slightly embarrassing

elle

Ok i feel kinda thick having to come to a forum to look for advice or whatever on this but my head's a bit wrecked over it and I just don't feel comfortable talking to anyone I know about it. Basically I started seeing this guy, we get on great, are totally compatible, but . . .we slept together for the first time the other night and I dunno what the hell happened. I mean I was totally relaxed, really up for it, this guy worked his ass off pressed all the right buttons, but every time he tried to enter me I just totally siezed up. He's a big enough guy but that shouldn't make a difference.He's not my first, it's never happened before. Anyway now i'm really paranoid about it. He was cool, I was pissed off/embarrassed at the fact that it was crap sex and was mostly down to me. I even suggested downing a few shots of whiskey to 'relax' a bit more. Anyway I dunno what I'm looking for here, suppose advice or something, what would you do if you were me. . .Really like this guy, pretty sure he feels the same, wanna make a go of it.

Victor

It happens everyone now and again, the more you think about it the more likely it's going to happen.

$lash

Its only an issue if you make it one ... If this dude is all that you say he is then he will be fine about it - If he isn't then it's a shortcut to finding out he is an a$$hole...

ionapaul

This happened to an ex of mine before - I think it is sometimes (but not always) a mental thing. Sounds like it in your case as you could do it fine before.

Being drunk won't help as much as copious amounts of lube. Get the kind that gives a warm sensation when used, rather than the usual freezing stuff!

It really is a common problem and no big deal so don't dare worry about it!

Lex_Diamonds

Logic's nice really. He may seem a little intimidating but if you just relax he will take it from there.

elle

thanks a mil...feel a lot less stupid about the whole situation now!

logic1

Lex_Diamonds wrote:

Logic's nice really. He may seem a little intimidating but if you just relax he will take it from there.

That's a slippery pole you're greasing up Lex. Speaking of which...

.logic.

cajun_tiger

your body mightn't have been ready for it. there have been night that i've been in the mood and want to have fun but it just doesn't happen. also i woundn't advise lube*, when your body is ready and happy with the situation there should be no need for extra stuff.




* ppl on here seem to think that lube solves all sexual problems

Shrimp

yeah cajun.. I remeber seening quite alot of refrences to Lube?

logic1

cajun_tiger wrote:

* ppl on here seem to think that lube solves all sexual problems

Well I once dribbled when I wished I had shot and lube solved it all.

.logic.

cajun_tiger

i'm not saying lube doesn't work it does its very good and fun... but somethings need a bit more than lube and brute force.. softly softly maybe.

ionapaul

I know a girl that no amount of 'softly softly' will work - that is the physical reality of the situation. Maybe it isn't the solution in this particular case. Though I'm willing to bet that lube will work a darn sight faster than a swig or two of whiskey!

RossFixxxed

I have a terrible head cold. USE LUBE!
I have AIDS!!! Just rub some lube there on it.
I have cancer. Just a bit of lube, make sure it's warm.

ross

Beruthiel

ross
please read the charter with regards to unwelcome comments such as yours
B

The Corinthian

elle wrote:

I mean I was totally relaxed, really up for it, this guy worked his ass off pressed all the right buttons, but every time he tried to enter me I just totally siezed up. He's a big enough guy but that shouldn't make a difference.He's not my first, it's never happened before. Anyway now i'm really paranoid about it. He was cool, I was pissed off/embarrassed at the fact that it was crap sex and was mostly down to me.

I wouldn’t worry about it. Everyone, regardless of gender, will have the odd ‘off night’. Next time will be fine, no doubt. So forget about it unless it becomes a regular occurrence - if that happens you may want to consider other options, including seeing a gynaecologist about it - otherwise your sex life is probably going to involve sucking a lot of cock.

LanceStorm

Sounds like the female version of 'the mental cock block', you want to do it, but nothings happening down below, you freak out, then cant stop thinking bout it and then your screwed!!

Boggle

My girlfriend went though this when we first started going out 4 months ago. She felt fine but just as we were about to have sex she tensed up and basically there was no way we could.
Dont make a big deal of it and once yer comfortable with the bloke it'll just happen. When it goes it's gone so don't worry about having to worry about this every time you want to have sex...