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Advice Needed

  • 02-02-2005 9:21am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok, I've been seeing this girl for about 3 months now. Its the first serious relationship I've been in in about a year.

    About a year ago, I finished a very serious relationship, and ever since then, I've stayed clear of *heavy* relationships and have had a few fun-only girlfriends.

    The problem is, with this new girlfriend, everytime she doesn't text/ring, I get nervous, wondering if I've done something wrong, or if I've pissed her off or something. I've come to realise its a self-esteem thing. I mean I know she likes me very much, and I know this sort of thing shouldnt bother me, but it does? It gets to the point that I almost avoid being in serious relationships so as to avoid feeling like that...<I know Im sounding like a freak :D)

    So I was just wondering if anyone had any experience of this or any ideas how to boost one's self esteem, so this isn't an issue?

    Cheers!


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  • #2
    tSubh Dearg
    Hosted Moderators Posts: 5,555 ✭✭✭tSubh Dearg


    I know how you feel. I used to be like that. My last relationship was a bit mad and I got totally paranoid as my bf at the time was quite a detatched person and was really just using me, which I didn't realise till afterwards, and never really loved me.

    When I started my current relationship I was always worrying when I didn't hear from my bf, thinking that maybe he'd gone off me or something like the previous one had. However, I finally got it into my thick skull that he was with me because he adored me and liked being with me not because it was convenient (a la my ex).

    Seriously if she's with you, then it's because she likes you and wants to be with you. Don't worry if she doesn't text and call you, try and be cool about it, sometimes she's going to be too busy to reply or may not have credit. Try not to pester her with calls and texts as that will just put her off you.

    Let me just reiterate again: SHE'S WITH YOU BECAUSE SHE WANTS TO BE WITH YOU! Repeat mantra like until you believe it, that's what I did.

    Good Luck and remember your mantra! :)


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