what should i do??

LegacyUser

my friend told my bf last night that she loved him. she's fickle about guys and likes a new one everyday but never tells them that she likes them except on this occassion. she is friends with both my bf and i. he doesnt feel the same way. its bugging me as he told me before she did. i was talking to her last night and she never brought it up. i then eventually asked her. she just kept saying sorry after that. it could affect all the relationships. should i leave it and forget about it until it comes up again or what?

The Sweeper

Is your friend competitive? Sounds to me like she had a serious case of the covets - you have it, she wants it, even if she gets it she'll probably not know what to do with it, so in the meantime, she's just going to mess you all about...

If your boyfriend doesn't feel the same way (and go him if he doesn't!) then stuff her, it's all her loss, she should have been a damn sight more considerate towards you.

Nasty_Girl

sorry pink, but she isn't your friend she sounds like a sh*t stirrer.

Only Human

kill her.

Infini

Only Human wrote:

kill her.

That would be OVERKILL!

arbeitsscheuer

I'm with Only Human on this one... Joking, Joking!

Seriously tho, if your bf has taken no notice of it, then surely it'll make your relationship with him stronger. I don't think you have any problems with that relationship.

But as for your "friend"... That's a lot more dicey: You could just let it blow over, and she'll realise what a total idiot she's been, and in a few days/weeks/months you'll look back at this and laugh (horrible cliche I know but meh).

On the other hand, if she doesn't let it lie, and continues to harass ur bf, she is indeed, as Nasty_Girl put it, a "sh*t stirrer", and u shud cut her loose asap.

But what are ya listenin to me for, if you've read my posts you'll see how screwed up I am!! :rolleyes:

Nala

Kill her!

Fanny Cradock

Nala wrote:

Kill her!

it was funny first time, now it's not!
thank you nala for killing that joke

dearg_doom

Kill her!

Beruthiel

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Beruthiel

pink fluff wrote:

my friend told my bf last night that she loved him

I would not call someone who did that behind my back a friend

seamus

Once again, MAJD points the way.

She doesn't sound like much of a friend. Sounds more a like a sneaky, manipulative bitch who really couldn't care about anyone else. Telling your bf that she loves him can serve no purpose other than to try inject some sort of FUD into your relationship, with her aiming to pick up the pieces when it ends.

Ignore her, tell her to shove her friendship up her arse, and delete her number from both your phones.

Evil Phil

FUD?

Anyway, your bf told you about it so everything is cool with him. Drop her like a bag of scorpions though; you'll be better off.

seamus

Evil Phil wrote:

FUD?

Fear, Uncertainty and Doubt.

D

If she really was your friend she would never do something like that behind your back. I think that maybe she might be loosing you to your bf and is trying to through a spanner in the works, consciously or not.

YrdnasiM

Lets be honest. You know exactly whats going on.
You say she is fickle with men, and you know well what that really means.

Your boyfriend may be her next conquest, and you her competition.

You very much like the idea of your boyfriend refusing her, especially if she is good-looking.

Whats your real issue?

Loyalty to your man or to your sisterhood?

D

YrdnasiM wrote:

Lets be honest. You know exactly whats going on.
You say she is fickle with men, and you know well what that really means.

Your boyfriend may be her next conquest, and you her competition.

You very much like the idea of your boyfriend refusing her, especially if she is good-looking.

Whats your real issue?

Loyalty to your man or to your sisterhood?

Eh?
Sisterhood? Listen her friend was out of order telling the bf that she fancied him.

WhiteWashMan

YrdnasiM wrote:

Lets be honest. You know exactly whats going on.
You say she is fickle with men, and you know well what that really means.

Your boyfriend may be her next conquest, and you her competition.

You very much like the idea of your boyfriend refusing her, especially if she is good-looking.

Whats your real issue?

Loyalty to your man or to your sisterhood?

interesting post, although im not sure what point you are trying to make.
i think her real issue is that she is unsure what to do about her friend who apparently this week loves her boyfriend.

no idea what the loyalty bit is about.


anyway.....
without wanting to p1ss on anyones parade, id be interested in knowing what way she told him she loved him.
i get the feeling it was a 'i love you' come on, but it may just be that she loves him as a friend.
ok, its probably not the way, but i guess we cant rule it out, unltil specifically told.

if that is the case, then yeah, it sounds like she just needs to compete,and will no doubt have found a new fella within the month to dream about. peraonlly, i let it lie and wait for the fad to fade.
after all, if you know she ithat kind of person, you can hardly damn her for being true to her nature.
just be happy you got a good fella, and let her do her own thing, but put a little distance between you and her.