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Do you see your ex everywhere or is it just me?

  • 25-01-2023 7:50pm
    Registered Users Posts: 8,459 ✭✭✭

    I keep seeing women who either look like my ex or it actually is her, im not sure. we broke up about 8 years ago, awful relationship that was on and off for 2 or 3 years. Haven't seen her in 6 years thankfully or have I? She doesn't live in my local town but she isn't 100 miles away as far as I know. Its either her, someone who looks exactly like her or i'm going crazy and am imagining it. really weird.

    what is going on? does it happen to you?


  • Registered Users Posts: 5,554 ✭✭✭Jequ0n

    I have difficulty recognising faces at times so I can relate.

    There are a lot of women who look the same because they just have the same generic faces/ styles. Probably applies to men too.

    But why would you care?

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,459 ✭✭✭pgj2015

    It was worse when everyone was wearing masks in the supermarkets.

    True though, dark haired Irish men who are overweight and have a beard all look the same in my opinion, my enemy looks like that and I keep seeing him everywhere as well and its weird when its not him and the guy turns out to be really sound. 😂

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,083 ✭✭✭Karppi

    It’s a sign you still have a thing for her.

  • Registered Users Posts: 24,044 ✭✭✭✭Strumms

    I saw one recently on social media, a suggested page thing, for her business. I thought two things..

    1) she looked very well, happy and healthy and good luck to her…

    2) by some of the behaviour that was going down with her in the last few months, I dodged a bullet, quite a high caliber one… I need to be faster to listen to the opinions of friends and family, made the right decision in the end to fire her into orbit but probably should have done so, a year sooner…. But escaped, gleefully, in the nick of time.

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,459 ✭✭✭pgj2015

    That had crossed my mind, if she hadn't been such a nightmare I doubt id have ever broke up with her but Id never get back with her, she is married now as well and the poor guy has a hard time with her I hear.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 8,302 ✭✭✭Gregor Samsa

    Nothing to do with an ex, but a few years ago, my Dad ended up in Beaumont hospital with what turned out to be a heart attack - but unbeknownst to us, he was also suffering from dementia. I went up to see him one morning, and he was asleep on his bed, so I came back an hour later, and he was gone, but all his stuff was still there. He had basically upped and wandered off without telling anyone. I had to help search the hospital and grounds for him. I remember standing outside and everywhere I looked, I'd see him. It would be exactly him, until they turned around or came closer and then it wasn't him at all. I was so tuned in to looking for him that any little resemblance - the same colour hair, the same type of glasses, a similar jacket would instantly trigger as a 100% match for a second.

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,297 ✭✭✭Count Dracula

    It does and would happen if you are pining heavily over someone who you were very fond of, completely squashed the relationship and ignored you ever since. The unanswered madness, as to how someone who you felt really liked you, was actually capable of hurting you in such a painful way, is indescribable. But the post-traumatic stress of dealing with such an emotional parasite could easily manifest itself with deluded visons or optical illusions of seeing them around. Your mind is a powerful thing, never underestimate what it can do to you.

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,459 ✭✭✭pgj2015

    Yeah but it was 8 or 9 years ago and 3 months after the break up I was glad we broke up.

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,297 ✭✭✭Count Dracula

    I would still find exes physically attractive for sure.

    Have you ever had a one night stand or brief fling with an ex from your past, they can be rare, but they do happen.

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,459 ✭✭✭pgj2015

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  • Registered Users Posts: 32,629 ✭✭✭✭Princess Consuela Bananahammock

    How do you even know what my ex looks like...? Who are you?

    If this post contains the phrase "we're done here" it means I've proven what I set out to prove and I don't want to keep going round in circles.

    It's not about "winning" it's about illustrating a point.

  • Registered Users Posts: 502 ✭✭✭The DayDream

    Does thinking about her when I'm having a wink count?

  • Registered Users Posts: 728 ✭✭✭20Wheel

    My enemy. 😀

    You have an actual nemesis?

