What's her name?

LegacyUser

First off, I'm a 17 year old male in a Drama group.

A girl in the group and I have been flirting for a while now (we only see each other 2 hours a week) She's fairly new, I've been in the group for ages.

Here's the problem: I have no idea what her name is. If I ask somebody else, I'm afraid they'll tell her I don't know, and since she's new, I don't even know who to ask. It's certainly too late to ask her directly.

So do any boardsies have any suggestions as how to fix this small mess?

(As a friend pointed out to me, yes it would be funny if we were in bed and she shouted "Say my name")

HELP!

tinkerbell

Eh, just ask someone in the group what her name is. It ain't that big of a deal. She's new, you don't know her name, so obviously ask someone else then.

Ro: maaan!

Seinfeld tbh. This can only end badly.

gubby

say " hi , ur new, whats ur name"

what does tbh mean?

Stench Blossoms

ask her to stick her number in your phone and you'll know her name& number then

*adele*

to be honest
oooh asked her what her full name is(last/middle and all)

Creamy Goodness

gubby wrote:

what does tbh mean?

to be honest

Victor

Caveat-Cake wrote:

First off, I'm a 17 year old male in a Drama group.

Ask the group leader / teacher.

Or go with the "Whats your full name?" or

"Can I have your phone number? ..... Eh, whats your full name?" or

"How do you spell you name?" (not great when her name is "Mary")

StupidLikeAFox

just ask her whats her name, make a joke out of it, its not a big deal, seriously

Standard Toaster

Ah, to be 17 again.
Why is it "too late to ask her directly."?

Just ask her man. She might just tell you.

CathyMoran

Ask her what her name is...I am always really bad on names, I was friends with someone for 7 months before I knew their name - having to ask them then was embarrasing but we are still friends 7 years later

Piste

It isn't IYT by any chance? (the drama group, not the name) If so I may be able to help you. I always have trouble with names too, just go up to her and ask her her full name or try to incorperate middle/confirmation names into a conversation and ask her hers, then ask her her full name.

cormie

Just say to her "Do you even know my name" some day and see what she says and then it can be a little joke.

Shabadu

Introduce her to someone by saying 'this is *fill in name*...' if you leave a slight silence she'll say 'oh nice to meet you my name is...'

Thats what I do anyway.

Cianan2

This happened to me in music class. I still dont know everybodys name,nor do they know mine.....but ive become friendly with a few people who i wander around town with after etc.

Well,my point to make is,the same thing happens to us all the time-we see someone from class in HMV or something(later in the day),chat for a while and when they're gone,we ponder on their names. Usually somebody knows it!!

So,ask someone you are friendly with if they remember,or else wait til the teacher asks something of her.

pickarooney

Just get her to act out a role and call her by that name forever.

LegacyUser

Thanks for all the suggestions.

Here's a response to each of the suggestions:

Eh, just ask someone in the group what her name is. It ain't that big of a deal. She's new, you don't know her name, so obviously ask someone else then.

She's not that new. Nobody else seems to know her, and I'm one of the few people who talk to her, so I'm kinda screwed.

say " hi , ur new, whats ur name"

Once again, she's not that new. Suitable question for a first or maybe second conversation. This would easily be our 20th

ask her to stick her number in your phone and you'll know her name& number then

I thought about that, but what if she only puts her number in, not her name? Or if she puts a nickname in like "Sexy" I already have 4 "Sexy"s in my phone! It happens

oooh asked her what her full name is(last/middle and all)

Considering this, but it could backfire also.

Ask the group leader / teacher.

Or go with the "Whats your full name?" or

"Can I have your phone number? ..... Eh, whats your full name?" or

"How do you spell you name?" (not great when her name is "Mary")

I'm actually good friends with the group leader - sorta gone crazy no trousers at a party kinda crazy (he's a guy BTW) - so he'd just slag me off. I'd never live it down. It also involves me pointing at her.
The how do you spell your name is sort of risky.

