wat did i do

daddy's girl

hi this is my first time here. okay, i called a supposed friend of mine well this friend is my ex boyfriend. anyway, we had a depute last year dec 28 and quietly decided to keep our distances by not talking. well i sent a happy birthday text to him in january which was his birthday, couldn't call. before that i travelled out the country, i'm still out the country. i didn't tell much people cos it was last minute arrangments. i called him recently at work to say hi how you doing and i got a cold brush off the phone and i quote, "hi i'm sorry but i'm kind of doing something now, thanks for calling, bye, click!" wat did i miss sometell me

*adele*

do you usually talk on the phone since the dispute?

neuro-praxis

You decided to keep your distance from one another by not talking. He appears to be sticking to your agreement.

Are you really surprised?

I'm sorry you're hurt but we reap what we sow!

Zulu

"we had a depute last year dec 28 and quietly decided to keep our distances by not talking", you had a dispute, he's still pissed; he hasn't forgiven you.

snorlax

do you still fancy/like this ex boyfriend? it sounds like you still like him. im not sure its reciprocal.

i dont really have enough info on what happened in your dispute/fight and why you aggreed not talk to each other so i dont think i can make much of an comment.

but from what you said the only thing you really can do is leave It(yov clearly tried to bring this man back into your life and its not really in your hands anymore. he knows how you feel and if he feels the same about you/ wants you back he will call/contact you somehow. the only thing you can do is wait, stop contacting him and see what happens. and do something to take your mind off the matter in the meantime so your not thinking about it and aren't as liable to text him again.

Doodee

Depending on the circumstances of the break up i'd say he could well be keeping his distance, its more than likely a self defence mechanism, as you left the country he may have seen this as an indication that you have moved on and now that your trying to contact him he may just well be suspicious. You can't just expect people to feel the same way you do especially after conflict/break up.

As was said above your best to give him his space, and in a couple of months, if he hasn't contacted you you could always try again, but always let sleeping dogs lie.

daddy's girl

okay mayb i didnt giv details on y we stopped talkin. there wsnt a fight per say, there ws a little problem that showed just after xmas b4 the new year, and we solved it the best way we knew how. after that things just became cold, wen called i didnt fell like talkin and vice versa. we still spoke three days after new year, i called to find out wen i could have my PC back cos it borrowed it.
and i do like him though he thinks i can't stand his guts.

tk123

?! Maybe he was actually busy in work!? Just ring him back!!

[Jackass]

He's over you, and he's moved on.........

Might not be what you want to hear, but unless you accept it you wont be able to do the same....

Zulu

daddy's girl wrote:

i do like him though he thinks i can't stand his guts.

Well, if he thinks you can't stand him, there's a very high chance he can't stand you. Time to get over it.


....now, over to after hours to start another thread about how much posts with no punctation and crappy spelling really p1ss me off....

bombidol

A lot of blokes wil just move on once theres any kind of trouble. you brought it on yourselves. Hes obviously not interested anymore. Best to move on yourself.

Boggle

Dont ring him in work! I hate talking to people on the phone in work.... too many ears!

Sleepy

I'd second what Boggle said. I hate taking personal calls in work, even if they're from people I care a lot about.

MojoMaker

So daddy's girl, you guys dealt with it presumably with the morning after pill, which maybe you handled really badly, maybe you didn't. In any case whatever way you both handled it was not at all to his satisfaction - maybe he wasn't consulted, maybe you made him pay, maybe there was serious histrionics around the whole subject, we don't know - talk to him about it and settle this between yourselves. Pretend to be adults for an hour, regardless of how old you actually are, and actually have a proper conversation about why it happened and how you dealt with it. You might be surprised.

Zulu

MojoMaker wrote:

So daddy's girl, you guys dealt with it presumably with the morning after pill, which maybe you handled really badly, maybe you didn't. In any case whatever way you both handled it was not at all to his satisfaction - maybe he wasn't consulted, maybe you made him pay, maybe there was serious histrionics around the whole subject, we don't know - talk to him about it and settle this between yourselves. Pretend to be adults for an hour, regardless of how old you actually are, and actually have a proper conversation about why it happened and how you dealt with it. You might be surprised.

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neuro-praxis

You know, MojoMaker, you don't use the morning after pill when you are pregnant...you use it when you've had unprotected sex. You make it sound like she's had an abortion (and maybe she did, who knows?) but you know - you can't have an abortion by taking one pill the day after the sex.

I just thought I'd let you know. For your own benefit.

GuanYin

neuro-praxis wrote:

You know, MojoMaker, you don't use the morning after pill when you are pregnant...you use it when you've had unprotected sex. You make it sound like she's had an abortion (and maybe she did, who knows?) but you know - you can't have an abortion by taking one pill the day after the sex.

I just thought I'd let you know. For your own benefit.

I didn't get that at all from his post. It does like that you are putting words in his mouth to take a preachy I know it all stance though.

Why not be constructive stay on topic and stop talking down to people.

I just thought I'd let you know. For your own benefit.

neuro-praxis

I'm putting words in *his* mouth? I can't be bothered getting into this. :rolleyes:

Mojomaker clearly put words in daddy's girl's mouth.

And you've got such a bee in your bonnet about I really don't know what Syke!

GuanYin

neuro-praxis wrote:

I'm putting words in *his* mouth? I can't be bothered getting into this. :rolleyes:

Mojomaker clearly put words in daddy's girl's mouth.

And you've got such a bee in your bonnet about I really don't know what Syke!

He said presumably the pill and you rant on about abortion.

I have no bee or bonnet, just think you should get over yourself or stay contribution to th eposter rather than talking down and showing people how great you think you are (which we all already know I'm sure).

Gordon

Syke neuro-praxis is justified in her mehods in my mind, if tone is an issue then I believe that you are taking a bitter tone. She is however wrong in her assumption that pregnancy was involved by MojoMakers extreme jump to conclusions of morning after pills.

Therefore all facts concerning pregnancy and pills are to be disqualified and any such conversations deemed as off-topic.*

Please stay on topic and to the facts given.


*until facts prove otherwise

MojoMaker

Even money all the same...

Thanks np, I did know the difference, but the gravity of the matter divulged (or not divulged as the case may be) did not suggest pregnancy, however a matter related to this did seem at least possible, if not likely.

neuro-praxis

Glad I didn't offend you, MM.

WhiteWashMan

so something happened, you both stopped talking, you left the country and in the past past month, you have texted him once to say happy birthday.

is that about right?

and when you called him, you got the impression that he didnt like you?
how long do you think he should wait until he no longer wants to talk to you?
do you feel he should still talk to you?