Wheelchair Parking spots - Discrimination

Nodferatu

I'm a 40 year old male, my wife is 37 and she has alot of health issues which I won't delve Into as I'd be here all day and night, but basically she has an auto-immune disease, and there's days she can walk and theres days where she needs a walking stick and can't walk far as shes in a lot of pain. Most days she needs the walking stick when going out anywhere.

She has a disability card for the car for disability parking but we try not to use them if there's a spot near to the disability parking spot we try to use that instead.

But one thing I have noticed more and more and more and it's bringing me to the reason to this post, is that we find we get dirty looks and stares whenever we park in a disability spot. It's pretty much everytime we go out now, we get filthy angry looks and staring, and again happened today an older lady walked by us as I was parking the car and she looked back at us in disgust 3 times. It annoys and angers me to no end. To the point I flash up the disability card to them and a few occasions I have actually confronted people. My wife gets very embarrassed and feels mortified. But why should she!? Doctors don't just hand out disability cards for free. You need to be genuinely disabled. It pisses me off we live in a society that looks at us like 'oh how dare you park in a disabled spot, you're young, why would YOU need that space, you couldn't possibly be sick!' Sorry but some illnesses are invisible.

I hate it for my wife and I hate that she has to be made to feel that little when out. Anyone that knows me knows I'm the quietest person I've never been in a fight or argument in my life and I hate confrontation, but this is something that I will actually confront someone over. I will hop out of the car and flash her disability card at them. Nobody knows what she goes through, nobody knows her health condition and issues she fights everyday, I just hate it for her and wish people would just F**K off and mind their own f**king business.

Has anyone else got this discriminatory attitude thrown at them or similar situation?

Ezeoul

Yes, I have received some such looks but I just glare back at them.

I also wouldn't give them the satisfaction of confronting them or of flashing the blue badge at them. As long as you have a badge on display, and are legally parked, you owe no one an explanation. Walk away with yours and your wife's heads up.

It's an awful pity there isn't such judgement of those who park in disability spaces WITHOUT a badge.

As an aside, get one of these for your windscreen.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/not-disabilities-visible-sticker/s?k=not+all+disabilities+are+visible+sticker

Personally, I like this one, but its out of stock!

elperello

I saw a sign on an accessible toilet in the UK yesterday.

It said "Some disabilities are not visible".

Perhaps more of these would raise awareness and make people stop to think before they rush to judge others.

Nodferatu

I do like that, that's a good idea to put on the car. I may have to buy some stickers to put on the side windows

JVince

Saw a sign on a car in Liverpool that read something like this

"My disability is not noticeable, but I'll gladly swap it with any ailment you may have and park in the furthest spot there is too."

It was hand written and laminated.

Ted222

Avoid eye contact. Seriously. You’re not answerable to these people.

By accepting and acknowledging the glare, their work is done. They have successfully communicated their displeasure without having to say a word.

If their resolve is such that they contract you and speak to you directly, you have the opportunity to confirm that you’re legitimately parked perhaps with the kicker that not all disabilities are visible.

I think these people’s intentions are generally good - they just get a bit carried away. They don’t want to see these spaces used by those who don’t have a disability and they’re policing on their behalf. It’s a way of preventing a free-for-all and of ensuring that these spaces remain available for those who need them, yourselves included.

Cork Lass

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122512826#Comment_122512826

I take this action when people say it to me. I thank them for being considerate and “looking out for” people who need these spaces. I used to get angry but there’s no point in that. I was told recently though that about one third of badges in circulation are fake - now that’s something to get angry about.

bmc58

In my experience the DDAI parking card is being abused by quite a few people over the past several years by people and thus is leading to sceptisim of certain people who have a legitimate Disable Parking card.If one has a legitimate parking card, pay no head to anyone who seems to question you.Just park and go about your buisness.