Am I wrong for calling out partners daughter?

Danni21

I’ve been with my partner for almost two years, know him longer and we live together. He has children from his previous relationship, currently going through divorce. His eldest daughter (19) has not always been the easiest. I’ve been empathetic because I know divorce is tough on kids and tried to hear her when she talks about things. She can be downright nasty to be honest and i’ve been the bigger person until this point. I have gone above and beyond to make an effort with her brought her for lunch, made a fuss of her in my home, tried to arrange dinners to celebrate her achievements. She can be nice and we got on well a lot of the time. However she has a habit of making nasty digs and snide remarks to me and my partner. Told me she’s delighted I don’t have kids because she’d hate them. Makes rude comments about my partners appearance, his weight. Tries to create friction by bringing up the past and pulling out pictures of my partner and his ex and she’ll say in the same breath she knows her dad hates it. We had a family get together for my partners birthday recently and they were all playing ball with the kids and my partner accidentally got my with the football to which she responded oh he’s just trying to fix your face. The list of comments is endless. She’s tried to tell me how much she hates her mam before and I didn’t bite because it feels like I was being bated to say something negative. This same girl has aggressively squared up to her own grandmother who is in her 70s. I finally reached breaking point as she told me a couple of weeks back she was raped a couple of years ago (she has a habit of telling lies). I was devastated to hear this and worried sick about her, not for one minute did it even enter my mind she’d made it up. She told me she didn’t tell her mam or dad. I didn’t want to betray her trust but was worried sick and didn’t know what to do. I confided in my partners SIL who told me it’s lies that she made up a similar story before and was caught out lying. I told my partner and he confirmed the same thing that it was lies and he’s sick of her behaviour. I told my partner I didn’t want her in my home. She’s been down twice and I made an effort for his sake. Then at a family gathering her and her bf arrived down to stay over. My partner hadn’t told me. She arrived with an attitude. I had had a couple of drinks and ended up reading her the riot act and she left. I’m disappointed in myself with my delivery and that I had been drinking but I had more than enough at this point and to make up a story like that is unforgivable at any age. Am I in the wrong?

HildaOgdenx

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