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Sex Education

  • 08-03-2005 2:49pm
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    Closed Accounts Posts: 7


    I'm doing a project on teenage pregnancy for sociology in college and i'd like to find out your opinions on the issue. i presume most of you have been through the irish education system. do you think that the sex education you received in school was adequate/suitable/helpful or non-existent/awkward or biological/religious only? do you think that good sex education in schools would do much to reduce the rate of teenage pregnancy in ireland or do you think that girls and guys will continue to have unprotected sex and run the risk of becoming teenage parents regardless? thanks for your help


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,811 ✭✭✭*Page*


    the sex ed i got was a talk about tampons and st's..

    nothing about sex or stds/stis

    personaly i found it sh!t


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,217 ✭✭✭Matthewthebig


    I had sex ed in 6th class. it was a very basic thing "this is a penis, this is a vagina etc.."

    We then a very shi.tty christian based sex ed thing in fourth year.

    I'm in 5th now and we don't get the proper one until 6th year. Which tbh imo is ****ing ridiculous. People in my year have already lost the auld virginity. So its a bit late!

    IMO it should be taught every year from first class up. becoming more and more detailed. ie in first class it could be telling you about your "bits" then by 1st year they could be progressing onto STIs, condoms etc!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 68,317 ✭✭✭✭seamus


    Sex Ed in school was about 3 years too late. We got a "shock" talk in 4th year about stds and contraception and other crap. Should have been told about that in first/second year.

    We got some sex ed in 6th class, but that was more a pre-teen chat - like the episode in the Simpsons where Bart's class watch a video about it.

    The role that school should play is minimal anyway. 90% of a person's sexual education and sexual attitude should come from their parents IMO.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,811 ✭✭✭*Page*


    i totally agree with seamus!but there are the rare cases.
    some people can get quite embarassed in group situations...but some times its needed.
    for example some guy in the mixed school near to where i live had been told by his parents you get a girl pregnant by putting your willy in her belly button. he was shocked and embarassed in 4th year when he found out they lied..


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 25,848 ✭✭✭✭Zombrex


    Personally I think Sex Ed is not working in Ireland because it doesn't give teenagers social methods to say they don't want sex or to say they want sex on their terms (ie with a condom) so kids feel pressure into have sex in ways they don't fully understand. There is no reason why 16 year olds should still be having unwanted kids. They are because they do feel confident to demand condom use on the part of their partners.

    Kids switch off when you drum down STDs scares down their necks and basically tell them not to have sex. We need to face the facts that kids are having sex and find ways to talk to them about it so they feel confident that they can take methods to protect themselves but still have sex.

    Ironically, to some, I think this is a failing of feminism.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,367 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    I was lucky in that we'd a great religeon teacher in our school, a guy called Ciaran Doyle who instead of teaching religeon in leaving cert gave us a sylabus based around bringing in people from Cura, Alcoholics Anonymous etc.

    He was one of those rare teachers that actually had a gift for it and could treat students as something of an equal while retaining their respect. As a result in addition to classes on STD's, contraception and dealing with unexpected pregnancy (in a single sex male school no less) there were also a few times when pretty frank discussions about attitudes to sex were discussed.

    One of the great pieces of advice I remember him giving was "think about the way you guys even talk about sex. You talk about ****ing someone, doing something to them instead of with them". It made me think at the time and I like to think I've a pretty healthy attitude towards all things sexual and in part I think I'd have that teacher to thank for it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,217 ✭✭✭Matthewthebig


    Another problem imo is the price of condoms! They are still considered a luxory item in the eyes of the government. This is problem that I think should be addressed(sp?). if they were given out free or were at least cheaper, people would be more likely to carry them. In sex ed you should be given a free three pack to try out


