Does anbody else hate going on holidays?

dewsbury

Serious question. I don't like travelling and never have. I often end up going on holidays to different places (mainly to please my wife!). However, I find myself counting the days until holiday is over.

It does not matter where I go or with whom, I find the whole holiday thing tedious.
Anybody similar around?

dewsbury

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davros

I find the idea of travelling very offputting. I love it when I'm there and I know that I will feel like that when I get there, but there is a significant hurdle to overcome to get me to plan a trip.

It comes from having spent too many years "on the road". I really enjoy the feeling of staying in one place now. Packing a bag has negative associations for me.

But that might be different to you because you say you don't like it even when you get there. Are you going on the wrong sorts of holidays? I once booked a couple of days in an exotic beach resort just to try it. But I was thoroughly bored after an hour and regretted my choice. Last year, for my holiday, I spent two weeks in central London and loved it. Certain types of break appeal to me, others don't.

dewsbury

I just don't like any holidays. I just like the comforts of home. I am generally a difficult person to entertain, and tourist sights bore me, beaches bore me, new cities bore me - when people say "I would love to go to Prague/Thailand/Moscow/Japan/etc" it just fills me with dread.

(I did live in UK for 10 years but that was then my "home")

MrJoeSoap

I love travelling. Seeing other cultures and enjoying the scenery of some of the most spectacular places on earth is a "buzz" that cant really be matched.

I assume from your post that your holidays are possibly boring package deals? Try something adventurous.

Zaph

While sometimes the travelling part can be tedious and a bit of a pain in the ass, I cannot honestly believe that someone would prefer to spend two weeks enjoying "the comforts of home" to travelling along the Garden Route in South Africa or driving up the Pacific Coast Highway in California (just to pick my last two hols as examples). What do you do at home for jollies if you're that difficult to entertain?

Nobody's asking you to lie on a beach for a fortnight or spend your time tramping around from one tourist sight to the next - there's a whole big world apart from them out there to be seen and enjoyed. There are lots of activity based holidays where you can learn to cook in Tuscany, paint in the south of France, go diving in the Red Sea, etc., the level of effort required is up to you. Something like one of those holidays would give you something else to concentrate on apart from being a tourist. My suggestion is to give yourself a shake, stop being so negative and be a bit more open to the possibility that you might have a good time outside of your own cosy environment. It might take a little more planning to find something that interests you, but it'll be well worth it.

seamus

I'm a bit of a homebird. For all of Ireland's warts, I wouldn't do too well living in another country. Actually, I'd do fine, if all of my friends and family came with me

When I go on holiday, I'm not impressed if everything doesn't go well at the start. If I have a long journey to get where I want to go, or something is a bit disappointing, then I spend the first two days thinking, "Ugh, I just want to be at home". Most of the time then I'll perk up and enjoy the holiday, still glad to get home when I do. A couple of times, most notably Croatia, I didn't really want to go home.

Even when I do think I'd prefer to be at home, I know that if I was at home, I'd be bored, and I'd be missing some degree of an experience.

LegacyUser

Do you sit at home in a chair all day for kicks?

SCOL

Bring up an old Tread.

I hate going to Holidays does anyone else ??? my passport expired about 4 years ago and no intention of getting a new one. Last Holiday was about 6 or 8 years ago I really don't like spending too much time with the "Wife and Kids" I perfere to be working.

Anyone else or is it just me ???

munchkin_utd

SCOL wrote: »

Bring up an old Tread.

I hate going to Holidays does anyone else ??? my passport expired about 4 years ago and no intention of getting a new one. Last Holiday was about 6 or 8 years ago I really don't like spending too much time with the "Wife and Kids" I perfere to be working.

Anyone else or is it just me ???

Not sure what you mean.
You possibly are doing the wrong type of spin.

Maybe too much travel (lots of moving about that annoys the kids?).
Maybe somewhere too quiet (random campsite in arse end of France?)
Maybe doing stuff that doesnt keep the child occupied, thus boredom and panic and mayhem?
Maybe going to crappy resorts that have all you can eat, that you like none of.
(and getting to crappy resort involves a stressful charter flight including 2 hours checkin)

cant say though. Your idea of a holiday is not even vague, its not mentioned at all.

Riverireland

dewsbury wrote: »

Serious question. I don't like travelling and never have. I often end up going on holidays to different places (mainly to please my wife!). However, I find myself counting the days until holiday is over.

