Sex problem

Ratboy9mm

Ive been with this girl for about a month. Problem is, when we want to have sex, i just have problems putting my penis in her. Her pussy seems such a small "target" to aim for. I usually also have problems keeping it up, cos it seems that whenever im horny she isnt. The main problem is putting it in her pussy though. ( yes she is my first sexual partner, im very inexperienced). So far ive always guided her hand down to my dick, and she put it in, but the ways she does it is quite painful. And unfortunately pain doesnt do any good for keeping my erection up! Also it seems way too tight to fit a whole penis in, i have no real clue how to put it in. Im pretty incompetant. It makes me feel pretty bad, like a complete loser.

Evil Phil

KY Jelly might help.

Beruthiel

if she is that tight, perhaps more foreplay is required until she can relax, also there are other ways to have sex (oral) till ye both relax
sounds to me like ye are both nervous and all you need is time and practice in order to get comfortable with each other
quit thinking you are a loser now or that will just make things worse for you, mentally.
practice makes perfect!

Ratboy9mm

Well im the only one thats nervous, she certainly isnt. Anyway my problem is this: Were both there naked, ive got to put it in her, but i have no clue how to do it. I mean do i just force it in? Also once i move close to her ( making contact) i can no longer see her pussy and therefore cant put it in. Then i get nervous, lose my erection and then roll away from her. Its pretty horrible alright.
Now ive been walking around town all aggressive, feeling like an impotent loser everytime i see a good looking girl.
Also, she told me she doesnt like foreplay to much, which really doesnt help my cause...

bacon?

just rub it off her, and bounce it off her gently, those lips will open my friend

play with her tits too

cavo

just shag her from behind and she will be screaming for more

*Page*

she might need to relax if it keeps popping out try it with you on top her on her back and you slide it it. start with your fingers for an idea of where it is then glide it in slowly in back and forth movements

The_Conductor

Ratboy9mm wrote:

Well im the only one thats nervous, she certainly isnt. Anyway my problem is this: Were both there naked, ive got to put it in her, but i have no clue how to do it. I mean do i just force it in? Also once i move close to her ( making contact) i can no longer see her pussy and therefore cant put it in. Then i get nervous, lose my erection and then roll away from her. Its pretty horrible alright.
Now ive been walking around town all aggressive, feeling like an impotent loser everytime i see a good looking girl.
Also, she told me she doesnt like foreplay to much, which really doesnt help my cause...

Talk to her- discuss things between you.
Let her take a more active role.
The big thing is communication- don't be afraid to discuss things. Thereafter the big thing is to relax and not get too het up over things.

Talk to her- seriously.

"Doesn't like too much foreplay"....... After you get over the initial problems, you are going to appreciate this- believe you me!

_sheep

Wrong hole

Beruthiel

the next person who doesn't give a helpful and useful comment gets banned
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uberwolf

actually maybe doing her from behind would help, at least you'll be able to guide yourself in with a full view.

How can she not like foreplay though?

*Page*

is it her first time as well as it being yours

Pink Bunny

I haven't a clue why her trying to guide you in causes you pain?
Maybe if you tried her on top and let her work her way slowly into place might help.
Also, I bet she would like foreplay if she had someone to take the time to do it right. Perhaps she was with inexperienced guys in the past that hadn't taken to the time to find out what she really likes.

simu

Ratboy9mm wrote:

Well im the only one thats nervous, she certainly isnt. Anyway my problem is this: Were both there naked, ive got to put it in her, but i have no clue how to do it. I mean do i just force it in? Also once i move close to her ( making contact) i can no longer see her pussy and therefore cant put it in. Then i get nervous, lose my erection and then roll away from her. Its pretty horrible alright.
Now ive been walking around town all aggressive, feeling like an impotent loser everytime i see a good looking girl.
Also, she told me she doesnt like foreplay to much, which really doesnt help my cause...

She sounds like she doesn't have much experience of sex so either replace her or try and teach her. I don't see how she couldn't like foreplay - it's not as if she gets turned on really fast and is eager to get on with pentrative sex - if she did, you would "fit inside" without hassle. So, get working on foreplay and find some way of getting her to enjoy it first. Then move on to penetrative sex - this should be easier and smoother if the foreplay goes well. Don't force your penis into her, get her to guide it in - very few people like battering-ram sex!

Ratboy9mm

Nope, its not her first sex, shes had quite a few guys. She told me she lost her virginity at 15. As for foreplay, ive gone dwn on her a few times, she said she liked it. I did too. However she says she doesnt like the whole long drawn out foreplay, and then sex and falling asleep together like an old couple. Aparently shes into quickies.

Next time were together alone, ill talk to her about it. I guess its the only thing i can do.

simu

Ratboy9mm wrote:

Nope, its not her first sex, shes had quite a few guys. She told me she lost her virginity at 15. As for foreplay, ive gone dwn on her a few times, she said she liked it. I did too. However she says she doesnt like the whole long drawn out foreplay, and then sex and falling asleep together like an old couple. Aparently shes into quickies.

Next time were together alone, ill talk to her about it. I guess its the only thing i can do.

Yeah, ask her how she managed with the other guys then!

Ali Cat

bacon? wrote:

just rub it off her, and bounce it off her gently, those lips will open my friend

play with her tits too

NO,No,no! That might help you stay up but it's actually pretty awful for the girl.

Anyway OP, are you sure she's actually had penatrative intercourse before? She could be too embaressed to tell you that it's her first time,too. also if she's so tight that it hurts you then I can just about guarentee that it's painful for her too. Talk to her about, both parties are supposed to enjoy sex, that's why people chose to do it, remember the key to good sex is communication, really. and don't feel too bad about it, everyone has to start somewhere.