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,367 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    It's funny actually. There's a youth café in Galway called The Gaf. My younger brother used to hang out there a lot and played a few gigs there. At one of the gigs, myself and my mother stayed around to listen to them play after I'd helped them set their gear up and on noticing a condom machine in the toilets (remember this is an under 18's only facility) my mother was shocked, whereas I was impressed with the common sense of having condoms available in a non-embaressing place for the kids to get them.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,217 ✭✭✭Matthewthebig


    Exactly. there is a sort of stigma getting condoms. ie my ex didn't like to go into the chemist and purchase them.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 25,848 ✭✭✭✭Zombrex


    I always though the arugment that condoms encourage sex, and therefore should not be show to kids, was rather silly .. yes condoms are not perfect, there is no such thing as safe sex, so kids shouldn't think I can have as much crazy sex as I like as long as I use a condom, but kids are having sex anyway and non-protected sex is a lot risker than sex with a condom.

    It smacks more of burying head in sand ... if they don't have condoms they won't have sex ... nonsense


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,811 ✭✭✭*Page*


    you can get free condoms from well woman and well man centers!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,217 ✭✭✭Matthewthebig


    Really? thats news to me. I think condoms do in a way encourage sex. but is it better to be enjoying yourself or being sexually frustrated and repressd


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,811 ✭✭✭*Page*


    sex isnt some that should be wrong! yes age limits are there for a very very good reason, but sex is a form of expression. now personaly i don't like the idea of radom sexual partners or one night stands every week/month ect,
    sex shouldn't be frowned apon it makes it wrong(which it isn't) and to younger people will do something for the risk of getting caught.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,217 ✭✭✭Matthewthebig


    The govenment have released a dvd for parents to help them talk about sex with their kids


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,461 ✭✭✭DrIndy


    Research has shown that teenagers who receive comprehensive sex education, lose their virginity later and also use contraception more fastidiously.

    Education protects you from ignorance. My personal experience in Ireland were diabolical, there was NO sex ed at all, my religion teacher used to even skip over the parts on marriage when we were doing that course!!!

    Luckily, I received something better when I went to secondary school in Scotland......


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 25,848 ✭✭✭✭Zombrex


    DrIndy wrote:
    Research has shown that teenagers who receive comprehensive sex education, lose their virginity later and also use contraception more fastidiously.

    Studies in the USA have shown that teenagers who were taught abstenance (sp?) tend to have sex later in life than those who weren't, but (and it is a big but) they were far far less likely to use protection when they did eventually have sex.

    So really all abstenance teaching does is delay the problem for a bit and then produce people who know nothing about safer sex.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,367 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    Is it not the same in anything in life? Ignorance (religeous or otherwise) is never the bliss it's sold as being...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Many many moons ago, more then I care to remember I was WRO in college.
    Part of that remit was to orgainse and run safe sex ed classes.
    It was ment to be a play safe talk and every single one that I ran turned into basic sex ed.
    A lot of the purely basic phyical stuff is not covered nevermind, contrception
    in it's many forms, respect and responiblilty.
    The number of girls that would come freaked out cos they got trashed and had unsafe sex and where worred about being pregant was unreal.
    Once they got the prenacy test over and done with they would asume the crissis was over and never stop to think that if they were at risk of pregnacy there were also at risk from hiv and sti.


    By 5th and 6t hclass most 'kids' know roughly about how male and female gentials slot together and that is how babies can happen. The program that is in primary schools (which I have read cos thats where my kids are now) I would consider to be over casutious. I know there are many arguements about not frightening or scaring kids or taking away thier innocences but at that stage it is their own bodies that are changing and they need to know why.

    By 2nd year in secondary school they should be dealing with the social aspect of sex. Peer pressure, saying no, personal standards, respect and trust.

    For more years then not 15 was the age at which people got married settled down and took on the roles and responsibilites of adults. It is only less then a 100 year from this and while now we give young people longer to develope this
    being pushed out even more so by the trend towards most young people attending 3rd level eduation , it is not a good reason to allow the ducking of personal responibiltes about thier own bodies.

