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LegacyUser · 31-12-2004 4:17pm #1

Hi guys this is my first time posting.
I dont know what is wrong with me i started seeing this guy everything was great he said we would meet on stephens day/new years but i havent heard from him all over christmas ,ive been calling and texting to try and find out what the story is but all i got was one lousy reply a few days ago.I get the feeling he is no longer interested but i would just like to know because i havent heard from him im waiting by the phone like a loser i dont even want to go out tonight im feeling so down about it if he would just tell me whats going on i could get over it and move on but its the not knowing thats wrecking my head.... Any tips on how i can get over this or from a blokes point of view is he not interested?? My head hurts from thinking about it so much i swear i should of stayed single cos i never felt like this when i was

Thanks for reading any advice would be great

cajun_tiger · 31-12-2004 7:03pm

listen give it sometime just wait it out and stop calling.... if its ment to be he get back in touch

vibrant · 31-12-2004 7:11pm

Oh dear... unfortunately it sounds like he's just not interested. Don't ring or text him any more, it'll only make it worse for you (and give him an excuse to use the stupid "bunnyboiler" insult). And no, it's not fair.

As for how to get over it... just give it a week or two and you'll be grand.

LegacyUser · 01-01-2005 1:25pm

Speaking from my own experience with this type of thing - he's not interested. It sucks - you throw it around in your own head that it's your fault by being too pushy etc. You're just better off getting out again and meeting some other people and learn from this one!

P.s. Message to the People -

If you're not interested - just say it (by text or phone call - whatever). It hurts like fuk when you haven't a clue whats goin on.

The Corinthian · 01-01-2005 3:26pm

What if? wrote:

If you're not interested - just say it (by text or phone call - whatever). It hurts like fuk when you haven't a clue whats goin on.

The suffering of another is a small price to pay to keep your options open.

Shrimp · 01-01-2005 3:31pm

One tip, a bit off topic but anyways. Use full-stops! Otherwise it's very hard to read.

"get the feeling he is no longer interested but i would just like to know because i havent heard from him im waiting by the phone like a loser i dont even want to go out tonight im feeling so down about it if he would just tell me whats going on i could get over it and move on but its the not knowing thats wrecking my head"

Not even one there!

CathyMoran · 01-01-2005 4:25pm

To the original poster - it does not seem that he is interested. Some men are bad at expressing their emotions and some are just thoughtless...chalk it down to experience and his loss, not yours.

Ms Beanbag · 01-01-2005 4:28pm

what exactly did he say in his 'lousy reply'?
maybe he has things on his mind or hes bzy, but that doesnt excuse his behaviour anyway...

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe · 01-01-2005 4:29pm

happens to everyone really.
happened to me a few times.
best thing is find something to cheer you up, and do it.
if he wants to be with you he would show it. Texting him or calling him is gonna give him the impression that he has you on a rope and when he wants it he gets it.
dont do anything. talk to him if he contact's you. but dont contact him. i know its hard. its really hard. and it hurts. but dont worry, you will get through it.

if you wanna talk more, feel free to pm me, or e-mail me...
ive had these problem's but it alway's works out in the end.
just have some faith in your self. you did nothing wrong. he's just 1 of these typical fella's girls alway's say. but not everyone is like that.
you WILL find the right person you.

Ms Beanbag · 01-01-2005 4:39pm

your sigs cute

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe · 01-01-2005 4:47pm

:-P awww thanks!

Shrimp · 01-01-2005 4:50pm

lol.. yeah, kwl sig..

CathyMoran · 01-01-2005 4:52pm

Yes, there are some amazing men out there - have been fortunate to know a few of them. It is common decency to at least say if you are not interested in someone, or, if you are unsure to at least meet up once again. Natural selection weeds the nasty ones out. BTW Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe - agree, your sig is soo cute:)

gubby · 02-01-2005 12:45am

yes.. that is the sweetest sig I have ever seen... love to see love of family.
to orginal poster.. he is a not worth wasting your time with. I do understand how you feel.. (see another thread I posted wanting help for my broken hearted daughter) but in this day and age,,, text is surely not so hard. it would be so much better for you if he had just send a text saying "thanks,, but no thanks, I dont like you one little bit" but my guess is he is holding off in case he needs to get back to you.
I know its hard,, but go out and forget him. if he gets in touch again.. be polite but cool.. say you were ringing and texting him cos he were worried in case there was something wrong.. like you would for any friend.. yeah?

Mutz · 02-01-2005 1:24am

CathyMoran wrote:

... Natural selection weeds the nasty ones out. ....

MMmmmm - in a perfect world! In this one I'm living in the nasty people succeed

Booo to the bad fluffies!

Skellington · 02-01-2005 1:33am

Realtain wrote:

from a blokes point of view is he not interested??

sorry but i dont think hes interested... just move on and dont waste yer time thinkin bout him.a couple of women have done this to me, and it sucks tbh

. but you'll forget bout him next week when ya meet someone else. thats what i do anyways.
good luck.

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