Abusive Teenager

WitsEnd99

As the title says we are at our wits end.

A bit of background. We have 4 kids in the house the oldest being a 15 year old..

The 15 year old to put it bluntly has turned the house into a horrible place to be. It's domestic violence but obviously isn't treated as such when they are under 18.

They are massively aggressive towards everyone else in the house. They constantly make threats about hurting other kids and or anyone else they engage with.

They have broken windows, doors, walls, ripped shelves off walls. Broken TVs, PS controllers, PS consoles etc.. They have damaged the outside of the house including damage to the shed, cars so on. Basically they get mad and break stuff and this happens multiple times a week.

We have been through Tusla and Chamns with the teenager but a lot of their feedback has been around therapy but he has been in and out of therapy for years. With no success.

We are at the end of the road here. Our other kids are having their own childhoods ruined and we see no end in sight.

We have tried the hard approach. We have tried the soft approach. Nothing seems to work.

I'm really lost as to what we can do next. We can't throw away another 3 years of our own lives and the childhoods of our other kids. It's just not fair to ask of them.

What options are available here? Has anyone gone through similar and been able to get support that is beyond "having a chat" with the teenager and hoping they change their ways.

If this is the incorrect forum please move.

shesty

Have you got any support from any of the agencies?Any diagnosis of anything?Do you know what the root cause is at all?Is he in school?Do the school have any thoughts?

Wanderer78

theres clearly some sort of disorders at play here, aggression can be part of a million and one disorders including bipolar, asd, adhd, etc etc, is there any family history of such disorders?