    As long as 9 out of 10 school in the country are run by the church or on church lands ( you can not teach or preach anything which goes against church doctrine on church land) we wotn have the much needed
    posative reafirming health based sexuality programs that are much needed.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,745 ✭✭✭swiss


    I remember learning about male and female genitalia and sexual intercourse long before sex education in 6th class. Up to this point what I knew about sex I had learned from a rather motley mixture of biology books and encyclopedias. While I had a basic knowledge of the process I had no context into which I could put this knowledge, and most certainly nothing about contraception or STD's. In fact during part of my childhood I learned that AIDS was transmitted through bodily fluids, and in my ignorance I was terrified that I would contract the condition through such innocuous activities as kissing, or less innocuous activities such as oral sex!

    In secondary school, sexual education moved to a more thorough scientific analysis of the male and female reproductive system, again without a context for the situations in which sexual intercourse take place, with limited if any reference to contraceptive techniques (I think religion class covered those briefly in later years) and absolutely no education at any stage about alternate sexualities. The religious context of learning about contraception also meant that there was a certain ideology slant instead of a purely objective rigorous analysis of the benefits and drawbacks of various contraceptive measures. From my limited recollection I think that abstinence was the preferred contraceptive method.

    The deficit of information about contraception, homosexuality and bisexuality, sexually transmitted diseases and infections, and sexual techniques was once again met by extra-curricular learning on my part. The Internet was a very good source of information, although it was, and is hard to identify if such information is accurate and impartial. Whatever else I learned I learned through practical experience, or through whatever information my mates imparted - and we all know how unbiased and accurate that information can be!

    So in retrospect, the Irish educational system provided a good sexual education, if your definition of sexual education was educating children as to the physical properties and process of sex, gender and sexual intercourse. If that definition broadened in any way, it was sorely lacking.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7 ailbheol


    thanks for your posts, the situation is much as i expected. i got feck all sex ed beyond JC biology and talks about periods and puberty until i was in 4th year. our school (all girls and with a nun for a principal) organised to have aids west in to talk to us and we got the best sex education i think it is possible to receive. the woman who talked to us was really frank and up front about everything and so it wasn't awkward or embarrassing at all. also she was an outsider of the school so we didn't feel as weird talking to her about all that stuff as we would have with our own teachers. we covered everything from aids and hiv to condoms and contraceptives to what different common sexual terms meant (69er, threesome etc) and we were given time to write questions down on pieces of paper for her to answer in discussion. but it seems that most people weren't as fortunate as me. now for my next question, do you think that there is a direct link between media influence and teenage pregnancy? we're talking sex and the city, friends, teenage mothers on soaps like eastenders and corronation st, babies being used in advertising and sex being used to sell everything. thanks for your help!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,367 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    Ì'm sure a correlation would be easy to prove, however, whether the media has had a direct causal effect on teenage pregnancies I'd have my doubts. Remember, in Ireland at least, teenage pregnancies were very much swept under the carpet until relatively recently so any statistics on rising pregnancy rates are only going to be genuinely quantifiable from around the late 80's / early 90's.

    I have been quite vocal a number of times about how much women as a group are influenced by the media. Teenage girls are particularly vulnerable to it's effects. SATC, and magazines like more, Heat, OK, Now, Cosmopolitan etc all seem to have a detrimental effect on womens self esteem and low self esteem tends to lead to a pretty poor decision making process when it comes to matters of sex.

