Should I bring flowers on a date?

LegacyUser

I am going on a 4th date with a girl tomorrow night.... we're going to the cinema. Would it seem cheesy\ sleazy if I gave her a bunch of flowers?

For all you cynical women out there, we've already slept together so it's not like I'm giving her the flowers to get into her knickers.

So what do ye think?

elexes

bring one flower

kenmc

only if you're saying sorry for sleeping with her sister
women tend to get suspicious if we give them flowers if it's not their birthday....

cajun_tiger

bring a daisy....

Beruthiel

good lord man, can't you just do whatever you feel like doing?

meepmeep

Bringing flowers to the cinema?

Nah.......cheesy

Mr. Presentable

NewGuest wrote:

I am going on a 4th date with a girl tomorrow night.... we're going to the cinema. Would it seem cheesy\ sleazy if I gave her a bunch of flowers?

For all you cynical women out there, we've already slept together so it's not like I'm giving her the flowers to get into her knickers.

So what do ye think?

If you bring flowers she has to carry the f**kers around all day.

RedRules5

Flowers would usually be put in water or a vase, therefore the most appropriate place to hand over a bunch would be at her place.

Nightwish

just bring one. its says a lot more than a whole bunch of em. also solves the aforemention problem of carrying a lot of them around

monkeyfudge

I never think it's a good idea to give flowers on a date... where do you put them? It's hard enough getting to a seat in a cinema juggling popcorn a drink and your ticket.... Also by the time you come out of the cinema the flowers will have started to rot. (I actually did this last year, it was too late by the time they were put in water at home.)

I think it's much better to have them delivered. But interflora always mucks up the message...

elexes

spannerhead wrote:

If you bring flowers she has to carry the f**kers around all day.

hence bring one flower

koneko

I think flowers are pretty pointless myself. If you feel you must, just bring one flower, no need to inconvenience the girl just to show off (carrying dead flowers around doesn't sound like fun).

Dr. Loon

Beruthiel wrote:

good lord man, can't you just do whatever you feel like doing?

Exactly. This place is getting mad.

e.g. - How do I walk? What will I say?

If you want I'll take care of the date for you. That way you don't have to think for yourself at all. Get an earpiece and some radio equipment and a hidden camera and I'll tell you what to say and do. Easy.

koneko

Dr. Loon wrote:

If you want I'll take care of the date for you. That way you don't have to think for yourself at all. Get an earpiece and some radio equipment and a hidden camera and I'll tell you what to say and do. Easy.

CYRANO!

You could charge for that. Set up a web-service, there's always suckers out there that'll pay for something like that.

landser

nothing says i like/love you like being drunk and buying a rose from a passing romanian gypsy. ah yes, romance for the unimaginative and lazy.

turning up with a bunch of flowers for a flics date will probably embarass her. she's then got to sit in a cinema with crunchy crickly cellophane wrapping, whcih will end up annoying the two of ye. it's a bit sad too.

Dr. Loon

landser wrote:

it's a bit sad too.

So romance really is dead? I bet ye think it's sad for a man to cry too.

WhiteWashMan

koneko wrote:

CYRANO!

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hey, wasnt that based on that film with steve martin, roxanne?


anyway, if you are picking her up or meeting at hers, hell why not. if its a gesture youre making then go for it.

if youa re meeting in town or whatever, dont, coz its a pain in the ass to carry them around, and then if you go to the pub you have a bunch of flowers (or even one) and in the end you just want to throw it away!

buy her diamonds instead. she wont mind carrying those about!

