Worried; My unsuccessfulness might cost me a friend?

Rossonero

I'm a 1st year student. I met this girl a few months ago at work, and we have become really close friends, with signs of becoming more.
She's fairly older than I and is doing her masters and is also working at a full-time job.

I'm worried because I don't think I'm going to pass my exams, I've messed up in 2 subjects. I won't be able to afford to repeat.
I'm worried that my circumstances will extinguish the closeness my friend and I have.
She will be working, and won't want to wait at least 4 years for me, only being able to meet a couple of times a month, me not being able to bring her out to expensive restaurants, not being able to drive her around instead of vice versa.
We promised that we would travel together loads of times. I think I made promises to her I can't keep, or can't afford to carry out for some years.
I feel if i don't pass exams and get a job without 3rd level education I wouldn't be able to give her much.
I am feeling that I would be letting her down, as well as myself if I don't achieve. i remember her saying "It's great to socialise with people who have similar ambitions to you."
Ambition is one thing. Acclaimation (?) is another.

WhiteWashMan

being in a realtionship is not about making 39 promises to do x,y and z at the start of a relationship.

its about developing with someone and the goals constantly change. situations and sircumstances constantly change. if both of you cannot change with those cisrcumstances, then inevitably, there will be some decisions to be made, and not often nice ones. if you can communicate honestly and openly and talk to each other about your fears, such as this, and you are both willing to do whatever it takes, then you will last.
if youa re open and honest, and she feels she cant live with you as a student, then thats her decision, and you must acccept it and move on.

but you are in first year in college. you got a few more years, and you may find that actually, you have changed to the point where she is no longer attracitve, or interesting to you, and someone else may be. you will grow as a person, and not necessarly inthe same direction as her.

there is no silver bullet to 'fix' these sorts of problems. there is only communication, and time. and only one of them comes naturally.

sprinkles

I had a similar thing with my last gf and it killed the relationship in a way because she let it go to her head. Don't worry abour how your college life will impact your relationship. If your serious about going to college then that has to be a priority. College is a chance that not many people get in this life (poorer countries or just look at your parents generation). If she is serious about you she shouldn't have a problem.

I assume your still quite young and in my opinion you the thought of a serious gf should be the furthest thing from your mind. College is you chance at obvious academic sucess but also at letting loose and joining the ranks of adults by doing all the things that you won't be able to do once you have a full time job/gf.

I was with someone for 2 years of my college years and I'm glad I was but I till harbour regrets that I missed out on certain adult making excursions etc.

Anyway my advise is to stick with college and if your relationship fits into that mould then fine but if not there will always be next years freshers ball