    [off-topic]Former student from the Hill on the Pill by any chance?[/off-topic]


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7 ailbheol


    Sleepy wrote:
    [off-topic]Former student from the Hill on the Pill by any chance?[/off-topic]

    I don't know what you mean by the Hill on the Pill, some secondary school i suppose. i live in galway but if that's a reference to Taylor's Hill i was in Salerno, their arch rival school. though i'm not denying that a few of our girls could have been on the pill. better on the pill than pregnant anyway :p we just had to choose a social issue to research for Sociology in my Social Studies PLC course and find an angle to take on it. i hypothesised that there could be a link between teenage pregnancy and irish culture and media influence, ie: tv, advertising, magazines, radio etc coupled with a teenage culture of drink, drugs, provocative music, clothing, dancing and underage and/or unprotected sex with virtual strangers, possibly due to a lack of sex education. as part of my research i thought it would be interesting to conduct an on-line survey of sorts to gather opinions.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 25,848 ✭✭✭✭Zombrex


    Sleepy wrote:
    Remember, in Ireland at least, teenage pregnancies were very much swept under the carpet until relatively recently so any statistics on rising pregnancy rates are only going to be genuinely quantifiable from around the late 80's / early 90's.

    Good point .. despite the views of your average Gerry Ryan listener, teenage pregnancies have actually been falling over the last 50 years in Ireland. You just see more teens with kids these days because it is more socially acceptable to be seen out with your kid, where as in the old days it would have been hidden away.

    Still, there is no reason why in this day and age kids should still be getting pregnent. Sex education has to step up to the plate and at least attempt to educate young people, other wise it will simply continue. Ignorance breeds more ignorance.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,367 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    Yep Ailbheol it's an old nickname for Taylor's. ;)

    Hope you're getting what you were looking for anyway :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 10,730 ✭✭✭✭simu


    Sleepy wrote:
    I have been quite vocal a number of times about how much women as a group are influenced by the media. Teenage girls are particularly vulnerable to it's effects. SATC, and magazines like more, Heat, OK, Now, Cosmopolitan etc all seem to have a detrimental effect on womens self esteem and low self esteem tends to lead to a pretty poor decision making process when it comes to matters of sex.

    Most of those magazines are so far-removed from the reality of teenage life in Ireland that they're seen as escapism or something to laugh at by most teenage girls in my experience. The women in SATC are 30-something freaks worrying about their biological clocks - why would a 15 year-old relate to such a thing? Sure, maybe some girls do try to emulate the lifestyles presented in such items but I don't think there is a greater amount of such girls than the amount of teenage boys who get suckered by FHM/whatever TV show is trendy at the moment etc.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,357 ✭✭✭snappieT


    Had very basic ed (surprising how much my teacher liked using the word "erect") that was crap. 2nd year led to further basics, and the changes undergone in boys during puberty. No more

    5th year was a slide over the basic STDs, that was all.

    The teacher in 2nd and 5th year was a religion teacher who was actually very cool about it, realised abstinence was not an option for most, but was still quite embarassed about the topic.

    In my opinion, EVERY school should have a mandatory sex-ed teacher that comes in once a week for that class. In 6th class, a spanish teacher came into the school for 2 45min classes per week. I think the same should happen for sex-ed classes.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 10,730 ✭✭✭✭simu


    In my opinion, EVERY school should have a mandatory sex-ed teacher that comes in once a week for that class. In 6th class, a spanish teacher came into the school for 2 45min classes per week. I think the same should happen for sex-ed classes.

    Jeebus! Imagine the sexual skillz the kids would have after that. Actually, that's a bit creepy!

    It's enough to cover it once or twice a year by having a seminar day and giving more detailed and relevant info out as the kids get older imo.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 16,659 ✭✭✭✭dahamsta


    seamus wrote:
    90% of a person's sexual education and sexual attitude should come from their parents IMO.
    Although I'd agree with you mostly, I'd imagine there are a hell of a lot of parents who can't or even shouldn't be teaching their kids about sex.

    adam


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 25,848 ✭✭✭✭Zombrex


    dahamsta wrote:
    Although I'd agree with you mostly, I'd imagine there are a hell of a lot of parents who can't or even shouldn't be teaching their kids about sex.

    adam

    Agreed

    It is irresponsible of society to leave something as important as sexual education up to parents. Fine, if parents really object they have a right to pull their kids out of sex ed class ("Ezekiel and Ishmael, in accordance with your parents wishes, you may go out into the hall and pray for our souls." :D ) just as they have the right to pull their kids out of any class. But to leave it up to, and assume that, parents are going to teach their kids about sex ed is stupid. You will get a whole load of kids who know nothing about sexual health.

