Lost romantic attraction to partner. How the hell did this happen?

JackieChang

Thanks to those who gave serious responses

Furze99

Maybe erectile dysfunction, what age are you? Common enough anyway. Take one of the wee blue pills, Sildenafil / Viagra.

There's 'love' and there's 'sex' - kinda different things that sometimes overlap. If you were having sex quite happily a while back and you still think there's a good relationship between you etc etc., then check out the ED.

YellowLead

Are you sexually attracted to others? Just trying to see if it’s an overall lack of interest in sex / low libido issue.

Have either of you changed physically since the start of dating?

It’s such a tough decision to make, I really feel for you but also applaud your honesty with her because yes everybody deserves a sex life where their partner wants them.

Hannibal_Smith

Is there anything I can do to fix this? She has tried putting on lingerie etc but I'm just not into it.

If you've broken up with her OP, then the horse has already bolted. Fixing your relationship isn't possible?

If you think you have a medical issue then go see your GP.

radiotrickster

If you hadn’t already broken up, I would have recommended you try a week or two away together on holidays, if you could manage it.

Getting away from the stresses and normality of everyday life to spend time with only your partner and enjoying their company can bring the spark back to a relationship.

But if you’ve officially split up, I’m afraid you’ll just need to focus on moving forward, OP.

Loafing Oaf

How the hell did this happen?

Happens to virtually all marriages/LTRs in the end OP. If you scroll back this forum you'll find countless threads started by guys who have had this experience, some within an even shorter time frame.

I don't think Humpty Dumpty of this relationship can be put back together but something you may need to consider going forward is that this is just how you are built sexually, that the same thing would very likely be happening if you were with Margot Robbie or Scarlett Johannson. So you may ultimately have to make a choice between 'commitment' and sexual fulfilment.

RossGeller

Are you sexually attracted to other women?

Tork

Is this the same partner you said you'd broken up with last June? The one who was supposedly going to take over the lease of the house? Just days after moving into a premises beside a halting site...

Jim_Hodge

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120949801#Comment_120949801

And hadn't the partner started a new relationship already?

JackieChang

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120949801#Comment_120949801

Yes, breaking up after 5 years together. It takes a lot of time if you don't hate eachother and neither of us did anything bad to eachother.

YellowLead

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120950233#Comment_120950233

What’s with the questioning of it all now? If you are broken up surely it is done? What consequence is it if you are sexually attracted to her now or not?

Hannibal_Smith

OP deleted thread closed.

HS