How to help?

smiles

Ok,

Well I have a friend who never wears short sleeve tops, I have never seen her in anything above the elbow, I always assumed that it was because she had fat tops of her arms (you know what i mean, every girl will anyway!).... but it's not.

The other night she showed me, well kinda, her arms, they're completely covered in stretch marks from her elbows upwards, and it very .... ugly I guess, looking.

Is there anything that can be done about this kinda thing?

Fionnuala

is_that_so

Consult a doctor methinks

aidan_walsh

Let your friend handle it in any way she decides, should she decide to?

Its not really your call to make if she hasn't asked for help, IMO...

isolde

how do you mean, completely covered?

did she gain or lose a serious amount of weight quickly?

there is a product called bio oil which is meant to help stretch marks fade but i dont really know whether it does or not.

they do fade over time though.

~ isolde.

tom-thebox

It could be OCD I guess. Although she probally just doesnt want to show her arms off because of the marks. It doesnt sound too serious to be honest, hiding it anit the healthy way of dealing with it, but i dont think it could do her any harm.

smiles

Ok, well I want to help her because it had her in tears because she's never been able to wear t-shirts or strappy top or anything because of this.

It's not OCD, what the hell were you on?

I was just wondering if anyone had a similar experience.

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vibrant

Nothing really gets rid of stretch marks, but their are ways of making them less noticeable. Vitamin B5, C, E and zinc supplements can help.

koneko

Cremes and lotions like the ones people have mentioned (and cocoa butter creme apparantly) can help, but has she spoken to a dermatologist or skin expert about it?

Zena

Palmers Coco butter for stretch marks is suppose to be really great.

There are 2 types, 1 in a white bottle and another 1 in a Green bottle(this one is esp for stretch marks). It is available in Boots for about 7 euro

BEAT

well they never go away, ask anyone who has them.
those creams and oils rarley make any difference at all.
If she can afford it tell her to go to a dermotologist, there may be a procedure they can do, a sort of skin grafting if you will.

Sadly though, they will be there forever otherwise. She just has to learn to accept it and love her body for what it is, in time she will.

ChRoMe

Watched a ex girlfriend battle with them and never got anywhere. Sorry
ChRoMe

Evilution

smiles wrote:

...and it very .... ugly I guess, looking..

Meeooow!!!!
I don't think you should really broach this issue with your friend. If someone had, for example, acne and wore a poleneck to hide it would you take it up with them? Leave the girl alone.

cajun_tiger

after my pregnacy my tummy was distroyed. i tryed creams, oils, excersize(during pregnacy and after) the works none of it works, get a tan it will take the red look away. its something she'll have to live with and a mate who she trusted enough to show turns around and calls it ugly needs to take a step back!

she needs a confedence boost. if she wants to cover it up let her.. my mates will never get me in a belly top coz its my most hated part of my body.


if she wants to get serious, strech marks are a b!tch they only go away with cosmetic surgry... i can give you a number and they can tell you what to do.. pm me

isolde

i doubt smiles actually called them ugly to her face. think she just was just trying to describe them; they are ugly.

~ isolde.

koneko

cajun_tiger wrote:

its something she'll have to live with and a mate who she trusted enough to show turns around and calls it ugly needs to take a step back!

Where exactly do you get the idea she said to her friend "damn, that **** is ugly, yo!"

She said it here, in an honest thread where she's asking for advise. Would you prefer she came on here, lied, and said "it's very pretty"? No. If it was, she wouldn't be asking for advice on how to help her friend...
:rolleyes:

cajun_tiger

i never said she said it to her face! but her friend trusted her enough to show her then she goes calling them ugly(i have them i know!!!!)

pickarooney

Huh? Her friend knows they're ugly, which is why she covers them up. She didn't show them hoping to be told they were lovely...

koneko

Yes, you're so right, smiles should come on her asking for advice on how to help her friend with her beautiful stretch marks.

She's being a good friend, and trying to help, you're not making a very good point at all.

cajun_tiger

your just taking me up wrong thats all, anyway all i said was that i have them tried to get rid of them it doesn't work. but she needs her friends to be suportive and they aren't ugly!! its bloodly natrual ye they aren't the nicest thing in the world but somewhere on your body you'll find one. ugly isn't the right thing to call them. its like calling someones scalded face ugly.

koneko

I didn't want to drag this off topic, but I just can't help myself

cajun_tiger wrote:

but she needs her friends to be suportive and they aren't ugly!!

She IS being supportive, she's asking for advice on what she can do for her friend because she obviously cares.

ugly isn't the right thing to call them. its like calling someones scalded face ugly.

Perhaps you're taking this a bit too personal. If ugly is what they are, why shouldn't she call them that when she's describing them here?
If someone has a face horribly scalded by fire/whatever, then yes I'd probably call that ugly (not to their face, but neither did smiles, remember?)

cajun_tiger

how do you know she didn't... again all i was saying was my opion, i don't like mine but i wouldn't say mine or my mums, my sisters, or any of my mates who have them are ugly. that was my point which you decided to drag off,

and smiles did ask if anyone else has or knows of anyone who has this problem....

my reason for posting,

Beruthiel

Lets not get into the semantics of what exactly you all think smiles meant shall we?
Knowing smiles as I do, she has set this thread up in order to help her friend anyway that she can and not because she thinks her friend is ugly, it is obvious her friend thinks they are ugly otherwise she would be wearing whatever she wanted.

Now can we get back to making helpful suggestions instead of arguing with each other?
if you cannot make a helpful suggestion on how to get rid of them, please refrain from commenting at all.
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