy it on my own!! though as said above.. once the gig starts I'm sure it wouldn't matter at all when u love the band!!

Berger

I dunno. Personally I think it's pretty sad to go on your own, like people who go the cinema on their own. It's just weird..

po0k

If you can go to a gig in a pub on your own, you can go to a concert in a big venue.

What's the harm in doing that? If you're stuck, try talking to someone or just gate-crashing another group.

Unless they're **** they aren't going to mind you tagging along with them.
Worst case you wander off on your own, but you could also end up meeting some new friends.

0utshined

I've often gone to gigs by myself. I like a lot of bands that my friends don't and i'll ask them if they want to go but if they don't I'm not going to let that stop me seeing them live. Damn, I've even gone abroad to gigs by myself!

You'll probably spot a fair few people by themselves there too. It's no biggy really but I suppose it feels a bit strange the first time but you get over that pretty sharpish.

On the cinema thing, I do that as well, I couldn't give a monkeys whether it's considered 'sad' or not. I'm living my life for me, not anyone else.

John

Often go to gigs on my own. Most of the time there's someone I know there but generally I have a book with me and will go through that while the lights are on and I'm waiting for it to start. So if you see a guy with a book at a gig, come over and say hi, it may be me.

Kevin_rc_ie

like people who go the cinema on their own. It's just weird..

well, to be honest.

with the cinema, you can jsut go in as it starts and leave as it ends. there's very little hanging around. and when the film is on, you can't talk anyway. you can kiss but then you'd be missing the film. I don't think it's weird. i think it's better that way. sometimes, after the film (i'm srue this applies to gigs too) you want to talk to someone about what you just saw/ experienced.

oh to go off on another tangent, i got talking to some woman during/after a special screening of 9 songs. i ran away when she wsant looking.

oh yeah, keep on trying to get one of ur friends to go with you. don't bring a book like john2, that's just stupid.

dceire

I'm going to Oxygen in july, I was ment to go with a freind of mine but now it looks as if he's not going bcuz he dose'nt think there are enough good bands playn(WTF?) so no it looks like i'll be going on my own cuz i cant seem to find anyone else who's going.

I'm only going on the sunday for the foo's and audioslave but would love to go for the weekend but that is deff out now. I've never gone to a concert alone before it'll be very strange especially before and in between acts & if you meet some one you kinda know would you not feel like a compleate looser seeing them with all of there mates and you there jimmy no mates

John

I went with a gang of people to Oxegen and Witness over the years and most of the time you split up anyway as no one can agree on who to go see

0utshined

John2 wrote:

I went with a gang of people to Oxegen and Witness over the years and most of the time you split up anyway as no one can agree on who to go see

Yeah, when I was there last year I think we were all there together for maybe 2 or 3 bands. The rest of the time you'd look at your own bands and meet up after.

radiospan

Yeah I've been to plenty of gigs on my own. I don't know anyone who likes the same music as me so it's not a big deal really. It's kinda weird all right the first time, but if you want to see the band, something like that shouldn't stop you.

Mikros

Well I've never been to a gig on my own but that’s because I'm lucky to have lots off people I know interested in the same music.

That said, as soon as we get to a gig we normally end up losing each other anyway. So if you don't mind travelling to and from the gig on your own you’re not missing much IMO. There's always a better chance of meeting up with new people on your own as well. I wouldn't have a problem going to a gig on my own if it was a band I really liked and I couldn't find anyone to go with...

comet

It all comes down to your personality traits I suppose at the end of the day, some people care too much about what other people think and aren't even secure enough in themselves or their own company to go the cinema on their own! Whats the big deal? If you won't go to the cinema on your own, theres no way you'll go to a gig on your own. Its a shame i think, there's no way someone really interested in going to live music will always have have a friend interested enough to go along to all the gigs, so that inevitably leads to the decision to go alone or miss the possibly best giog of your life. I agree a festival is a different story, spending 2 or 3 days on your own could get a bit boring especially when an event like that is as much about what happens in the camp sites as much as what happens on stage.

breadmonkey

I personally wouldn't go to a gig on my own becasue I think it's more enjoyable with friends. That's just me though, I don't think it's sad to go on your own or anything. It's a bit like travelling on your own - it's not for everyone.

dregin

I've made the trip down to voodoo twice in the last couple of weeks on my lonesome to see bands play. It's fine when there's someone on stage but christ I could have drank the bar dry with nothing to do but drink.

Thank god I'm broke :P

Jonny Arson

Yeah you should go on your own if you want. Why should you miss one of your fave bands just because your dumb buddies wont go with you. Als oyou will find that you may get talking to people. You are at a gig to see a certain band, what possibly could you and the rest of the people have in common to talk about? :rolleyes: You know what I mean! :rolleyes:

At the end of the day I have found myself singing songs on the streets with total randomers after gigs but usually with alcohol involved. The only problem the Point is the biggest venue and that bit more daunting but f**k it go and enjoy your band.

dregin

Do go. I missed At the drive-in play here because I couldnt get anyone to travel from Cavan to the gig with me. Regret isn't the word for it.

