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LegacyUser

ExBf was always flirting with other girls and now that we have broken up im finding out that he has other girls lined up for when we did break up i feel so useless

tinkerbell

Well, as hard as it is for you, you're just gonna have to put on a brave face and get back out there. If he was that kind of a guy anyway, you are better off without him.

I know it's difficult, but in due time, you'll feel better. Best of luck.

Zombrex

depressed wrote:

ExBf was always flirting with other girls and now that we have broken up im finding out that he has other girls lined up for when we did break up i feel so useless

Good riddens to him .. be glad you are out of it

Chinafoot

been there and i know its tough.

i went out with a guy for almost 2 years. loved him so much but knew it wasnt working. towards the end of the relationship i kept hearing the name if this girl he knew. as it turns out, the weekend or so after we split he went away with her for the weekend. he swears he never cheated on me but i have it on good authority that he was.......now hes engaged to her.

i know it hurts right now but you will get over it. it took me a long time as he was the first person i ever really loved, but you'll get there.

i'd recommend lots of nights out with the girls and remember that you can and will do better.

best of luck

LegacyUser

Yeah,Ill stick with my friends for now but its still hard and i seem to be taking it harder than him.

d22ontour

depressed wrote:

ExBf was always flirting with other girls and now that we have broken up im finding out that he has other girls lined up for when we did break up i feel so useless

This hardly states that he was unfaithful maybe he realised it was not working and was just keeping his options open

Chinafoot

d22ontour wrote:

This hardly states that he was unfaithful maybe he realised it was not working and was just keeping his options open

so are you saying that if you were going out with a girl and found out afterwards that while you had been together she had been "keeping her options open" and was basically lining up guys for when she dumped you.......you wouldnt see that as a betrayal?

he might not have cheated (although he may have... stranger things have happened) but she still feels betrayed and thats fair enough.

to the OP, like i said before....hang in there and try to keep the chin up. you will get over him and not all fellas are like that.

WhiteWashMan

depressed wrote:

ExBf was always flirting with other girls and now that we have broken up im finding out that he has other girls lined up for when we did break up i feel so useless

why does that make you feel useless?

are you annoyed because he was thinking ahead of time?
or is it because he was thinking of other women while he was with you?

or ar eyou feeling useless, less because of him and other women, but more because you wasted your time with someone who was never really committed to the relationship?

WhiteWashMan

by the way. ive just noticed that you have called this thread unfaithful, and yet you dont say it in your post.
was he unfaithful, or do you just feel like he was or something?

Sleepy

A lot of people are like this. Some of them are so afraid of being alone that they won't leave a relationship until they know there's another one lined up. Honestly, I've done it myself and while I'm not proud of it, it was the right thing to do at the time. I would've been like the guy in peachypants case. I had been with someone for a while, things weren't going well and someone else had expressed an interest. While nothing happened before I finally got it together to break up with my then girlfriend, I was with the other girl just over a week later. At the time I couldn't see anything wrong with it, though I now know how hurtful it was for the first girl. Luckily for me, she got over it and is one of my best friends now.

It's really just life. Try not to take it as a reflection on you, take it as a reflection on your relationship with your ex and remember that the two are very different things.

*adele*

whitewashman maybe she just wants to imply it!
You'll be alright after a while hunny,its hard at the start

D

I had a girl do that to me too. She was my first love, and looking back now I realise that I did really love her, and I propably always will in some way, but my hurt has gone away and I remember the good times. The pain will go away and I'm sure you'll find someone. Just don't do the same thing to the next guy you meet. I'm fine now and have had other relationships (single at the moment though ladies!).

WizZard

I think peachypants had it right, maybe betrayal would be a better title for this thread.

@ the op:
Don't let it get you down if you can, you'll bounce back after a while, better than ever!

Third_Echelon

depressed wrote:

ExBf was always flirting with other girls and now that we have broken up im finding out that he has other girls lined up for when we did break up i feel so useless

He sounds like a bit of d1ck in fairness. Put this one down to experience. Chin up. Move on.

Humblebee

Third_Echelon wrote:

He sounds like a bit of d1ck in fairness. Put this one down to experience. Chin up. Move on.

Gotta agree with 3rd Ech. Try yer best to forget about the ex. Don't be pissed at him; just be glad you didn't waste any more of yer time. There are better boys out there.

Slutmonkey57b

Typedef his sister!

He'll kick himself for splitting up with a bisexual.

WhiteWashMan

so we have one sentence, and a mis-title, and we all think the guys a d1ck eh?

hope none of you are jurors on my case....

logic1

Don't worry about him girlfriend! Go on with your bad self and get back on the horse of life.

I for instance am already saddled if you fancy a ride.

.logic.

Beruthiel

go pimp your ride somewhere else logic

WhiteWashMan

Beruthiel wrote:

go pimp your ride somewhere else logic

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ROFL

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*Page*

it's going to hurt alot and your best bet may not be getting your leg over to get over.
men have a different way of showing emotions. you will seem to be taking it alot harder but just look at how insucure he was. he's hooked up with the first person to put out. this insucurity is how badly he's taken the break up.

forget about the nice things he's said to you,and forget him your better and he's not worth your tears...

LegacyUser

Its the fact that he got over me so quick that bothers me

CathyMoran

To the OP - there is no point in thinking if he was with her before you broke up. I have been there, it can eat you up inside but it does not help. There is always going to be a grieving process involved but this was not the right relationship for you. Although it is hard take some time before you start dating again.

Seed

Wicknight wrote:

Good riddens to him .. be glad you are out of it

That's all that needs to be said.

But just to be sure..=P If someone purposely makes you feel this way then (I know it's hard but) try to turn a positive light on it. At least you didn't get married and years down the line realise that you've committed your life to scum.

I feel for you and obviously you shouldn't be glad it's happened. But be glad in the fact that you see him for what he really is now instead of in several years time.

*adele*

yeah that is all to be said
hes not worth it
hes a shít