    I don't expect my dad to teach me what he knows about Reformation, or my mom to teach me all she knows about 18th century english poets.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,689 ✭✭✭orangerooster


    The sex education we got was the woeful Religon book one all through secondary school, to make matters worse the teacher teaching it was an ex-nun. Contraception wasnt dealt with other than it being "against the ten commandments" pretty much all we were tought was this is a vagina this is a penis put them together and a child is born. Thank feck my parents have sense and filled me in before secondary school.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 16,659 ✭✭✭✭dahamsta


    Thank feck my parents have sense and filled me in before secondary school.
    So to speak.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 593 ✭✭✭Cathy


    swiss wrote:
    in my ignorance I was terrified that I would contract the condition through ... oral sex!

    And you were right...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,249 ✭✭✭omnicorp


    the teachers and government and students are ashamed to talk about sex in a serious manner with each other.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 312 ✭✭Eoghan-psych


    Really? thats news to me. I think condoms do in a way encourage sex. but is it better to be enjoying yourself or being sexually frustrated and repressd
    Absolutely - condoms encourage promiscuity in exactly the same way that giving people French lessons makes them foreign.

    Oh, wait...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 312 ✭✭Eoghan-psych


    simu wrote:
    Jeebus! Imagine the sexual skillz the kids would have after that. Actually, that's a bit creepy!

    It's enough to cover it once or twice a year by having a seminar day and giving more detailed and relevant info out as the kids get older imo.
    The continued prevalence - and indeed recent rise - of STDs says otherwise.

    How often are kids exposed to information about the dangers of smoking? A lot more than a couple of times a year.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 206 ✭✭elvenscout742


    Well, I'm only in Transition Year, so I haven't gone through the Irish education system ENTIRELY, but I find it appalling how Catholicism-oriented the whole RSE thing is. I mean, they might as well have said children born outside of a good, Catholic marriage were pathetic half-breeds or something :mad: .


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 786 ✭✭✭spudington16


    Well, I'm only in Transition Year, so I haven't gone through the Irish education system ENTIRELY, but I find it appalling how Catholicism-oriented the whole RSE thing is. I mean, they might as well have said children born outside of a good, Catholic marriage were pathetic half-breeds or something :mad: .[/QUOTE

    I've been through school with you from the beginning and therefore we've been through the same RSE together. What are you on about, child? You are just exaggerating completely what they tried to teach us, as you want ammo to fire in your personall vendetta against the Church.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,367 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    I've been through school with you from the beginning and therefore we've been through the same RSE together. What are you on about, child?
    How can you dismiss elvenscout742 as a child if you're in the same year in school together? :rolleyes:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 206 ✭✭elvenscout742


    And what he said (or what I got of it before I made a slight change to the old "Ignore" list ;) ) was factually inaccurate. He was not in my class in Sixth Class when we got the whole RSE thing.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 21 rightleftright


    Well, I'm only in Transition Year, so I haven't gone through the Irish education system ENTIRELY, but I find it appalling how Catholicism-oriented the whole RSE thing is. I mean, they might as well have said children born outside of a good, Catholic marriage were pathetic half-breeds or something

    We live in a Catholic counrty and your in a Catholic school so what do you expect? Dont you believe its right that a baby should be born into a married loving family? They are simply discouraging sex before marriage which is a good thing when you consider the amount of single mothers we see on our streets.


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  • Moderators, Arts Moderators, Regional Abroad Moderators Posts: 11,106 Mod ✭✭✭✭Fysh


    We live in a Catholic counrty and your in a Catholic school so what do you expect? Dont you believe its right that a baby should be born into a married loving family? They are simply discouraging sex before marriage which is a good thing when you consider the amount of single mothers we see on our streets.

