college in wales - depressed...

LegacyUser

hi,

i just wanted somewhere to talk really...i'm fed up at the moment - i left ireland to finish college in wales but am fed up with it. i wont even be able to go home at christamas. i am really lonely, i have fallen out with the one person i had here with me that i was so close to. i have also lost contact with my irish friends...one friend who i really loved just stopped contacting me in june and i dont know why. i worry and think about her and hope she is ok...im sure she is but i wonder why she just stopped contacting me like that. i guess i feel hurt or something.

anyway mainly its just the fact that im in wales for all of christamas...id love to be home for a bit! its my first xmas alone really...feckit i know im feeling sorry for myself but its christmas and i'm alone in a country i dont like!!! help!!!

anyway thats all my ranting.
unreged...

You in Aber or Cardiff?

Beruthiel

unreg_ wrote:

one friend who i really loved just stopped contacting me in june and i dont know why. i worry and think about her and hope she is ok...im sure she is but i wonder why she just stopped contacting me like that. i guess i feel hurt or something

if you were so close with this friend, why not get in contact and ask?

kleefarr

I was just wondering. Why can't you come home for Christmas?

Evilution

Pubs are open in Wales on Xmas day aren't they???

Fudger

Evilution wrote:

Pubs are open in Wales on Xmas day aren't they???

Really ? Dam it should have went there......... :mad:

Why dont you come home ?

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A friend of mine went through something very similar recently.

She moved to do a course in Wales, not Aber(ystwyth?) or Cardiff, but Carmarthen. For the first term she was really depressed because she missed home and all that stuff.

Are you living in college accomodation or rented house/flat?

I think the first thing you need to do is get in touch with your friend here. Maybe she is thinking that you don't contact her because you are having a good time in Wales? (Does she even know you are feeling like this?).

Why not ask your family to see if they can get you home for a few days over the next week or so? I know financial hindrances may not allow this however.

You might find a few heads around the college that won't be leaving either, why not try and hook up with them over the next few days, see if you can all get together on Saturday or something?

I really hope something happens for you.

You said you were close to one person over there, is this person Irish or Welsh? Maybe you could contact them, maybe and try to smooth out the differences which caused the falling out?

Did you have any Welsh friends in any of your classes, maybe you could contact them and see if you could spend some time with them over the next week or so. I'm not saying ring them and sound desperate, but maybe just say you are not heading back to Ireland, I'm sure someone will offer.

MistressPandora

I had a boyfriend who studies in Wales too, in Aberystywth. At first it was difficult for him, but after time went on, he made friends and always tried to keep in contact with his friends in Ireland, on MSN, over email and occasionally ringing them.
Try getting back in contact with your friends back at home. Try inviting them over (if at all possible) and I'm sure some of them would love to come over and see you.
It is tough, I won't deny it, but you can do this, don't worry

Third_Echelon

As you are a student, no doubt money is tight etc and im guessing thats why you wont be coming home for christmas.. I know its probably no use to you now, but you should have got yourself down to ryanair.com a few months ago to get some cheap-ass flights back to Dublin.

If you are in college campus accomodation, im sure you're not the only one in the same situation. Stick a poster up or something and offer to cook christmas dinner (pot noodle and beans also constitutes xmas dinner) or something and invite people around... good way of making friends as well.

You're the one is this situation, so you're gonna have to be pro-active about making friends. Join college socities, clubs, sports teams etc in the new year.

With regards to your irish friends, as the old saying goes 'out of sight, out of mind'... remind them that you actually still exist. Get on messenger, telephone, boards etc and get in contact. Remember communication is a two-way street. If you aint making the effort dont expect anyone else to..

Anyway, good luck with your chirstmas, and keep your ass stuck on boards... there's plenty of people to talk to here... and remember porn can be your friend in times of solitude

ShiverinEskimo

Third_Echelon wrote:

Remember communication is a two-way street. If you aint making the effort dont expect anyone else to..

Too true. I lived in England for two years, lost contact with a lot of people that I regret losing contact with. And I cant blame them...I made as much effort as they...

damnyanks

I moved over to study in Wales (Aber) this year so have felt homesick every now and then. I found it quite hard to keep in contact with people back home. Best thing to do is get all there MSN's and e-mail addresses. There is also vodafone.ie or o2.ie to text people for free.

I was fortunate to be over in Wales a month early with other students from abroad... everyone is in the same situation different country (60 miles away ) and no real family near by. So perhaps you should enjoy your christmass and when you retrun get involved in socities clubs and so on.

I know a good few people that went home from Aber in the first 2 weeks because they were home sick (Droped out). If you've stuck it out this much you should be able for hte rest of it. Which university are you at? I know Bangor and Aber have lots of Irish not sure about the rest

damnyanks

BTW I used Ryan Air to get home through Birmingham. Return train ticket cost £20 and flights cost £50 (For return). You can also get the ferry over but it works out only a few pounds cheaper for a journey that takes around 5 hours longer