Sleepy

Get her to go on top. Then she can lower herself onto you...

Skank

ok man skanks here

Ok man sex can be the greatist thing in the world all i think it needs is a bit of confidence and yal be on ur way , the way i lernt was a booklit i got in fhm years ago didnt really think i needed it but one nite i read it , and my hole world turned upside down id never read so much stuff in all my life and i still read it cause its handy .

I lerned all about her herodjunous zones which are all over her body , theres quite a few il list a few
Neck
BooBs But not all women have it ..
Eyes
Ears
legs
upper arms
legs back of the nee also further up her inner thigh ..

then you have ur play spot ok dude there are in total 4 places in wich u can drive that girl so insane that shel punch you in the face beleave me they can pull some funny faces , u have the gee spot , finger her go as deep as they go hook them forward ul feel a ruff patch i cant explain exactly very well but you will find it trust me , then diectly opsite o n the back wall theres another ..

which i cant remeber what its calle but its like a spot and is useally there when shes turned on , im not shore cause i always get her wet , ..
and just explore each other that what meen and my x head a gret sex life , simply becaus we turned each other on properly


good luck hope this helps

Skank

oh and good music can help to and not tupac , air zero 7 , just have fun !!!!

po0k

This smells of troll, but regardless....
Serious:

Mind your banjo string and your foreskin.
If it hurts you, it's not being done right.
If you or herself can slide one or two fingers in and out easily - should be sufficient natural lubricant - then that's enough to work with, unless you've got a fat penis when erect.

If she's only into quickies and is as dry as sawdust at penetration, then she needs to cop the fúck on. If she's just tight, lube up her vagina, your fingers and your [condom-covered] penis and work it till it's loose.

As for maintaining an erection, that depends on alot of things, mostly to do with yourself.

As Beruthiel said, practice makes perfect.

po0k

Oh, and Skanks, you forgot ears.

Works on both sexes. Bit of nibbling here and there never did any harm.
Biting shoulders, neck, "other-bits" is optional, as is her digging her nails into your back.

Third_Echelon

Ratboy9mm wrote:

Well im the only one thats nervous, she certainly isnt. Anyway my problem is this: Were both there naked, ive got to put it in her, but i have no clue how to do it. I mean do i just force it in? Also once i move close to her ( making contact) i can no longer see her pussy and therefore cant put it in........

Dude, its just like learning to type... At the start you need to look at the keyboard while you are typing, just to make sure you are pressing the right buttons.... After a bit of practise and experience, theres no need to look at the keyboard. Knowing where to put the fingers (in your case, your penis) comes naturally...

Emmo

I dont think any body asked this yet so I think I will. Are you doing this with the lights off or on?

In a completelty dark room its more difficult especially if you dont know the anatomy of a partner 100%.

If she and you are new to each other then I suggest having fun. Sex aint meant to be a business meeting so you should try to relax, if you feel comfortable with your own body and she does too try it with a light on.

Go down on her and try your best to make her come, you might be there for a long time. This is good. Learn from it. Try and remember where everything is down there, IE where her clit is in relation to her arse and her vagina.

Everyone is different, everyone's body is similar but unique so get to know it.

I suggest that when your ready have her lie on her back and you go on your knee but still upright and take you dick in your hand and with the lights on ease it into her pussy.

If she is ready, even if she is a virgin or not had much experience it shouldnt be that sore. If it is start again. Go down on her, the ideal thing would be for her to be dripping wet.

Then ease it in and then let her wrap her legs around your waist to control the depth and speed of your thrusts.

Dont go to long with your strokes unless your hung like a donkey. You dont take it all the way in or out everytime too.

Have fun, talk to your lady about what she likes and use protection, and ignore any idoots that say stuff like "roide her from behind and she will love it". They have never had any kind of meaningful relationship in their life.

Emmo

spunkymunky

Ratboy9mm wrote:

Ive been with this girl for about a month. Problem is, when we want to have sex, i just have problems putting my penis in her. Her pussy seems such a small "target" to aim for. I usually also have problems keeping it up, cos it seems that whenever im horny she isnt. The main problem is putting it in her pussy though. ( yes she is my first sexual partner, im very inexperienced). So far ive always guided her hand down to my dick, and she put it in, but the ways she does it is quite painful. And unfortunately pain doesnt do any good for keeping my erection up! Also it seems way too tight to fit a whole penis in, i have no real clue how to put it in. Im pretty incompetant. It makes me feel pretty bad, like a complete loser.

Are you using a condom? Thats kinda what it feels like without one. Personally work on getting her wet early on. You said you go down on her and both you and she likes it. Stick at it a bit longer. Might make a difference. As far as guiding it in, start at the pubic bone and move down slowly pushing the wee man in with your hand as you do. Really it should slid in.

Its you first time so dont feel bad!!!
Does she know this? Tell her if she doesnt, talk it out. Communication is very important. My first time, i let the 'more experienced' girl do the work. Worked out just fine. Had behind my head an all lol.
I think the main thing is to relax. It will come good with time.

billy the squid

Third_Echelon wrote:

Dude, its just like learning to type... At the start you need to look at the keyboard while you are typing, just to make sure you are pressing the right buttons.... After a bit of practise and experience, theres no need to look at the keyboard. Knowing where to put the fingers (in your case, your penis) comes naturally...

no wonder mavis beacon is so damn expensive.

anyhoo are you sure she is telling the truth when she says she is experienced, or could she be just saying this to make you feel less guilty. surely if she ahas experience she would know what to do.