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Partners Son -How to approach this

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  • 12-04-2023 2:35pm
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    howdoyoudo2103
    Registered Users Posts: 13 ✭


    Hi all, bit of a dilemma that hopefully someone might be able to give me pointers on. I have been with my partner for almost 4 years, living together for 2 years. Recently I got a suspicion someone was urinating in the wash hand basins in the home. I started seeing yellow stains, odour and the occasional pubic hair. Turns out its her teenage son who is doing this, I saw him a while ago through a not fully closed door and since have checked the sink every time he has used the toilet, plus I never hear a flush.

    I don’t know how to bring this to my partners attention without hurting her feelings, apart from it being disgusting it’s not normal behaviour for a 16 year old and if it was my son I’d like to know so I could look into the reason why. Any advice appreciated



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    Girl Geraldine
    Registered Users Posts: 436 ✭✭Girl Geraldine


    You should tell his mother and she can deal with him.



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    HildaOgdenx
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 6,491 Mod ✭✭✭✭HildaOgdenx


    Mod - Moved to Parenting where it is more suited.

    Local charter now applies.

    Hilda



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    howdoyoudo2103
    Registered Users Posts: 13 ✭howdoyoudo2103


    This is what I want to do but I don’t know how to approach it sensitively



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    Mr. CooL ICE
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    Tell the mother and leave it up to her to deal with it. Don't deal with it yourself.



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    howdoyoudo2103
    Registered Users Posts: 13 ✭howdoyoudo2103


    I think the point of my post has already been lost, I don’t want to or intend to deal with it myself, I just want to bring it to his mothers attention but not sure how!!



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    Furze99
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    If OP is male, then he's 'man of the house' and also in a position to advise. Be very surprising if the lad's mother isn't aware of this pretty strange behaviour, maybe there was some issues years ago when he a toddler and learning to pee in the toilet and wetting the floor. What happens when he's out or in school etc? You can't just find a handy wash basin without being noticed.



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    Furze99
    Registered Users Posts: 10,343 ✭✭✭✭Furze99


    https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120469358#Comment_120469358

    Well in that case, you just raise it - "I noticed this or that and wonder does 'Johnny' have a bit of a problem here. What can we do to help him?"



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    shesty
    Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 6,894 Mod ✭✭✭✭shesty


    Yeah, I think you just raise it when you have a chance to speak privately - "look I noticed this seems to be going on, what do you think we could do to help?"



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