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Shocked

  • 06-10-2024 7:19pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11


    Hi just typing this in shock was seeing a man who for 5 weeks adored me constantly texting and telling me how much he wanted me etc we speak for hours nightly I really thought at last I've found a connection he grew to be a friend and partner so I thought......a week ago my mum passed away I've been obviously lost in grief so might have not seen the signs but 3 days after I buried my mam he dumped me so out of the blue saying he wasn't feeling it anymore yet was telling me 48 hours previously I was his girlfriend n he was proud to be mine.....I asked him to be my boyfriend a few days ago he said he would love to be and never showed any hint of not wanting me I'm now left in shock is what he did normal behaviour 💔

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 670 ✭✭✭Sonic the Shaghog


    Look up the term "love bombing"

    It's a bullet dodged believe me. Take your time to heal but you'll realise he's a bit of an ape.

    So sorry about your mother 😔



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 563 ✭✭✭CliffHangeroner


    Sorry for your loss.

    Mark this one down to experience and don't try and make sense of it.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,716 ✭✭✭✭Jim_Hodge


    So sorry about your mother.

    5 weeks is nothing and it sounds like it was far too intense and over-the-top to be healthy. His behaviour in itself, with constant texting etc, should gave been a warning sign. Take time for yourself and next time take it slowly.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,234 ✭✭✭✭Dial Hard


    Textbook love-bombing, as others have said. It might be helpful to do some reading up on it when you feel ready.

    Very sorry for your loss.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,979 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    Sorry to hear about your loss, focus on processing that and the the grief and surround yourself with friends/family if you have them.

    As others have said this ‘relationship’ was red flag city. Somebody can’t suddenly be your ‘partner’ after only 5 weeks. It’s too much and not healthy for either party. You can’t jump right into the middle of a solid relationship at the shake of a lambs tail. Next time, take things slowly and realise this was the loss of what you wanted, not what you actually had.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,439 ✭✭✭✭Purple Mountain


    So sorry for the loss of your mother but consider this break up a bullet dodged.

    To thine own self be true



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