    Eye patch and henchmen. Always 1 step ahead.

    Putin is a dictator. Putin should face justice at the Hague. All good Russians should work to depose Putin. Russias war in Ukraine is illegal and morally wrong.

  • Registered Users Posts: 728 ✭✭✭20Wheel

    I keep seeing my ex every time I walk down the toilet paper isle.

    Putin is a dictator. Putin should face justice at the Hague. All good Russians should work to depose Putin. Russias war in Ukraine is illegal and morally wrong.

  • Registered Users Posts: 20,236 ✭✭✭✭yourdeadwright

    I see a lot of former flames or one night stands around the place,

    There isn't one i wouldn't be nice to & stop and chat with , there all decent people just get on your nerves if your in a relationship with them or have issues that don't effect you as friends but would be as a couple ,

    I wouldn't be "friends " with any of them as there's no need to be,

    In the end of the day im glad there all ex's as i wouldn't swap the wife for any of them on her worst day & there best one ,

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,278 ✭✭✭corner of hells

    I don't see any of mine , on a side note of my exs has been married three times in 15 years. She seemed quite normal when I was with her , I'm friends with one of her brothers and his answer when I ask about her , is don't ask.

  • Registered Users Posts: 12,375 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,459 ✭✭✭pgj2015

    Of course, just the local town bully who I have clashed with numerous times, he moved away a couple of years ago thankfully, hopefully I never see him again.

  • Registered Users Posts: 455 ✭✭BaywatchHQ

    The one good thing about being incel is that we don't have ex partners. Maybe we had many sexual partners in the previous life, that explains why God has punished us in this life.

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,459 ✭✭✭pgj2015

    Would you not just head to Germany or somewhere similar and see an escort?

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  • Registered Users Posts: 1,297 ✭✭✭Count Dracula

    It depends, winking to much is bad for your eyesight. You could potentially go blind.

    If you find your ex attractive it should work out for you.

    Masturbating whilst fantasizing about someone you fancy is a romantic thing to do. It is also a very affectionate compliment you can give to someone. In particular I have found that females find it particularly engaging to be aware that they are arousing the sexual apetite of someone they are fond of, or might even dream of phucking themselves? That is the key if you feel like sharing your thoughts with her on this. If she does not find you attractive it could give her the opportunity to accuse you of being weird or distasteful. It is all about control really. She wants you to have it, pin her to the bed and own her senseless, but you better do it the way she likes or you will be considered a feeble impotent loser not deserving of her? it is a very tight landing zone, think about that.

    Women masturbate emotionally, so it is very common for them to do so whilst imagining a crush or current partner making out with them? Or perhaps, sometimes getting spit roasted by several members of her partners hurling team, while he is forced to watch in tears whilst tied by his elbows and testicles to his kitchen sink with a large plastic dildo rammed down his gob and a photo of Colin Farrell clamped to both his nipples?

    Your ex is having much better sex now than she ever had with you. She is mad for it and thinks you are pathetic. She still cares about you deeply, but the days of heavy petting on the sofa have been replaced by more exciting, fulfilling sexual behaviors, which she wouldn't dream of performing with you. I am sorry about this, probably best to not dwell to heavily on this, she certainly isn't.

  • Registered Users Posts: 555 ✭✭✭laoisgem

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,278 ✭✭✭corner of hells

    He wouldn't have anything to talk about if he did .

  • Registered Users Posts: 884 ✭✭✭Dramatik

    The worst is when you are in a queue in a shop, you see someone ahead in the queue and you think to yourself "ohh... I wouldn't mind a bit of that" Then when you get a bit closer you realise that it is your ex.

  • Registered Users Posts: 4,707 ✭✭✭Bobblehats

    Better take smug satisfaction in saying ha! bn there.

    I’d recommend you give up looking out for Linda op before you know it you’ll be seeing her everywhere...