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Need some advice

  • 17-12-2004 11:13pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey ppl,
    Basically, my problem is this. I'm a 19 year old female and I just have no self esteem whatsoever. I think absolutely nothing of myself. I put up with **** from my ex-boyfriend because I didn't think I deserved any better. I feel inferior to so many people. I just need some advice.


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  • #2
    Victor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 78,580 ✭✭✭✭Victor


    shylow wrote:
    I put up with **** from my ex-boyfriend because I didn't think I deserved any better.
    If he's giving you trouble, just cut him off, ignore him, move on.


  • #3
    The_Conductor
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 32,286 Mod ✭✭✭✭The_Conductor


    shylow wrote:
    Hey ppl,
    Basically, my problem is this. I'm a 19 year old female and I just have no self esteem whatsoever. I think absolutely nothing of myself. I put up with **** from my ex-boyfriend because I didn't think I deserved any better. I feel inferior to so many people. I just need some advice.

    Why don't you join a few clubs that you're interested in- whatever your hobbies are. Have a bit of fun, enjoy life. Don't go looking for a guy- just go and enjoy yourself- when you are happier with yourself and in a peaceful state of mind- you will over time build up your own self-esteem. The person who can best help you is- you- just go easy on yourself.

    Take care.


  • #4
    atlantis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 33 ✭atlantis


    My advice would be the same as smccarrick's. if you're in colloge then it should be easy enough to find a soc that does something that you are interested in. join them and take part in all the activities and that should help to build some confidence and help build up your self esteem. Good luck.


  • #5
    Kell
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭Kell


    shylow wrote:
    Hey ppl,
    Basically, my problem is this. I'm a 19 year old female and I just have no self esteem whatsoever. I think absolutely nothing of myself. I put up with **** from my ex-boyfriend because I didn't think I deserved any better. I feel inferior to so many people. I just need some advice.

    Theres a reason for you low self esteem. It never just "happens". Something in the past that only you know has triggered a self-defeating chain of events that leads to your low self esteem and lack of self worth.

    Take a good hard look at yourself and rather go "how do I do something about my self esteem" think "what caused it". You might find the answer on your own, you might need help, but whatever it is you need to have a serious think about it.

    Joining social clubs puts a plaster over a symptom, and thats what low self esteem is- a symptom of a deeper issue. It wont help you long term.

    K-


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