CountryWise

not advisable,i agree that sitting in the cinema with a bunch of flowers will embarss the s*** out of her.

ven0m

CountryWise wrote:

not advisable,i agree that sitting in the cinema with a bunch of flowers will embarss the s*** out of her.

agreed although you never know. Flowers ARE however a nice touch, & not always an indication of guilt. My ex never got flowers before I got her some & she thought it was nice. No woman I've ever bought flowers for has ever found it "not-nice" - they all seem to have been happy to get them... women in general (except the gold diggers or ladder-climbers) aren't impressed by fancy **** - most just want honesty, respect, trust & most of all for the guy to just be themselves. Helps if you can make them laugh though - hehehehehe


::: ven0mous :::

D!ve^Bomb!

ok what!!???

you have slept with her already and you ask us if you should bring her flowers ffs!!! are you for real!!?

plus if you've only had 3 dates and got some already, i wouldn't think much of her tbh

Cactus Col

give her a white rose.

ionapaul

D!ve^Bomb! wrote:

ok what!!???

you have slept with her already and you ask us if you should bring her flowers ffs!!! are you for real!!?

plus if you've only had 3 dates and got some already, i wouldn't think much of her tbh

Bet you'll get in trouble for that last comment!

Like ven0m, I have bought flowers for lots of my girlfriends and have never received a bad reaction - but as people have stated, bringing them to the cinema is not a good idea at all. Next time you're going to her place pick up a nice bunch (not red roses, ffs) and I'll bet she'll love 'em

WhiteWashMan

D!ve^Bomb! wrote:

plus if you've only had 3 dates and got some already, i wouldn't think much of her tbh

why is that then?

Sleepy

WhiteWashMan wrote:

why is that then?

Cos he's a virgin and jealous?

CountryWise

You dont know her you cant make a comment like that!

Gilgamesh

kinda agree with Beruthiel on this one, you shoul dfigure these things out yourself, or did your parents have to explain to you, how to use your willy aswell.

If you want n idea though, take a walk after the ciname and buy flowers then if the occasion should come up, looks more spontanious, and maybe even more romantic

koneko

Sleepy wrote:

Cos he's a virgin and jealous?

Limed for truth

landser

Dr. Loon wrote:

So romance really is dead? I bet ye think it's sad for a man to cry too.

men don't cry, they have sweaty eyes

WhiteWashMan

Dr. Loon wrote:

So romance really is dead? I bet ye think it's sad for a man to cry too.

only during moments of great sporting achievments or tragedy.

LegacyUser

I'm picking her up at her house so they could be left there or in the car.

As for D!vebomb's reply, Ireland has moved on from the 1960's. People no longer wait for marriage to have sex I thought we were a more liberal thinking country now.

The girl has had a very hard time in the past year.... I thought the flowers might be romantic thats all.

ionapaul

WhiteWashMan wrote:

only during moments of great sporting achievments or tragedy.

Getting kicked in the 'nads = tear-inducing tragedy

Just like being on a bus and forced to listen to the driver's Will Young CD - though in that case the tears will come after you perforate your own eardrums to escape the horror, the horror...

ChRoMe

"plus if you've only had 3 dates and got some already, i wouldn't think much of her tbh"

WTF I look at people like you as a betamax (still make you?) How is riding him after a few dates a bad thing? I'm glad most women I have met dont share your attitude if they waited much longer past several dates they figure out I'm an a$$hole

Seriously though flowers seems a bit over the top (as does asking the question on this board but hey)

Giving somebody flowers doesnt automatically make it romantic. If its not not appropriate it will just come off as cheesy. That said tho dont pay too much attention to me (as if you would!) I've only used flowers and got them delivered to the house by the florist (feared for my personal safety if I had delivered them by hand!)

ChRoMe

Draupnir

if your picking her up at her house then get the flowers, she will love that. most women ive gone out with wet themselves over a bunch of flowers. you really shouldnt need to be told this though, its fairly rudimentary dating technique. they teach it in How to get some 101 as far as I know.

By the way, fair play to ya getting some action with 3 dates, thats a good ratio, keep up the stats people.

ven0m

Draupnir wrote:

if your picking her up at her house then get the flowers, she will love that. most women ive gone out with wet themselves over a bunch of flowers. you really shouldnt need to be told this though, its fairly rudimentary dating technique. they teach it in How to get some 101 as far as I know.

By the way, fair play to ya getting some action with 3 dates, thats a good ratio, keep up the stats people.

I've always gotten it within 3 dates - lmao.... although it would probably explain why I can never make it past the 7/8 month mark with them - LMAO....


