How hard is it to find a good partner~?

hannable80

I have been in a long term relationship and i know the difficulties of it, but im finding it really hard to find the right woman, i always end up chatting to the most brain dead ladies,they might be goodlooking but once they are brain dead it does nothing for me at all...Pubs can be good for the scoring but i always seem to have a couple of tumble weed moments, where i would just look at the lady and she would look at me expecting me to say something, why can't women make the effort in random chit chat?
Give me ur opions !"!!!""£$"££

AngryBadger

because they're women, and they expect men to make the effort, in spite of any protestations to the contrary

WhiteWashMan

why do you feel it necessary to fill every silence with chit-chat?

or maybe you are afriad that the chicks are sitting there thinking you are 'brain dead'

there are many people out there, and i think its a bit unfair of you to dismiss the majority of women just because you cant seem to find the one you want.
i mean, are you after some sort of deep philosophical disucssion straight after youve walked up to her and said hi? or do you get her name first?

seriously, at what point do you decide the women are brain dead and not worthy of your attention?

i think there looks like only one constant factor inthe qhole equation, and thats you. you sound like some pretentious student who is just fed up with the whole one night stand thing, man, and just wants to meet someone that, you know, you can have a dialog with, man.

but mostly, i think you are afraid of women and try to deflect your inability to communicate with them by turning it around and saying that none of them are good enough for you.
dont worry, its a common teenage biy thing. youll grow out of it once you figure out that deep conversation is over-rated, and good blow job wins hands down every time.

hannable80

AngryBadger wrote:

because they're women, and they expect men to make the effort, in spite of any protestations to the contrary

yeah too lilttle and a person might seem un interested and too much and u come across as deperate .In my opion there is way too much of a fine line between these

WhiteWashMan

AngryBadger wrote:

because they're women, and they expect men to make the effort, in spite of any protestations to the contrary

why shouldnt you make an effort?

i mean, the only reason you dress up nice and go out is so that you hope to meet someone who is going to let you fúck them.

littlejay

although im married . notice i never said happily married , kidding .
all the girls i dated they all had a great individual quality bout them.
but more than a few times not saying im perfect ....
when they get in a row with ya. god they can be very spitefull and i ended the relationship. i tink you jut got to treat women now as a friend. like you would a guy. that was the difference with my wife of now..
we do things with other people and block out a lot of our home problems. for example going bowling . we play on different teams .and give a bit of banter just like i would a mate .. works for me. just a tip. hope somone will make use of it.

AngryBadger

WhiteWashMan wrote:

why shouldnt you make an effort?

Hey,when you look this good....

WhiteWashMan wrote:

i mean, the only reason you dress up nice and go out is so that you hope to meet someone who is going to let you fúck them.

Seriously though, what?

WhiteWashMan

AngryBadger wrote:

Hey,when you look this good....

Seriously though, what?

and this is why you dont get laid.....

AngryBadger

WhiteWashMan wrote:

and this is why you dont get laid.....

That must be it, thanks for opening my eyes danger mous, you've helped me become a better person, here's some cheese

azezil

Having gone on many... many... MANY dates! I'd just like to point out that just because the other person falls silent does not necessarily mean they're uninterested or 'brian dead', quite the contrary, I find I have my best conversations with people I've no interest in and when actually quite taken by an individual, get all shy and second guess everything I'm about to say thus say very little. (unless drinking).

Plus I enjoy listening, so if the individual wishes to talk at lenght, I let them do so.

hannable80

Lonely hearts club is what we should set up we would make a fortune. Although i dont know what the ratio of men to women on boards are?!!

AngryBadger

hannable80 wrote:

Lonely hearts club is what we should set up we would make a fortune. Although i dont know what the ratio of men to women on boards are?!!

eh...no, I don't think we'll be doing that.

CathyMoran

Personally speaking, when I am nervous around someone I tend to talk too fast, so they do not see the real me until I get used to them. That is why I prefer to date friends. Have never just met someone in a nighclub/bar - I need to know that I will be able to hold a reasonable conversation with them. When I was doing college full time I used to be involved in the college societies and help man the stands during Freshers week, I did meet a couple of people through that, but they were becoming friends at the stage that I started to date them.

[Jackass]

That's just life man...you can either sit down and complain about it, or just get on living it...either way, nothings going to change.

calis

if u cant find a partner use a wooden chair.

sage words from the wise. circa 1962.

irlirishkev

calis wrote:

if u cant find a partner use a wooden chair.

sage words from the wise. circa 1962.

1957.. But well quoted

idontknowmyname

dont try so hard.....i met my sexy b/f when i wasn't expecting it, went out on a session with a few guys i know....there was a guy i'd never met before, got talkin to him and that was that.

Try getting your mates to bring their mates out and u never know who'll turn up

Gossip_girl

idontknowmyname wrote:

dont try so hard.....i met my sexy b/f when i wasn't expecting it, went out on a session with a few guys i know....there was a guy i'd never met before, got talkin to him and that was that.

Try getting your mates to bring their mates out and u never know who'll turn up

That's good advise right there.

Peteee

Thats crap advise, great advice though