Does an age gap matter

barbie girl

Hi this might sound silly but i was dating a guy 4 a while & he told me he was 20yrs old . Im 21 and didnt have a problem with this but later I found out he was only 18yrs old so we broke up. Do ya tink I was bad 2have broken up with him because he was younger than me

Shrimp

Well.. thats not that bad.. like 2 year? thats nothin

barbie girl

maybe its because im older than he was It just felt wrong Iwudnt ave a problem if i dated a 23yr old fella Am i being stupid

Tails

Yeah sounds like a strange reason to break up, if you get along with him that small age gap isnt that bad. Unless hes a really immature bastard. And on another note men tend to be pretty much developed by 18!

tk123

Shrimp 21-18 = 3!!! but yeah 2/3 years is nothing!!! If he had of said he was 24 - i.e 3 years older than you - would there have been a problem then!?
Do you regret breaking up with him barbie girl?

Shrimp

Yeah.. Like dont worry about it, I think that the age gap is fine.. He's like in the same maturity bracket as you.. you know? I personnaly would go out with a girl 2 years older and have no problem what so ever

DublinWriter

barbie girl wrote:

maybe its because im older than he was It just felt wrong Iwudnt ave a problem if i dated a 23yr old fella Am i being stupid

Er, yes, very.

"Am I happy with him?" should be the question you're asking yourself here.

I know plenty of 40 year old guys who act like 12-year-olds that I could hook you up with if age is the overriding concern.

barbie girl

If he had of said he was 24 i wudnt ave had a problem Its just he made me feel really old cause he was only in 1st yr in college & dat seems a life time ago 2 me HE did look older than 18 i ave to say

Walls

No it does not matter. But your appalling spelling might make it a little awkward when you sign the adoption papers.

barbie girl

there is nothing wrong with my spelling is there

Shrimp

Hey Barbie,

if he was preventing you from liking him because he was younger, then you had every reason to end it. What matters is your happiness, If you weren't happy with him, then you did the right thing to end it!

Btw.. your spellin is grand, fully understandable!

Stark

3 years is nothing. But I don't think it says much about him that he lied about his age in the first place, such an immature thing to do.

barbie girl

Thats wat annoyed me the most Why did he lie bout his age & thanks shrimp at least u can read & understand wat i type NOT LIKE SOME

simu

He probably lied about his age to impress you. The age gap shouldn't be a problem. (you can't be too old in your ways to understand him yourself if you still dig barbies )

ando

barbie girl wrote:

Thats wat annoyed me the most Why did he lie bout his age & thanks shrimp at least u can read & understand wat i type NOT LIKE SOME

What on earth is this young one talking about, can anyone understand what this girl is saying? Its like bla bla bla, thats all I see

I can understand you being annoyed at him lying about his age but if you both liked each other, I dont see a problem

is_that_so

21-18 = about six years of living , for an 18 year old :rolleyes: . Can see where you're coming from. If it ain't working ...... move on

gubby

I think its the lies that is bothering you barbie.. am I right? and as someone said.. if you were not happy then you were right to end it.
and by the way.
its not the spelling problem.. its called "text mode" I think,, Yeah?

b3t4

He lied to you about a simple thing like his age.

He lied as he knew that you would have a problem with it and you did.

You did what you thought was the right thing to do. If you decide to get back together with him, he will still have an insecurity about his age and you will still have a problem with his age (no matter what you try to tell yourself).

It just wasn't ment to be.

Chalk it down

CathyMoran

I dated a guy who was about the same age difference a year ago - it did not make any difference to me. Some people just have different life experiences - in the end it is how the two of you get on. Sure - he may have lied about his age but if that is the worst thing that he does I would not worry.

weemcd

Shrimp wrote:

Yeah.. Like dont worry about it, I think that the age gap is fine.. He's like in the same maturity bracket as you.. you know?

i would have to disagree strongly there, the difference between many 18 year olds and someone in their early to mid 20's is quite surprisng imo

Bottle_of_Smoke

Well i honestly believe if you liked him enough to go out with him then you're a moron for dumping him, you deserve to never find a man and dwell in spinsterism forever.

He lied so you'd give him a chance, then when he thought he could trust you he told you the truth, just cos he's 18 doesnt mean he's nothing, good luck.

Spalk0

3 years is not a big age gap!Ive allways looked older for my age and i know women in general go out with older blokes for some reason but when i was 18 i went out with a 22 year old woman for 4 months and we had no age problems at all!

she eventually fluted off back packing to Australia for a year and thats how we ended up breaking up but we had a great time together and we still talk as mates now and that was three years ago!

If ya really like him then you should give it a shot!

Shrimp

If he was willing to lie to you about his age, then would he hold back in the future. I think you made the right reason. Try not to dwel on it too much! But there are some 18 year olds who are very mature for their age! Clearly not in this case tho!

btw.. Shes perfectly easy to understand.. what are some of you's talking about!

DapperGent

Mayb u shud send him a txt to tlk about it.

Lafortezza

When the fúck do the schools start again after the new year? It won't be a minute too soon.

The Corinthian

barbie girl wrote:

Hi this might sound silly but i was dating a guy 4 a while & he told me he was 20yrs old . Im 21 and didnt have a problem with this but later I found out he was only 18yrs old so we broke up. Do ya tink I was bad 2have broken up with him because he was younger than me

Please don't ever breed.

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe

telling you he is older, was a sure way of knowing that he was trying to impress you. he likes you a lot obviously.
and i sure bet you hurt him a lot when u broke up with him.
have yiou talked to him since?