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Moving On After A Break Up

  • 10-01-2005 10:24pm
    #1
    ether
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 257 ✭✭


    Well I've recently broke up with my girlfriend for the second time, I know its for the best because we just weren't getting on, but I'm still constantly thinking about her, we were together first time round for 3 years, then had a break for 3 years and split before xmas again.Maybe time will help I don't know. advice anyone?


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  • #2
    CathyMoran
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,458 ✭✭✭CathyMoran


    Give yourself time and space - if you are still thinking of getting back again then agree on a date to meet up but allow no contact in the interim. Either way this person has been part of your life for a long time so it is only natural that you are going to miss her - allow yourself time to grieve.


  • #3
    ether
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 257 ✭✭ether


    Its difficult because we have 2 kids together, I enjoy being with her thats all I know.Its like when we're together(going out) we fight and argue something rotten, but when we're apart we get on very well, but theres certain things we just don't agree on.


  • #4
    Victor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 78,580 ✭✭✭✭Victor


    Before you give up completely, have you consideredm relationship counselling?


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thats a good idea by Victor, especially since theres kids involved.


  • #6
    tinkerbell
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,423 ✭✭✭tinkerbell


    I know it might seem like a small thing but do ye talk about stuff that bothers ye? That way there would be little or no arguments.

    Say for example, she does something to annoy you / you do something to annoy her, and you mention it then / soon after it, then obviously she / you won't do it again (coz ye'll know it annoys each other). If ye say nothing, she / you will keep doing it until it ends up in a big argument with yelling, etc. which is doing you both no good.

    It may sound small but really, it's a major thing. My bf and I have been going out for two years and we've never had an argument yet coz we talk about the stuff that bothers us. It works :)

    On the stuff ye don't agree on then - well everyone has their opinion, so if you both respect each other's opinion, at least that'd be a step in the right direction, anyway.

    That, or like Victor said, maybe try relationship counselling. G'luck.


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  • #7
    Miles
    Closed Accounts Posts: 336 ✭✭Miles


    Time and space a must.

    Go out with some other girls.


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