Need Help Please!

LegacyUser

Heh,

Im recently after getting back with my ex girlfriend. Shes the first girl I ever met 6 years ago but we didnt last very long. Now were older and recently started back going with each other and theres still a spark there.

Problem is I care for this girl a lot and she does me but im afraid of getting too close to her. We are both at the age of 18 but ive only ever had sex about 5 times with the one girl. The reason im worried is because each time I only lasted about 2-5minutes.

I really want things to work with this girl but im afraid if I keep pushing her away i'll lose her. I masterbate about 2 times a week is this normal? Or what is the average for a guy my age or should I even do it?

Im really just not confident can you give me any advice..

Thanks.

Sleepy

Relax, take it easy and enjoy yourself.

There's no point in pushing people away, so what if you might get hurt? Almost everyone in the world over the age of 18 has been dumped at some stage. We survive, learn from the experience and if we're lucky, get to do it all over again in the future. Life's a rollercoaster, hang on tight and enjoy the ride

Nuttzz

reggi00005 wrote:

Heh,



I masterbate about 2 times a week is this normal?

i'd say thats on the lower end of the scale.

if you worry you will finish quicker, relax and try different positions

iguana

First off concentrate on foreplay, most women don't orgasm through penetration anyway. If she is satisfied before the actual intercourse she should be satisfied with your performance.

If you really want to increase your stamina however, you could try masturbating about an hour before having sex. As it will usually take longer for you to reach climax for a second time in couple of hours. You could even include that as part of the foreplay.

Another thing to do is when you are masturbating stop just before orgasm, wait a minute then start again, then stop before orgasm, wait a minute, start again. And keep doing that as long as possible; apparently it trains you to delay orgasm. You can also try getting to the point of orgasm and then clenching as if you are trying to stop peeing. Supposedly if you get this right you can experience the feeling of a mild orgasm without actually cuming, allowing you to continue having sex until actual orgasm.
(have no idea if these two actually work)

Static M.e.

The sex bit,
foreplay is the key here, also their are plenty of ways to slow down so you can last longer than 2-3 min

Masterbate bit,
Nothing to worry about, perfectly normal.

As for getting close to her, do you mean getting close physically or getting close to her relationship wise, getting attached etc

LegacyUser

Well I belive we could have a relationship if I was more confident with myself. I think what I need is a holiday. I believe if I went on a holiday experienced all these things much better then I would be more confident with myself. I dont have a problem getting girls at all but because im not confident in getting close to them I push them away and end things before they are to get serious.

Lately its starting to depress me because I feel alot for this girl and she does me too and I keep pushing her away lately.

Foreplay is something I dont know much about. If I knew I was 100% normal I wouldnt worry about experience'ing these things with this girl I care for because she would understand im sure. Its just I get erections sometimes even just being with a girl. And a few times I have cum myself even just shifting a girl.

I dont know what my problem is I have already had sex but I was very drunk.

;(

LegacyUser

I apreciate all your advice by the way. Thanks

Victor

reggi00005 wrote:

We are both at the age of 18 but ive only ever had sex about 5 times with the one girl. The reason im worried is because each time I only lasted about 2-5minutes.

At 18 this is quite normal.

WhiteWashMan

Victor wrote:

At 18 this is quite normal.

its pretty normal at your age as well victor. most men your age will tell you that

however, i dont think the OP needs to worry too much about the actual 'inserted' bit.
spend some time as people say on the enjoying bits, like the licking, and the sucking and the rubbing etc etc etc

also, ask your chick to tell you and show you what she likes. it will help you to help her, and you will both get more enjoyment.

a few minutes is perfectly natural for sex when youare a young buck like yourself, so just try to prolong the entry part.

Victor

WhiteWashMan wrote:

its pretty normal at your age as well victor. most men your age will tell you that

Bah! Mumble grumble. /me didn't see the 5 minutes.

Wibbs

As others have pointed out foreplay is the very important. Don't be in too much of a rush. Enjoy all that's on offer. Talk and listen to each other. Don't be too concerned if you finish early. You don't have to stop doing other things.

As you said, you feel a lot for this girl and she feels the same way. That's a good foundation right there. If you know she feels this way don't push her away. talk to her. Let her know your worries. It may be hard to open yourself up like that, but it'll be worth it for your relationship both inside and outside the bedroom. Imagine how good you'd feel if she confided in you like that.

She may have worries herself. She may be just as self conscious as you. Most people have some worries in this department, especially when young or inexperienced.

Originally Posted by Victor
At 18 this is quite normal

at 40 it's called a quicky

at 60 it's to be prayed for

WhiteWashMan

we're not sure of victors age.
ive met him, and id put him at .......

well, actually, he sorta looked homeless....