It isn't IYT by any chance? (the drama group, not the name) If so I may be able to help you. I always have trouble with names too, just go up to her and ask her her full name or try to incorperate middle/confirmation names into a conversation and ask her hers, then ask her her full name.

It's ITT / FACT if that makes any difference. Do you know / are a member of the group?

Introduce her to someone by saying 'this is *fill in name*...' if you leave a slight silence she'll say 'oh nice to meet you my name is...'

Thats what I do anyway.

Nice idea. Problem is that the relationship between everyone in the group is sort of I kinda know you. I can't really introduce somebody who already kinda knows her.


Thanks for all the suggestions. I promise I will get back with how it went. Keep em coming.

Also, our next show is this weekend, so once new dance routines are learned off, I may hear the Dance Coach say <<HER NAME>>, go here.

Thanks again

Esel

You: By the way, we haven't been introduced - I'm 'Caveat-Cake'.

She: I'm ..... 'not interested'.


Introduce yourself ffs!

tinkerbell

Will you just go and ask the group leader what her name is. So what if he makes fun of you - if you want to know her name then ask him, or else just ask her for her full name. Do it already!

WhiteWashMan

perhaps you could ask one of your mates, to ask one of her mates, to ask her, if she wants to meet you behind the bike sheds for some hot name swapping action?

Shabadu

Show her this thread, if she laughs, yer well in. If not, look for another drama group as you'll be branded a stalker. Still, live dangerously you're only 17!

Bottle_of_Smoke

get a piece of paper, sign it, pass to her and say it's an attendance sheet . . ."new drama club regulations"

I still don't know my physics lab partners name and we've been working together since september. Dreading the day I have to introduce her to someone.

Rossonero

I bet she wears a badge with her name on it

It's worse when people tell you their name and you forget, and your too embarrased to ask again.

pickarooney

Pretend it's someone's birthday and pass a card around for everyone to sign?

The Corinthian

"So, what do they call you back home?"

"Err... Mary..."

"Sorry, I meant a nickname or pet name..."

Alternatively, get her mobile number, dial into her voice mail and see if she mentions her name in the voicemail introduction message.

*adele*

oooh you could pretend that youve never met her and say "why hello there im <insert name>" in a cheesy accent,if she laughs youre in

Spalk0

Just ask someone else in the group!They are not gonna go to her and tell really as it doesnt sound like something even worth throwing into a conversation!

Im terrible with names and i allways do this, even after ive been told the name a few times!

Velvet Vocals

I think you'll find that honesty is sexy in these kind of situations... if you're talking or "flirting" with her at the next class just say "listen I'm sorry but what's your name again?" and be cool about it, tell her that you're bad with names, coz you obviously are. If she's been flirting back with you up to now she obviously likes you and shouldn't get hung up on the fact that you didn't know her name. Then you'll know her name, she'll know your name and you both can live happily ever after

Gilgamesh

Caveat-Cake wrote:

(As a friend pointed out to me, yes it would be funny if we were in bed and she shouted "Say my name")

HELP!

now, ........
if this shoul dhappen, going from the fact you only see her 2 hours a week........ I think B**ch would be the best name :cool:

Sorry Mods, couldn't resist.

but would go with the asking part.
or say, 'sorry i didn't catch your name'

simu

You didn't get it the first time - you'll never get it. Mwuhahahahaha

But seriously, you don't actually need a name unless you want to go google her or something. Me, I barely ever call a preson by their name. Even if you're trying to attract their attention, a good "hey" will do the job.

cajun_tiger

people forget names all the time just say sorry and ask her what her name is

when she tells you write it down so you dont forget again

Shrimp

Hm.. This is a really hard one.. ok, so have I got it right?

You dont know her name, and you want to know it..

Just ask her for **** sake.. I would..

Gilgamesh

Shrimp wrote:

Hm.. This is a really hard one.. ok, so have I got it right?

