Help!

LegacyUser

Hi lads.

I'm feeling messed up at the moment. I'm in a job that I hate(I am wasting away, nothing to do), but I can't seem to find a job for me anywhere. I'm a Desktop Publisher with illusions of grandure to become a graphic designer. I'm applying for a course in IADT, that should see me get there, but money is a problem too at the moment. The degree costs 12000 euro, I can barely afford the rent at the moment.
I've been living with my girlfriend for almost two years, and, she is wonderful, but she has been getting on my nerves lately. Small stuff, like, nagging about not switching off a lightbulb, to being "short" with me, then I fly off the handle, and act like a cheeky teenager, slam doors and stomp around. I'm 27 for Christ's sake! I drive two hours to work in the morning, and every car gets on my friggin nerves, I'm losing my temper alot lately. I'm doing my own nut in lately, I can't concentrate, I can't think about others only my self, I'm really selfish and insular at the moment, and I really hate myself....>Aggghhhh......Sorry for the rant, just had to get all that stuff out there.

MojoMaker

Watch Falling Down again. It might give you some ideas.

Don't bother with IADT, that kind of price tag is ridiculous - look into the DIT for courses up your alley at a fraction of the cost. If you haven't done a primary degree before it won't cost you anything (I should qualify that to mean a 1st time college entrant). DIT Aungier St has a digital media hub you mightbe interested in checking out. Even if you've been through the college system alredy and hence would have the pay fees their M.A programs only cost in the region of €3k.

seamus

Getting irritated about the little things is usually a good indicator of being unhappy with the big things. You can't do anything about the big things, but you do something about the little things, so you pick on them.

But you've realised this already. The only advice I can give you is to catch yourself when you're getting annoyed by the small things. Realise you're taking your frustration out on people and things that don't deserve it, go and lie down, or get out of the house.
Talk this over with your girlfriend. Tell her how frustrated you are. It's always easier to work out a plan when there are two people involved.

As for your career, well education doesn't always get you the job you want. Indentify the path you'd need to take to become a graphic designer (if you never went to college again) and go and get a job in that path. Perhaps a job as an editor's assistant, anything at all within the industry you want. If, a year later, you find it's going nowhere, then you can try alternative plans.

You don't always end up doing what you dreamed of. Life is what happens while you're busy making plans, as they say.

Victor

I am the Walrus wrote:

I've been living with my girlfriend for almost two years, and, she is wonderful, but she has been getting on my nerves lately. Small stuff, like, nagging about not switching off a lightbulb, to being "short" with me, then I fly off the handle, and act like a cheeky teenager, slam doors and stomp around.

You're (both) stressed. Some exericse may not go astray. You might also consider your commuting time.

CathyMoran

It is tough on any relationship when both sides are under a lot of pressure - I used to have a commute time of 2.5 hours each way for a while and found that I barely had time for anything, a lot of things suffered... in the short/medium term you could see about getting a job closer to home, college is hard, but it is worth it, just remember that. Maybe you could arrange to spend quality time with your girlfriend - I know that it sometimes sounds cliched but it really can make a difference. Going out for a long fast walk or other forms of exercise really helps.

Peace

2 hours commute... put a price on the qualty of life this is taking away from you and then subtract that from you current salary. Take a job working for that new figure and you're still probably better off.

Make a change.