It does not matter where I go or with whom, I find the whole holiday thing tedious.
Anybody similar around?

I will happily go on any holidays you decide to pay for in your place, with the agreement of your wife and my partner obviously . I wish my whole life could be spent holidaying. Pm me any time and I'll have a chat with the other half

jjnaas

SCOL wrote: »

Bring up an old Tread.

I really don't like spending too much time with the "Wife and Kids" I perfere to be working.

Anyone else or is it just me ???

That's the bit that jumped out at me. As someone said some people do 'family holidays' that end up not catering to anyone's needs. Maybe this happened you. If you genuinely don't like spending time with your wife and kids you have far bigger problems in life than not wanting to go on holidays! My father hates holidays abroad and never went but mam brought us off all the time and the father spent loads of time with us around Ireland camping and hiking and I wouldn't trade the memories for the world. There'll be work after us all, spend time with your kids when you still have a chance.

keithclancy

When I lived in Ireland the Holiday usually involved an Airport, which I am not crazy about.

Living in Mainland Europe for 7 years now and a Trip to France, Germany, Belgium etc involves hopping in the car with the dog and taking off.

Or taking a train which I find very relaxing, nothing better than having a beer and reading a book while on the ICE from Amsterdam in a comfortable chair watching the landscape out the Window.

Saying that I've commuted so much I'm pretty immune to flying, I once left Cork and ended up in Dusseldorf, it became so automatic I couldn't remember any details of my journey :pac:

TallGlass

I do find I have to nearly take a holiday to get over the stress of going on holiday. I don't dislike the weather, food and beer. But the traveling and expense to get there I can't stand.

JoannieG

TallGlass wrote: »

I do find I have to nearly take a holiday to get over the stress of going on holiday. I don't dislike the weather, food and beer. But the traveling and expense to get there I can't stand.

Have to agree. The bit when you get there is ok, but the 3 hour drive to the airport, waiting for the flight, the flight itself, then the drive to the villa/apartment does my head in. Then you have to do it all again on the way home! The sooner someone perfects matter transportation the better - beam me up, Scotty!

keithclancy

JoannieG wrote: »

Have to agree. The bit when you get there is ok, but the 3 hour drive to the airport, waiting for the flight, the flight itself, then the drive to the villa/apartment does my head in. Then you have to do it all again on the way home! The sooner someone perfects matter transportation the better - beam me up, Scotty!

For me in Cork it was a 10 minute ride to the Airport from the City Center and a 2 minute walk through the Airport

Here in Eindhoven it's a 10 minute bus ride to the Airport that has a frequency of every 15 minutes.

I guess small airports make a difference, even Amsterdam is ok though, Train station directly underneath the Airport.

Dublin Airport is my least favorite airport (Edit: Actually JFK and Chicago O'Hare Airport is pretty shítty as well)

JoannieG

Well, I live in Donegal and the nearest airport is Derry which is about an hour away, but there's little choice of destination from there. Belfast is about 2 hours and Dublin 3 hours. However, with the strength of sterling, it's too expensive to fly from Northern Ireland at the moment, so I'm stuck with Dublin. I need a holiday even thinking about it!

schemingbohemia

SCOL wrote: »

Bring up an old Tread.

I hate going to Holidays does anyone else ??? my passport expired about 4 years ago and no intention of getting a new one. Last Holiday was about 6 or 8 years ago I really don't like spending too much time with the "Wife and Kids" I perfere to be working.

Anyone else or is it just me ???

This might be oldest zombie thread resurrection I've seen!
10 years ago 1 person said they hate holidays and you obviously searched for that. Very sad.

/lock

Icepick

SCOL wrote: »

Bring up an old Tread.

I hate going to Holidays does anyone else ??? my passport expired about 4 years ago and no intention of getting a new one. Last Holiday was about 6 or 8 years ago I really don't like spending too much time with the "Wife and Kids" I perfere to be working.

Anyone else or is it just me ???

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Workaholic

Jimmy Iovine

I love going on holidays.

I love finding a deal and finding the cheapest way to get to a certain destination and then stay there.

Then, when I get there, I love getting around and seeing the attractions.

The more obscure the national language the better. My girlfriend and I were in Budapest for Sziget last summer and I loved finding my way around the city. We tried for ages to get to the festival the first day but were lost. We were looking out for small signs but saw nothing. Asked locals but we couldn't understand them. We eventually followed a group by chance.