You dont know her name, and you want to know it..

Just ask her for **** sake.. I would..

maybe he's shy and doesn't dare to ask, you never know.

Shrimp

How can you be shy about that? Like WTF?

blah

What if you use one of the more sinister methods suggested, such a getting her number and dialling into her voicemail to hear her "Hi this is Mary, leave a message" message, and then next week you say, "Hi Mary" and then she gives you a strange look and says, "How do you know my name, I never told you", and she avoids you forever!
Definitely this is a Seinfeld moment, where things are just left to fester and could have been solved with a few simple words but instead it all gets out of hand.
Try those three words every girl wants to hear:
"What's your name?"

Or maybe you could just leave it, never ask her name and never get to go out with her, then one day she introduces you to a guy: "This is John, my new boyfriend. John, this is... sorry, what's you name?"

Shrimp

Search through her purse for id... simple man

Tar.Aldarion

lolo this is funny!
if you can get the courage to ask her number ask her name omg.....
i know some1 for like a few months and didnt know her name but so what...i just said 'so what's your name' when there was a break in conversation one day-drunken conversation.guess what! it was helen!.she told me and said-get this-dont worry about forgetting.
its actually become a little joke we have and has spread around our whole apartment block.

Gone West

her name is ciara

shrimp: root around her purse? She'd kill you if you did

fade2black

For next time....ask her how she spells her name (and hope her name is not Mary)

Victor

blah wrote:

What if you use one of the more sinister methods suggested, such a getting her number and dialling into her voicemail to hear her "Hi this is Mary, leave a message" message, and then next week you say, "Hi Mary" and then she gives you a strange look and says, "How do you know my name, I never told you", and she avoids you forever!

Why would she think this if she has just given him her number?

Original poster / other people worried about situations like this - try practicing on other people (ones that you don't fancy). Then even if things go wrong, it doesn't matter.

Another route

A: Whats you name?
B: Mary!
A: Duh! Your surname?
B: Oh, MAry Murphy.

LegacyUser

For ****s sake just ask the girl her ****ing name. You are not going to be in the sack with her that quick unless she is a slapper.

LegacyUser

FuzzyLogic wrote:

her name is ciara

shrimp: root around her purse? She'd kill you if you did

How did you know her name was Ciara? Are you one of my mates or in the group or something?


I finally figured out a way. Our drama show was on this weekend, so I grabbed a copy of the program, and asked if they spelt her name right. She said yes, I said where, and tada, her name is Ciara.

Thanks for all the suggestions anyway - certainly was an enjoyable read!

Gone West

yeah. caveat cake i was going to tell you sooner, but this is way fun. ciara doesnt "dig" guys if you know what I mean. Sorry.

ChRoMe

How on earth did this thread make it past 2 replies.

I'm waiting for the "I cant tie my shoelaces can anyone help" thread.

Tar.Aldarion

get the shoes with the velcro closey thingies like any sane person that can't tie their shoelaces by now!

LegacyUser

FuzzyLogic wrote:

yeah. caveat cake i was going to tell you sooner, but this is way fun. ciara doesnt "dig" guys if you know what I mean. Sorry.

I'm still confused, and you didn't answer my original question.
I also know for a fact that she "digs" guys

Gordon

Chrome* and Tar. keep it on topic, it's just getting interesting.


*how long is your next ban - 6 months?

passive

*puts popcorn in the microwave and pulls up a chair* hmm...so is fuzzylogic bluffing or does he know her. ex lover, disgruntled theatre lighting specialist. who knows?

Gone West

caveat: mabye thats what shes terlling you......

LegacyUser

FuzzyLogic wrote:

caveat: mabye thats what shes terlling you......

Why don't you just answer my question. Do you or do you not know her?

Also, I know for a definate fact that she is not lesbian. At worst she is bi, because I've now met her boyfriend (I know, I thought she was flirting too)