Girl Friend age difference :(

LegacyUser

Ok Ive started meeting to woman, Im 24 but look alot older like 29 ish, Ive been getting on great with her and like wise, but the other night I told her my birthday was soon and of course the question was asked, hold old 25, the woman went into complete shock, she is just gone 32 and is a really nice person, but I think this has really affected her view towards me due to my age, what do ye think should we try to make this work or just walk away from it ??

Maoltuile

ft5j60j wrote:

Ok Ive started meeting to woman, Im 24 but look alot older like 29 ish, Ive been getting on great with her and like wise, but the other night I told her my birthday was soon and of course the question was asked, hold old 25, the woman went into complete shock, she is just gone 32 and is a really nice person, but I think this has really affected her view towards me due to my age, what do ye think should we try to make this work or just walk away from it ??

Nothing as bad as regretting a missed opportunity...

- having said that, in my experience (ahem), this comes down to the two of you making sure that you're both on the same wavelength about whether/when you want to have children, and such. If not, then the long-term prospects may not be good.

smiaras

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AngelofFire

You`re both above the legal age, i personally dont see anything wrong with it.

Beruthiel

ft5j60j wrote:

Ok Ive started meeting to woman, Im 24 but look alot older like 29 ish, Ive been getting on great with her and like wise, but the other night I told her my birthday was soon and of course the question was asked, hold old 25, the woman went into complete shock, she is just gone 32 and is a really nice person, but I think this has really affected her view towards me due to my age, what do ye think should we try to make this work or just walk away from it ??

of course it can work
if ye both want it to
my b/f of 5 years now is exactly 8 years younger than me, so what? if both your heads are in the same place it makes no difference whatsoever - that's the all important thing though, if she has a thing in her head about babies for example and you are not ready yet, well then it probably won't work.
My advice is talk to her, find out what she wants/expects in the next 5 years or so and take it from there.

petes

ft5j60j wrote:

Ok Ive started meeting to woman, Im 24 but look alot older like 29 ish, Ive been getting on great with her and like wise, but the other night I told her my birthday was soon and of course the question was asked, hold old 25, the woman went into complete shock, she is just gone 32 and is a really nice person, but I think this has really affected her view towards me due to my age, what do ye think should we try to make this work or just walk away from it ??

I am also in the same position as you. My girlfriend is just gone 31 and on my next birthday will be 25. We have been going out for 5 months now and everything is great. As people have already said here, it depends on what you both want out of the relationship. She did have a slight problem with the difference when we first started going out but we are over that now
If there is a strong attraction between the two of you then hopefully you can overcome this. Best of luck.

The Corinthian

ft5j60j wrote:

Ok Ive started meeting to woman, Im 24 but look alot older like 29 ish, Ive been getting on great with her and like wise, but the other night I told her my birthday was soon and of course the question was asked, hold old 25, the woman went into complete shock, she is just gone 32 and is a really nice person, but I think this has really affected her view towards me due to my age, what do ye think should we try to make this work or just walk away from it ??

Sounds like she has more of an issue than you, TBH. Having said that, when I was 24 I had a girlfriend who was 30. While odd at first, you get over the age gap after a short while.

However questions can arise before long for other reasons. Most notable is the question of children - once in her thirties, a woman’s biological clock is ticking wildly. She may well be ready (and biologically need) to have a child, but you won’t. Conversely, if still together in ten years, you may want to father a child, but you won’t realistically be able to with her. Like it or not, unless both parties are honestly against parenthood from the onset, the procreation thing is ultimately going to be pretty central to it all.

So, it ultimately depends on what you’re both looking for in that regard.

Evilution

ft5j60j wrote:

Ok Ive started meeting to woman, Im 24 but look alot older like 29 ish, Ive been getting on great with her and like wise, but the other night I told her my birthday was soon and of course the question was asked, hold old 25, the woman went into complete shock, she is just gone 32 and is a really nice person, but I think this has really affected her view towards me due to my age, what do ye think should we try to make this work or just walk away from it ??

I can't help but laugh at this one mate. You made a right ar$e of that. Should've lied and told her you were 29. Nice one on the older woman thing though.
Although, that said, women are coy creatures. She may have actually known you were younger than you appeared. Don't be surprised if things work out ok.

MidnightQueen

Well to me age dont make a difference. If u like the girl then go for it! If u look round the age of 29, then you have nothing to worry about!

cajun_tiger

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i tend to date younger men.. but from what i've gathered from this she might just be a little shocked. i know when i foud out a guy i was seening was the same age it was a bt disapointing but i got over it

petes

Evilution wrote:

I can't help but laugh at this one mate. You made a right ar$e of that. Should've lied and told her you were 29. Nice one on the older woman thing though.
Although, that said, women are coy creatures. She may have actually known you were younger than you appeared. Don't be surprised if things work out ok.

thats great...start the relationship out with a lie?? better to have things out in the open at the start...and i dont think he made an arse of that...how could he?? he told her the truth...