WHY me LIFE SUCKS

Nightshiftguy

SO last week I lost my 4 close relative in 6 weeks now I find out my jobs gone in the new year.. WHY ME

DirtyDog

Sorry to hear your bad news, sometimes life seems to kick you when your down - Only think you can do is try pick your self up and tell your self, new year, new start....

koneko

I know it doesn't sound like much, but things can only get better from here. Hang in there.

Condolences, too

Nightshiftguy

Thats a very true statement... Things can't possibly get any worse.... Its annoying thoug I was just getting on track with paying old debts and stuff and feeling positive and stuff now its all going down hill again. I do really home that things work out.. thanks everyone.

koneko

Maybe you can use this opportunity to shake things up, to change things you weren't happy with. If you weren't happy with the type of work you were doing, or the direction it was taking, or anything along those lines. Like Dirty Dog said, a fresh start for a new year.
Take time aside for yourself each day, to relax, to do something you enjoy or just listen to music and take it easy. You've had a lot of ****ty things happen and I wouldn't be surprised if you were pretty damn stressed at this point.

Nightshiftguy

Stressed ain't the word for it.. I'm lucky I have a very understanding fiancee. she manages to put up with my moodieness and loves me no matter what. SHe is soooo wonderful. Am very lucky.. Just when I am away from her while in work I feel lost, pi$$eed off with no motivation. But your right I need to get this sorted.

ven0m

Dude - as someone (probably like many out there) who's had life kick them repeatedly & sometimes one kick after another, trust me when I say it WILL get better, & things will improve. You've had alot to deal with of recent & life has really tested you with that - all u can do is take each day as it comes, deal with one problem at a time & always remember what's good that you have; an understanding & loving fiancé for a start......build from there... you have your health too - i know they're small things, but it's worth starting small!!!


::: ven0mous :::

Nightshiftguy

I get ya aim small to get big... I wouldn't wish this on anyone. So on the bright side anyone got any job offers for me. Lol.. Sorry need a little bit of laughter in my life

mycroft

Nightshiftguy wrote:

Stressed ain't the word for it.. I'm lucky I have a very understanding fiancee. she manages to put up with my moodieness and loves me no matter what. SHe is soooo wonderful. Am very lucky.. Just when I am away from her while in work I feel lost, pi$$eed off with no motivation. But your right I need to get this sorted.

Yeah I sympathise, I lost my job on Thursday (necessary redundacy structural change blah blah blah) I'm alot better off than some of the other people let go. On top of that it's a year and a week after my uncle took his own life, about a half dozen friends of mine have finished long term relationships, including my best mate who's so fed up she's moving back to Australia. Everyone around me is hurting alot right now. But like you I have the love of a good woman, I just want to cope with the holidays and approach the new year with a new frame of mind. Focus on the good stuff and have a good christmas and then approach the new year with a new frame of mind, is my plan, you should try the same

Trojan

Check out jobhuntersbible.com as a good place to start. It's the site for "What Colour is My Parachute" - recommended book. "Who moved my cheese" allegedly helps a lot of people when stuff like this happens, check it out too (it's a 10 minute read).

Al.

Nightshiftguy

I shall give that a reed tonight when I get home thanks

RicardoSmith

Sorry to hear about the bad news. But theres good times with the bad. Try to focus on those and wait for them to come around again. As they always do.

ixoy

You've got my sympathies too. Like yourself and mycroft, the evil forces of capitalism have struck me in the last weeks and my job's gone too. I thankfully don't have some of the other burdens you have, but I know how dispiriting some of this may feel. I'm going to take the positive angle on this and hope it leads me somewhere more interesting than where I was and see if it can't all, in the end, be character building. Stick with your friends and loved ones now and don't feel the need to have it go it alone 'coz they do and will care.

Zulu

We are defined by how we act when we are down.

Keep the chin up dude. Fu*k 'em all; bring it on. You can beat this sh1t.

MojoMaker

Funny how the all-consuming issue with the girlfriend from last week has now taken a back seat, as will the relatives next week.

Don't feed the troll or by Christmas Eve he'll have an inoperable brain tumour.

parker larkin

nightshift, man you're having a really tough time. Make sure and draw on all your support, family friends therapy anything and everything that will get you through this terrible time.
I know when my friend's mother died last spring and she lost her job at the same time it turned out to be (by her own admission) a bit of a blessing because by temping she had more of a chance to grieve and less pressure to get up and go to work everyday.

Take care of yourself and things will ease. All the best.

Horsefumbler

you work the nightshift yeah?

Nightshiftguy

What u on about g/f troubles I had troubles with the inlaws big differance and I am not a troll.. Jeasus one person always tries to fcuk things up.. I'm here for help god damn it.

Nightshiftguy

I used to work night shift not any more

Beruthiel

MojoMaker wrote:

Don't feed the troll or by Christmas Eve he'll have an inoperable brain tumour.

Mojo
please leave the Mods of this forum to make that decision
mmkay?
B

DirtyDog

Opinions are like ar**holes everyone's got one...

Dont mind the ones who try bring you down, they obiously deal with things in a different way. Take the positive from the negative !!

Nightshiftguy

Thank you for your support dirty dog

Nightshiftguy

the realisation kicked in today that no job after 24th am soooo down today really depressed forgotten what the meaning of it all is. I feel I have let everyone down espaically my Wonderful g/f. HOw to get a job this time of year, as hard as i try it seems impossible. Why o why do i bother at all.

RicardoSmith

Realisitically you'd be off for christmas even if you are working. Try and pick up anything for Jan though. Better to be busy even if the money is not great, and in a different area.

DirtyDog

Nightshiftguy wrote:

my Wonderful g/f.

Thats why you bother and dont forget that, so as RicardoSmith said you'd be off over christmas anyway, so enjoy the break and start afresh next year.

And changing jobs is like changing underwear - you dont want to do it at first but when you do your glad you did

Keep the chin up

Nightshiftguy

But i was going to be working over xmas. And earning money no i shall not be doing either!

DirtyDog

I know its hard, but dont dwell on it, take the break, enjoy christmas, spend the time with your fantastic GF and start a fresh in the new year.

KdjaCL

Nightshiftguy wrote:

SO last week I lost my 4 close relative in 6 weeks now I find out my jobs gone in the new year.. WHY ME

It could always be worse never tempt faith , i getting bullet next thurs but hey **** it , its only a job. Im sure we find somfin in new year. Sorry about relatives my mother in intenvie care atm after brian surgery.

Tis all swings and roundabouts , sure it can suck but hey when surrounded by people you love makes it all worthwhile.

Dirtydog wrote:

Thats why you bother and dont forget that

How utterly utterly priceless , totally pissed meself laughing at that.

kdjac

DirtyDog

KdjaC wrote:

How utterly utterly priceless , totally pissed meself laughing at that.

kdjac

Some people are best ignored.....