    Well that's a seriously arguable point.

    First of all, the fact that we are a "catholic country" (ie majority of people on the last census gave their religion as catholic) does not mean that everyone's sex ed should revolve around specific religious values. I am firmly of the opinion that, regardless of religious backgrounds in schools, certain basic notions about safe sex should be taught. The school should offer a separate class in which those notions can be presented from a religious perspective, but why should they have the right to keep people ignorant in the name of religion?

    Secondly, having several friends who are single mothers and a sister who is technically a single mother (not married but has a long term partner, however legally that does not count), I find your broadsided dismissal of all single mothers fairly obnoxious to say the least. I wouldn't encourage someone to become a single mother without giving the idea a hell of a lot of consideration, but it's a decision they have to make. Not you. It is none of your business if they choose to have a child outside of a church-recognised marriage. Deal with it.

    Thirdly, we've yet to see conclusive long-term research about the effects on children of growing up in non-traditional family environments. Therefore, at this point going for the old "but won't someone please think of the children" line is a bit redundant. All we can do is guess - there's no evidence from co-ordinated studies that has reached any kind of firm conclusions on the matter.

    Discouraging sex before marriage is one thing, failing to provide adequate warnings and information regarding the dangers of unprotected sex is quite another. Given your attitude about single mothers, don't you think it would be useful to have people taught that, if they are going to have sex at all, they should at least be safe? Or is this where the good old "no contraception" rule kicks in, so that you can get all smug and judgemental about someone who *gasp* had sex out of wedlock and got pregnant?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 21 rightleftright


    First of all, the fact that we are a "catholic country" (ie majority of people on the last census gave their religion as catholic) does not mean that everyone's sex ed should revolve around specific religious values

    I believe it should. We are a catholic country, and if you cant accept that then get your head out of the sand.
    Thirdly, we've yet to see conclusive long-term research about the effects on children of growing up in non-traditional family environments. Therefore, at this point going for the old "but won't someone please think of the children" line is a bit redundant. All we can do is guess - there's no evidence from co-ordinated studies that has reached any kind of firm conclusions on the matter.

    Outragious. Everybody is aware of the troubles childern have who grow up in single-parent familys. Crime, under-performance in schools and lack of male/female role model are just some of the well know side-effects. Anybody that thinks otherwise is a fool. Some get through it fine but you cannot deny the negatives. But to suggest it is a posivive thing is outragious!


    How come in Ireland say 50 or 60 years ago there was so few single-mothers and we dint have the sluts we have today? Its beause the church had its rules, which some might say were strict, but at least they worked.


  • Moderators, Arts Moderators, Regional Abroad Moderators Posts: 11,106 Mod ✭✭✭✭Fysh


    I believe it should. We are a catholic country, and if you cant accept that then get your head out of the sand.

    Justify it to me. We're a democracy, but part of that means that you don't force religious beliefs on everyone (be they atheistic or related to a specific denomination). The fact that you don't approve of someone else's potential choice does not give you the right to deprive them of it. And until every single person in this nation is a practising catholic, you cannot force a religion or religious belief on everyone. Sorry, but them's the breaks. Democracy sucks sometimes, huh?
    Outragious. Everybody is aware of the troubles childern have who grow up in single-parent familys. Crime, under-performance in schools and lack of male/female role model are just some of the well know side-effects. Anybody that thinks otherwise is a fool. Some get through it fine but you cannot deny the negatives. But to suggest it is a posivive thing is outragious!

    Hey hey, there's a hell of a lot of fools out there. Particularly you, since your arguments seem to consist of twisting people's words out of all context. Where, in my previous post, did I say that single-parent families were a positive thing? What I said was: "it's a decision they have to make". I will refrain from passing judgement on the whole thing until some reliable research comes to light with conclusive findings about whether the results are good or bad. How do you know that the effects of being part of a single-parent family you've described apply to all situations, rather than just those where the family in question is at the lower end of the economic scale or living in an already crime-prone area? You're throwing generalisations at me and calling it an argument.

