Predicament: Help Required!!

Facthunt

I’ve been moved out of home about 2 years now! No problem there!

However on a recent return on the search for some of my possessions to take to my new place I realised that a few storage boxes had been removed without my concent and discarded without my knowledge! It’s either my parents or siblings! Some items were sentimental from deceased relatives but also I had some cash in there. Only a small amount … but still had some! I’ve not confronted the issue head on and to be honest I don’t know how to without losing my temper at present! I have been told they have been taken to the rubbish tip as it “looked like” rubbish!

Writing this is upsetting me to a degree …. But I am lost for words!

igCorcaigh

OP:

Prepare your feelings and reasons.

Write them down (paper, digital, whatever). Review it a few times, and make sure the wording is respectful but sincere.

When you are ready, and when you think the time is good for your parents or siblings to be receptive, convey these thoughts in a calm and measured way.

Obviously, nothing can be done about your belongings now, but let them know that you feel aggrieved about their action, and would appreciate an apology.

suvigirl

If you haven't confronted it, then how did someone tell you they were thrown out as rubbish?

kabakuyu

2 years is a long time for someone to be looking at your belongings,you should have collected them sooner or else hired a storage unit.

Facthunt

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122438252#Comment_122438252

At present I have only asked where they were and that was the answer I was given! I think a stage of shock took over at the time!

Inside I am angry. It’s been playing on my mind the last few days!

Jim_Hodge

If it's gone, it's gone. Probably a genuine lack of thought. It was there for 2 years. Move on. Life's too short.

Facthunt

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122438259#Comment_122438259

A good point I suppose!

Two years?

If you didn’t want/need the box contents during that period, I think it is unreasonable to expect them to continue to be stored without an update from you, and reasonable for your family to think they are unwanted.

Pauliedragon

OP losing your temper with family rarely ends well. As igCorcaigh says above take a breath and calmly try and find a way to let them know you aren't happy with them throwing out your stuff.

the_amazing_raisin

While I'd generally agree that if you didn't come looking for it in 2 years then people might assume it's junk, it's also worth remembering that it's 2024 and these things called smartphones exist

It wouldn't take much for the OPs family members to send a picture of the boxes and say something like "clearing some space, can you take these boxes or should we dump them?"

A little bit of asking or forewarning can go a long way to avoiding most arguments

Leg End Reject

Did you ask your family to hold onto the boxes or just leave them behind and say nothing? It's possible they thought you didn't want them and no one would even think there was money in them.

(Also, please take it handy with the exclamation marks, it's the written equivalent of a hyperactive teenager.)