Tobias Greeshman

I've gone to two gigs on my own, had a great time, once you get in there's music playing. Your there to enjoy the music, besides whos gonna even notice if your on your own. Everyones to wrapped up in the music to give a toss, and you shouldn't either.

goin'_to_the_PS

goin'_to_the_PS wrote:

i think what makes a good night at a gig is the people your with

Ro: maaan! wrote:

you seriously think it's the most important thing

of course i don't i didn't say that did i

Ro: maaan! wrote:

You'd go to a band you disliked as long as you were going with mates...?

of course i wouldn't i didn't say that did i

Ro: maaan!

goin'_to_the_PS wrote:

of course i don't i didn't say that did i

You said "i think what makes a good night at a gig is the people your with". That being the only thing you mentioned I assumed you meant it was the best thing about it. Therefore the most important. But that was only an assumption. That's why I then asked do you think it's the most important thing. If you don't think it's the most important thing then why would you say it, and leave out what is the important thing? It was a little misleading, don't you think? Anyway I then asked if you'd go to a band you didn't like if you were with mates. Of course you didn't say that. If you did then I wouldn't have had to ask...

Karmand

Regret the things you havent done not the things you have.
You would definitely regret seeing a band because like mentioned by someone else, they could break up or become huge and you'd never be able to see them in a small venue or better still meet them.
I've went to a gig on my own and it was one of the best ever.
Obviously beause the band were amazing, and although apprehensive at first i just let myself go mental when the music started. An advantage of being a loner girl or guy is that people are less afraid to approach you than if you're with a huge group of friends. It's a way better opportunity to meet new friends. And if someone likes you when you're dehyrated, sweaty with messy hair and eyeliner down your face, then thats obviously a huge confidence boost.
Gigs are not about meeting lads or girls, its about the music but its an added bonus to meet someone with a similar music taste to yours.

wilkins

Going to the cinema is fine on yer own cos it's dark and all and there is no communication anywhoo. But gigs may be different, that is for a female. Whenever I am waiting on someone in a pub on my own, fellas think 'oh desperate female on her own, must be up for the cup'. Really annoys me. I am not talking about fella just coming up and being friendly, that's grand, but the other, jayseus!!!!! That would put me off going to concerts on my own.

shivface

its fun cos ya make new friends who have the same taste in music and you see them all the time in gigs after that anyways

melekalikimaka

i always have to go to gigs on my own, my mates are all jocks and hate punk...leaving me high and dry

deisedolly

If I was to go to a gig on my own I'd have to go on a bus for like 3hrs aswell as standing around in the venue on my own for ages! I don't think I could handle that! And then imagine you met someone you know who's with a big gang of friends aaahhhh cringe!
And you'd be there bobbing to the music on your own like a loser aswell...
And then who could you talk to about the gig after it?
I suppose I am a fairly insecure person as i wouldnt even go to the cinema on my own.. I'd just be thinking... what if i meet a gang of people from me class in there or someone I know with a boyfriend... could NOT handle that!
One of the main parts of any gig is the session on the way up and just getting drunk and having a laugh with your friends!
I wouldn't go it alone..

Ro: maaan!

Well a 3 hour bus journey is probably enough to put anyone off. I don't really understand this thing about not wanting to bump into people there though. Surely it would be a good thing to meet people you knew there...? I went to Jimmy Eat World the other week on my own. Turned out I bumped into a guy I knew who also went on his own. And as for looking like a loser, I'm not so sure. If I wasn't prone to going to things on my own, and while I was at something with a group I saw somone I know who was on their own chances are I'd think of them as being independent rather than sad. Seeing someone going to something or doing something on their own would lead me to believe they have a life rather than just tagging along with their mates to whatever they were going. Really don't know if other people would think that though...

Concentrated

I often go to the cinema alone, and agree with the above, that you actually look quite independant if you can enjoy your own company. It has taken me until the late 20's though to have the confidence and I suppose, desire to do what I want to do and not to always be depending on others.

Anton17

I ended up on my own for most of the chalets and subways gig on saturday night. My mate who was in an awful state wandered away for smoke at the start of the subways set and never came back
Anways, i wasnt bothered seeing as i was pretty drunk as well. If your going to go solo i'd recommend a few drinks before hand and you'll be fine.
I wish i'd gone to the lemon jelly gig now, i was put of by having to go alone.

projectmayhem

haven't really gone to gigs (or any social gatherings for that matter) alone. but thinking about it, i always go with mates, everyone gets separated, and at the end spend about an hour looking for each other. so going alone probably makes sense..

going with people is really to make conversation in the que...

susanna

ClareBear I'm doing the exact same thing. I'm a huge Stereophonics fan and there was no way I was missing them, but most of my mates don't like them and the ones that do are out of the country when the gig is on. So I got myself a seat in the balcony (at least that way I can turn up at the last minute without having thousands of heads in the way, and I won't have to queue outside for ages on my own). It is a much better laugh when you have someone with you, but its not worth missing your favourite band over. Sure I often lose my mates once the concert starts anyway!

ClareBear

Woo hoo so I won't be the only loser (just kidding) there!

The Weatherman

melekalikimaka wrote:

i always have to go to gigs on my own, my mates are all jocks and hate punk...leaving me high and dry

ClareBear, organise a blind date for the STereophonics gig. MUCH safer than going on your own

I'll go with you in future!

I've missed loads of gigs i've really wanted to see because i couldn't get anyone to go with me and have never had the courage to go on my own. My friends are all complete phillistines when it comes to music.

But after reading this thread there seems to be loads of people do go anyway. So i'll be at Weezer in June on my own. Thank you kind thread

comet

Maybe my high visibility vest joke could be the germ of an idea for blind dating at gigs, off to set up website and make my fortune now..............