    As I said previously, there's no concrete evidence or research to back this up. Until then, everyone's talking opinion, and frankly policy decisions based on opinions rather than research are likely to cause more harm than good.
    How come in Ireland say 50 or 60 years ago there was so few single-mothers and we dint have the sluts we have today? Its beause the church had its rules, which some might say were strict, but at least they worked.

    Eh, no they didn't and no they don't. Quite aside from your hilarious rage at "sluts" (because, you know, a single woman getting pregnant can only mean she's a slut - never mind the necessary contribution from an equally sexually liberal young man) I think you'll find you're ignoring the number of women who made (and still make) the journey over to the UK to avail of their faintly less conservative policy on abortion.

    The church had and has its rules - but I think the dwindling numbers of people turning up to mass (regardless of whether people state on a census that they're catholic) show a growing attitude of disdain towards the church. The fact is, the church had power without responsibility; a situation that has no place in a democratic nation. The ongoing situation regarding clerical abuse being covered up (and before you accuse me of it; I'm not claiming every priest was at it or that the church was/is a vast organisation of paedophiles or anything - I'm just referring to the various instances in which the church has gone to various lengths to hide instances of sexual abuse by priests) should be enough evidence of that.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 206 ✭✭elvenscout742


    Fysh wrote:
    The church had and has its rules - but I think the dwindling numbers of people turning up to mass (regardless of whether people state on a census that they're catholic) show a growing attitude of disdain towards the church. The fact is, the church had power without responsibility; a situation that has no place in a democratic nation.

    Here, here!

    Great, ne?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 786 ✭✭✭spudington16


    Outragious. Everybody is aware of the troubles childern have who grow up in single-parent familys. Crime, under-performance in schools and lack of male/female role model are just some of the well know side-effects. Anybody that thinks otherwise is a fool. Some get through it fine but you cannot deny the negatives. But to suggest it is a posivive thing is outragious!

    Would you mind referencing the study that you sourced this information from? From the sound of it, and from your history of notorious bigoted posts on other threads, it would seem you are pulling random facts and statistics out of thin air to justify your medieval attitude to family groups.

    There are women who would personally want to raise their child on their own, e.g. if the father was not fit for his parental roles. You have no right to judge them. Nor have you the right to refer to the women of Ireland as "sluts". Get a grip on reality, man!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 25,848 ✭✭✭✭Zombrex


    How come in Ireland say 50 or 60 years ago there was so few single-mothers and we dint have the sluts we have today? Its beause the church had its rules, which some might say were strict, but at least they worked.

    THere were more children born to single mothers 60 years ago than there are today ... so your point is not only offensive it is totally wrong


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,440 ✭✭✭✭Piste


    On the topic of Sex Education: Sex Education in this country isn't nearly adequate imho. Fortunately mine wasn't bad but I'd say I'm in a minority. In fourth class we got taught the basic development of a fetus throughout pregnancy. In 5th class were were shown a video on puberty. In 6th class we had a woman from Accord come into us and teach us about puberty. In 1st year we had a lecture from a woman from Always (the pad people) about periods.

    In our SPHE course it was basically 'Drugs are bad mmk?' 'Peer pressure is bad mmk?' 'Smoking/alchohol are bad mmk?' We watched a video on the development of a fetus in the womb and saw the baby being born (I think the sight put half the girls off childbirth) Just about all our Sex Education so far had been biological/physical, but we had a woman from some organisation come in and talk to us about lads. She was really sweet and frank and all but it was really just about how to get on with them and stuff, nothnig really that useful. We don't get another talk till fourht year, and the another in 6th year. I really think there should be one every year imho.


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