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kabakuyu

Bulgaria.

Jim2007

You might want to start with an inventory of:

• What skills do you have?
• What languages do you speak?
• What savings do you have
• Will you be able to get medical cover
• What happens in 20 years time when you hit retirement age
• and so on

You also need to understand that people in their 40s:

• Do have kids
• Do have family members to care for
• Do have an established social support network
• Tend to have a focus on home life

I have lived abroad for over three decades and have seen many people come and go over the years and honestly I very much doubt that your motivation for moving abroad is going to be enough to get you through the initial years.

For example, I'm retired now, so I don't have the same kind of social interaction I had when I worked. Very few people around me speak English, so most of my social interaction is done in the local Germanic dialect. Furthermore, I was in hospital last week having cataract surgery, again that was all done through the German language. This is the kind of stuff that they don't teach you in language school, but it is the daily reality. How would you deal with something like that?

Some where like Slovenia might be an idea, but most likely you'd need to have a good command of the language to truly establish a life there.

Citizen Six

Galway

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blingrhino

Thailand.

Land of smiles.

Tork

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123469207#Comment_123469207

Have you spoken to your GP about this? That's not a good frame of mind to be in here in Ireland, let alone abroad.

suvigirl

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I think maybe you would benefit from some counseling OP. Whatever about moving abroad, they can help you sort out your head and help you focus on what you want out of your life.

Just moving won't solve your issues. Best of luck

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n.d.os

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We all face different challenges in life. I have kids but not many friends—at least, no close ones. Lately, I’ve been trying to make more of an effort to engage with people every day. Since I mostly work alone, I grab a coffee daily and chat with people while I wait. I also started knocking on the door of my neighboring office, where a man twice my age has worked alone for 20 years. At first, we seemed completely different, but now we chat every day. Maybe these types of interactions would work for you too if you find it hard to trust people.

If you’d like more interaction with children but don’t have your own, maybe try childminding or join a local group that helps kids with different activities. You’ve got it in you. Sometimes, just one small change can make all the difference.

NIMAN

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I think it sounds like you are expecting your old friends to still have the same relationship with you that they had when you were all teenagers or early 20s.

But you have to accept that their lives have changed A LOT since those days.

Those of us who have kids, well those kids more or less take over rhe majority of your life. They are very time demanding, from birth to their late teens. They need looked after, driven to places, taken to training, football matches, gymnastics etc. Parents have no choice but to do these things. As an example, me and the OH have 2 days out of 7 that the kids aren't doing anything outside of the home. Some weeks it's only 1 day.

The fact you are now angry because your old friends can't give up time to spend with you is on you I'm afraid. My social life died a death when I had kids. And it's the same for all my friends I knew who also had kids. We do meet up occasionally, but it's rare.

I know the odd friend who never married and who is single now with no kids. Im not sure if he wants to go drinking for a couple of hours on a Friday night, but he knows the likelihood of getting his old mates out to go drinking is slim. So he probably doesn't ask. We sometimes look on these people with envy that they have free time to do whatever they want, but I wouldn't swap places with them.

So you are free but your friends aren't, it's just the way your lives worked out. Not sure if you made the conscious decision to be child free or not. But there is still a lot of stuff you can do as a singleton. Theres loads of others like you out there, go meet them. Solo travel is massive, and gives you the chance to meet new people and see new places us old married folk can only dream of.

BorneTobyWilde

Somewhere along the Med , Menton,