I love travelling so much that I booked a flight from Bratislava in order to save some money and see more of Europe. It was a 3 hour journey just to save money. It was €9 and the nicest bus I've ever been on. Bratislava was rough enough but the hotel was lovely. The tram was great. No ticket machines so got it for free. Small airport as well.

We're going to Paris in a few months and I'm really looking forward to it. I love everything about travelling. At the moment, we're in a long distance relationship. That will be ending when I move back in July but I don't mind travelling over and back to see each other. I've been through Dublin airport more times that I care to imagine.

Ed_Stephens

This thread is probably better in after hours but it sounds like you're going on the wrong holidays, I love travelling but I hate big group holidays where everyone heads to Spain and spends two weeks drinking in Irish bars and only talk to Irish people, I would hate to go on an organised coach trip where everything is catered for and planned in advance. I don't like weekend breaks either, they're the ones you feel like you need a break after them.

The actual act of getting to your destination is usually the hardest part, airports can be hard work as can your fellow travellers but a little bit of thought and preparation can go a long way to making this as pain free as possible.

Lots of choice out there, get out of the comfort zone. There's a whole world out there which is full of places that are so different to Ireland you may as well be on another planet. I like my home comforts but it does me the world of good to get as far away from here as possible a couple of times a year.

Daisy78

It's the opposite for me, travel provides a welcome break from the monotony and routine of everyday life. I can,t imagine living my life without travel being a part of it. Some of my most cherished memories are from various trips I've made over the years. Yes it can be hard work but the benefits far outweigh the hardships. For me travel is as much about having a break from my normal everyday life, away from problems, stress, a break from the tediousness of everyday life as it is about sightseeing and culture. But I'm lucky that (for the being at least) I have no mortgage or dependants so I'm lucky that I can afford to do it in the first place.

To be honest I don't think I could do the package sun holiday thing every year, maybe you could look into other options which might be a bit more adventurous? There are lots of alternatives available now to the standard sun, sea and sand options. As somebody else mentioned you could try cycling holidays, sailing trips, language based holidays, cookery schools etc.

Fred Swanson

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ProudDUB

Fred Swanson wrote: »

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Me too. I am fairly well traveled, but unfortunately the older I get, the more stressed out & frustrated I get by the whole process of getting from A to B. Little things that didn't bug me 10 years ago, irritate the crap out of me now. I hate the whole process of packing too. I am a terrible pack rat, so I invariably try to bring much more stuff than can fit in my suitcase, which just irritates me even more. I don't go away for weekends as much as I used to, unless it is for a specific reason, or to attend a specific event. The sheer effort of getting it all together, is just not worth it, for what is usually just one full day of fun, if even that.

Drexel

I don't really enjoy holidays either. Not the biggest fan of flying so that's one thing. But it's the food when I go away I hate. I'm fairly fussy so it's hard when I go abroad.

One thing I do love is turning emails off and switching off completely from work for a week.

Dr Nic

I love holidays on my own. Not really mad on them with others or even with my gf.

Im happy to do whatever even nothing on my own but it feels like i have to perform and be the entertainer on holidays with others. My gf usually ends up complaining that shes bored despite her doing nothing to tryand make it fun or sort any activities ever...

So im glqd to read this thread and see its not just me!!

Hols on my own where i can get to meet new ppl, love it!

Hols with others forget it!!

threetrees

I suffer with anxiety and hate holidays. I go and I enjoy parts of the holiday, enjoy spending time with my family but the stress of getting there and sorting stuff out fills me with dread. I hate the sense of adventure and the unknown. I go on holidays but I'm always happier when home, sad and all as that sounds.

Ed_Stephens

Dr Nic wrote: »

I love holidays on my own. Not really mad on them with others or even with my gf.

Im happy to do whatever even nothing on my own but it feels like i have to perform and be the entertainer on holidays with others. My gf usually ends up complaining that shes bored despite her doing nothing to tryand make it fun or sort any activities ever...

So im glqd to read this thread and see its not just me!!

Hols on my own where i can get to meet new ppl, love it!

Hols with others forget it!!

Yes for sure, lots of people think it's sad or lonely but it's the one of the best things you can do, you meet so much more people and learn a lot about yourself as well as getting to see some more of the world.