::: ven0mous :::

WhiteWashMan

ven0m wrote:

I've always gotten it within 3 dates - lmao.... although it would probably explain why I can never make it past the 7/8 month mark with them - LMAO....


::: ven0mous :::

i actually thought you were going to say

' although it would probably explain why I can never make it past the 1st\2nd date mark with them - LMAO....'

Draupnir

thats a fair point really, the only girl i "waited" for, is the only serious relationship ive ever been in. personally speaking, i think thats a good thing.

The Corinthian

NewGuest wrote:

I am going on a 4th date with a girl tomorrow night.... we're going to the cinema. Would it seem cheesy\ sleazy if I gave her a bunch of flowers?

When a man buys a woman flowers for no reason, there’s a reason.

Dr. Loon wrote:

So romance really is dead? I bet ye think it's sad for a man to cry too.

Only if he’s straight.

WhiteWashMan wrote:

hey, wasnt that based on that film with steve martin, roxanne?

Troll

cajun_tiger

Bring Her The Flowers.... And If You Guys Had Sex Fair Play....

Zulu

D!ve^Bomb! wrote:

plus if you've only had 3 dates and got some already, i wouldn't think much of her tbh

...what, are you twelve or something?

WhiteWashMan

The Corinthian wrote:

When a man buys a woman flowers for no reason, there’s a reason.

Only if he’s straight.

Troll

god, im glad someone spotted that!

and hey, i buy flowers for no reason! but then again, im not at the start of a relationship, and my mum has her own garden anyway.

flowers are cool. nothing wrong with buying someone you like some flowers.
unless his name is buba

Dr. Loon

The Corinthian wrote:

When a man buys a woman flowers for no reason, there’s a reason.

Of course there's a reason. To make the woman happy, and therefore yourself. I buy flowers for no reason. It's not a bribe, although I expect some blokes would buy them for this reason.

Only if he’s straight.

Rarrrr..... grrrr. Crying? What's that?

Troll

Indeed.

Ms Beanbag

NewGuest wrote:

I am going on a 4th date with a girl tomorrow night.... we're going to the cinema. Would it seem cheesy\ sleazy if I gave her a bunch of flowers?For all you cynical women out there, we've already slept together so it's not like I'm giving her the flowers to get into her knickers.
So what do ye think?

dont listen to the unromantics. Girls love flowers!!
do you know what her favourite flowers are? They might be more appreciated.
I'd be careful if your going to give her a bunch of roses, unless you are totally sure, cos you know what they stand for...

Dr. Loon

Ms Beanbag wrote:

, unless you are totally sure, cos you know what they stand for...

Death?
Depends on the colour doesn't it?

Ms Beanbag

Dr. Loon wrote:

Death?
Depends on the colour doesn't it?

yes sorry should have said red roses

Evil Phil

Speaking purely from a cinema goers point of view the crinkling celophane means you are scum and I'll probably try and get you kicked out of the movie. However, I wouldn't personally bring flowers anywhere unless I was collecting her from her place so she could put them in some water before we left. One flower might be nice.

Oh and as for sleeping with you on the 3rd date. Shes a modern gal and she likes you - aren't you the lucky one I'm not suprised you want to give her flowers.

Bring one rose.

simu

Don't bother, flowers are hassle.

Bring some bacteria in a petrie dish.

mayordenis

NewGuest wrote:

I'm picking her up at her house so they could be left there or in the car.

As for D!vebomb's reply, Ireland has moved on from the 1960's. People no longer wait for marriage to have sex I thought we were a more liberal thinking country now.

The girl has had a very hard time in the past year.... I thought the flowers might be romantic thats all.

yeah its a nice idea, why do you care what boardsies think??
you obviously know it would be a nice gesture do it.

CathyMoran

What is wrong with flowers - would be suprised if I had not recieved flowers by the third date - and what is wrong with red roses? Got a single red rose from one guy on the third date but that was only because I had to carry it around all evening... some aspects of old fashioned chivalry are nice...get her flowers!

Walls

Definately get her flowers. Its a wonderful gesture and one I am always glad for.