Love,would go back

nanook

Some one you loved tells you its over, your heart is broken, then out of the blue you get a call they want to try again.
What do you do ??????????

This is a sticky one, firstly i would like to state i am not looking for advice here, it has happened to a freind of mine, we talked about it over a couple of scoops at the weekend but it makes you think what would you do. The floor is open

Hobbes

It would depend on the situation.

If it's the 3am in the morning "I want to try again" phonecall (and they do happen) then I would say no.

"If you love something you'll let it go. If it returns it must be broken" - Grosse Point Blank.

Btw, when did Humanities become the dating forum?

nanook

ok firstly i am not sure if this should be here, it is not a dating issue but a question with an answer. sorry i didnt know there was even a dating section in here

Bard

Totally depends for me on who exactly that somebody is and how much I trust them now. I can only think of two people I've gone out with before that I'd most definitely go out with again but one is impossible due to the fact that she died and the other is almost impossible due to the fact that she's on the other side of the planet.

Most people don't know that I have an ex-fiancée. For a number of reasons, there isn't a snowballs chance in hell of me ever taking her back.

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WhiteWashMan

have a 3 week affair where all you do is have sex (and go to work as well, DOH) and you will get bored of her, dump her and then you are ready to hit the trail again.
either that or mope about for 6 months pi$$ing of all your mates with your boring stories of how wonderful she was, until the day you see her snogging some italian bloke in some bar somewhere
er, no, this didnt happen to me. well, not the moping about bit!
if she wants to get back with you, see point one about shagging for 3 weeks.

solo1

My advice is to tell your friend to run away. Run fast, run free.

Miguel_Sanchez

Please get your friend to say this....

PLEASE....

For the good of all that's holy you must tell him to say the following four words.....

Do it for men everywhere, past, present and future.....

Tell him, nah, order him to ring that girl back and say:

"Let's just be friends!"

YES!! YES!! YES!!

Take it girls. Let's see how you like it.

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scutchy

Should your friend choose to remain single, PLEASE tell him to use the following line: It's not me; it's you...

The Sweeper

..."I'd love to but I'm getting my hair done"?...

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nanook

You see, some ppl are getting the wrong idea here or maybe i am getting the wrong idea of boards. It is somthing that we all have different opinions of, it is not that i want advice for anyone here, just want to know if anyone has an opinion on it. Everyone has fallen in love and thought yea this is it, only to realise that it wasn't, and we all have looked back after it was finsihed and said damn i want that back. Like everyone i was with someone very special and it didnt work out and we did split, and even now there is not a day that goes by when i think why did i end it, but i wouldnt hurt that person again by asking them for another chance that aint fair but the idea of the topic is that what would you do......

[This message has been edited by nanook (edited 26-07-2001).]

sceptre

Hey, haven't we all been there. That call or whatever where they "want to try again".

Mixed feelings on the matter. There has to be a reason why the relationship broke up in the first place - that should really be talked through (they are rarely talked through when a breakup is imminent). Without that, there's a good thing it'll happen again (which will leave the person in as big a hole (or bigger) than before. Not nice getting dumped by the same person twice - works like a double rejection type of thing (you know, you did everything you could and it didn't work out, then you went back and did{/B] do it a different way and the same thing happened.

Having said that, there's probably a moth and flame thing going on. People can do some really unthought-through things (I know I do). Having been there on both sides in that situation (and having gone back in every single time), it's usually a big mistake. Not always, just usually. (oh yeah, the other thing, if the two people are getting on as friends now, chances are they can forget about that if it doesn't work out)

Jockey Spollix

All I can say is: be very careful. I had a very long intense relationship with a person who I loved very much. We split up (her choice), then as soon as she saw me with somebody else she decided she wanted me back. Of course, I dumped the great girl I was with and came running back to my ex.

Turns out, she just wanted me to fill a short term gap in her new life while she was waiting for something better to come along.

Happily I am now dating a Goddess and am in my fourth year of bliss.

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Xterminator

If you actually "LOVE" this person,then you will do nothing that was so far suggested.

I'd suggest that you meet to talk. Somewhere quiet, eg. a meal. Talk to your partner, and explain how you feel, i.e. You have strong feelings for them, but you're wary of getting hurt again.

By the end of the evening you should make your decision, based on the above conversation. If they want you back cause they are a little loneley, or bored .. bad reason.
Sometime though you don't realise how special something is till it's gone. If they genuinely want you back .. jump at the chance.

Remember .. love is like an Airoplane, it's falling out that hurts!

P.S. I lost a love once, and I'd have chopped off my arm to have had another chance. If they're that special ...

Good Luck!

red_ice

The way i see it is like this.
Tell your m8 to do what he wants, if he trusts the girl then its an easy call...
If he misses her, he should go back and forgive and forget.
If he dont miss her, c-ya later lasy!

If she done him wrong during the relation ship, well then the scales are weighing to the no side.
If she was faithfull, its going yes.

If during the split she went off and and done him wrong, thats a no no... she used the split to have a quick one.


In the end its all about how much in love they are, or if they have a tight relationship.

Dr.Red.

The Corinthian

The longer the relationship, the deeper the emotion he felt, the more he should steer clear.

On the other hand, EX's are great for those dry patches we all go through from time to time

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