till death do us part

azezil

Some singer made this point a while back, can't remember who! but anyway:

When marital vows were taught up, in particular the "till death do us part" bit the average life expectancy was about 40/50 years.

So if someone got married at 20, which was about the norm, they only had to say together 20/30 years. Now-a-days however the average life expectancy is more like 70/80 years so you've got to stay together for about 50/60 years!

So i was thinking, is it perhaps time that marital vows be reassessed?

Or should people perhaps have to go through some kind of compatability test / self assesment period before marriage?

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Belisarius

I think your missing the sentiment Azez

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azezil

ok i'll put it like this, is it realistic to think that two people can stay together for this period of time? not sure i could!

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"just because you're not paraniod, doesn't mean they're not after you!"

chernobyl

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by azezil:
ok i'll put it like this, is it realistic to think that two people can stay together for this period of time? not sure i could!

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i cant imagine staying with one women for more than a year and if you put living with her into the equation then 6 months at the most.

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Lucy_la_morte

You really have a strong dislike for women, yet your signature features a picture of a woman you'll never meet. You still have hope for women then eh?

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Miaow.

Lucy la morte.

[IAR]Nevermind

Azezil , Maybe ur rite but imo too many people these days rush into marrige because they "love" them , the find out a yr later it wasnt love . If people didnt rush into things there wudnt be a problem because if u really love someone ud want to spend the rest of ur life with them .

lucy how does he have a dislike for women , maybe hes just sad and lonly and those pictures are the closest things to a woman he'll ever get.

Lucy_la_morte

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by chernobyl:
i cant imagine staying with one women for more than a year and if you put living with her into the equation then 6 months at the most.
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Nevermind, does that answer your question?

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Miaow.

Lucy la morte.

Evil Phil

My Grandparents where together for over 60 years. In the end it was death that parted them, and they were very happy together. (nyah )

And not wanting to be with a women for more than a year doesn't mean he has a problem with women, it just means he doesn't want to get too settled just yet. Nothing wrong with that.

Bard

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by azezil:
is it realistic to think that two people can stay together for this period of time?
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Yes, it is.

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chernobyl

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by [IAR]Nevermind:

lucy how does he have a dislike for women , maybe hes just sad and lonly and those pictures are the closest things to a woman he'll ever get.</font>

Who are you to suggest what i am?

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by Lucy_la_morte:
You really have a strong dislike for women</font>

I dont have a dislike for women but i certainly i have no interest in ever committing to a single women.

Lucy_la_morte

You're a player then.. Eep.

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Miaow.

Lucy la morte.

chernobyl

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by Lucy_la_morte:
You're a player then.. Eep.

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well you definition of a player is wrong to start with, but no, im not your definition of a player.

Magwitch

We are a monogomous culture, despite pop journalisms fad pronouncements to the contrary. Imagine 3 failed marraiges 60 years old and single? How sad an existance is that?

People may have forgotten that compatability has alot to do with adaption. One surrenders facets of ones personality to acomodate another person and visa versa in order to sustain a relationship. "Till death do us part", because another person becomes an integral part of your personality.

The constant drone about "self", "me", "personal empowerment" is all well and good when applied to careers but these "power" trips are disasterous when brough into gentle proximity with another one wishes to spend ones life with. Adaption to happy married life does require compatability, but a compatability that both sides will sacrafice something of themselves to keep the other happy. The modern or popular interpretation is one of no compromise just perfect matching, which rarely works because it reeks of eventual one partner dominance which is no basis for a healthy relationship.

Karl Hungus

Personaly... I haven't even gotten into a casual relationsship. I am really waiting to find the right person, a girl that I COULD live the rest of my life with.

I would find the "Playeh" lifestyle rather empty.

[IAR]Nevermind

Sry lucy i thought u were refering to the pic , Well we can laugh at him when hes old and lonly .

Lucy_la_morte

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well you definition of a player is wrong to start with, but no, im not your definition of a player.
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How do you know what my definition of a player is and that you're not classed as it? How does my definition differ to other people's? How do you know if it's similar to someone elses definition?

Fight fire, with fire.

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Lucy la morte.

chernobyl

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by Lucy_la_morte:
How do you know what my definition of a player is and that you're not classed as it? How does my definition differ to other people's? How do you know if it's similar to someone elses definition?


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You accused me of being a player because i suggested that i get around, thats not a player, thats just being lucky.

Victor

Too many shallow women out there. Just can't get 'deep' with them.

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androphobic

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by azezil:
ok i'll put it like this, is it realistic to think that two people can stay together for this period of time? not sure i could!
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Yeah it is. Pity everyone can't do it.