Communication - virtual Vs in person - ?

sporina

So, with working from home and socialising via video etc - versus meeting people in person - how do you compare? which do you prefer?

Me? I still prefer meeting people in person..

What say you?

igCorcaigh

I'm happy with working remotely with people at work; have done for years, even before the pandemic.

It's nice to meet in person from time to time.

But, I've learned that work friends are as transient as pub friends. I've spent 8 hours a day with people for years, and when I or they leave the job, we never see each other again, and a lot of the time (not always), that connection is just lost and no attempt to reform it is made.

C'est la vie.

Potential-Monke

I think that's just natural and I hate when leaving a job or location and people are like "Oh we should totally keep in touch" and meet up for lunches and stuff. Never happens due to lack of effort or interest on both sides. People really need to realise that work colleagues are not friends.

Being unsocial, I do prefer virtual but I don't really partake in any virtual meetings either. If it's work related, or even during our D&D sessions, it's audio only. I'm not against meeting people in person, but living in the country makes it a pain to arrange and there's always the drive back, which is ruined these days by incompetent drivers with wanchor wagons and sun-level beams angled up as high as possible on the already eye-level headlights!

There is a certain nicety to ending a virtual meeting/call and being able to get right into what you want to do.

Graces7

Interesting.

I have a wide range of friends gathered in a long life.

A mixture of these aspects. A very few now from decades ago; one I met in my first teaching post. We met a lot, holidays etc over the years and now keep in touch. So one can merge into the other.

And that was way before the internet age. When " meeting" was not the same casual way it is now.

Now I have several I have never met and am never likely to. And that is good too. Friendship has many faces.

The times I have found hard are when I have thought a friendship was for long term but when the person moved away? Many of these I would call acquaintances rather than friends.

sporina

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120139876#Comment_120139876

wow you have mates you never actually met? only virtually? i don't have any of them.. but some friends (far away) I have to talk to virtually from time to time.. would prefer in person though - always.. but with work I am ok with virtual contact..

I guess with friends/family - I love the hugs.. and I am a touchy feely person.. eg: if a loved one tells me they are sad or something.. I touch their arm or something.. show my care in a tactile way - I think that "touch" is so important when it comes to close relationships (friends/family)

Count Dracula

I quite enjoy intimidating and manipulating people. I take what I can get. I am trying to move into more arduous coercement for 2023. I have finally decided that there are oodles of loop holes in the wider system and if no one else is prepared to enable complex destructive chaos ,well then... I just may as well get the ball rolling?

For starters I think we have managed to veer our direction into a constant reparta ge of meaningless tripe, which has manifested itself everywhere as a result of information overload brought on by the onset of white trash declaring itself infalible in the face of the entire planet. It is terrifying how manipulated our freedoms have become. Some people and biases are still convinced we have clue what is happening?

It saddens me that my sentiments are being recorded by the NSA and that my thoughts are now being categorised into a subset of potential risk factors which threaten the existence of the neo imperialism which has been practiced by gangsters like the Bush family since the 1980's. They are an unimaginable monster, it is happening in front of your eyes... and meanwhile, you are all blaming misquoted Latin American presidents who extoll a dry witted sense of humour when it comes to who is really responsible for global photosynthesis? The same morons blame Trump when they drop their toast in the morning. It is bereft.

That is the worlds' biggest challenge... our complacency and benign cowardice at not tackling the buzz shortage the world has been chasing for too long. Greed is a very ugly thing, but much worse than greed is blind idiocy. If you walk out the door in the morning and immediately start second guessing your switching off skills I think it might be time to start interpreting what you are offering to the rest of the world at this time? Panicking about the potential for your daughter to find your lurid Jizzrag collection of interracial pornography, or worse still, that Mpeg of you being pegged stupid by your best friend's underphucked and overweight almost obese wife should really have you reaching for your diazepam stash in the glove compartment of that overpriced, overvalued status symbol you blew 73 grand on last year and still cannot understand why your insurance bill is rising? Blame Trump again. I fancy his daughter she is gorge btw.

I find it easier to really creep under peoples skin online as opposed to in a face to face to scenario. I mean lets' face it, if you ever did meet me you would most certainly faint on the spot out of the sheer fear generated by my hideous appearance and foul smelling stench of impending death? I literally want to suck the blood out of your veins, it is what I do. I will be 1498 years old on the 14th April. Are you aware of the implications of that ? That means that I have witnessed a serious amount of shít going down. For example it is feasible that I was alive at the same time as St Patrick? Put that in your pipe and smoke mortals.

Has anyone ever contemplated why MI6 elected to castrate Robert Mugabe in the 1970's and whether or not that is the real reason he never fathered any children? All those insipid rumours about him being a closet nancy are not actually true? Far from it, by all accounts the late leader of Zimbabwe was attempting to rectify the unnecessary purging of Zimbabwe's raw materials ahead of an other pathetic attempt by conflicts of interest who really should know better? Talk about creating a monster. No one has ever blamed Britain for the Zimbabwe shambles, why? Or Pakistan? Or Kashmir? Occupied six counties? Israel? Brexit. You know for a small wee country, which I must observe does harbour a staggering amount a gobshights, we have done astonishingly well considering our proximity to the most dysfunctional shambolic opportunistic, flawed, empire which Britain shat all over since the dawn of the Victorian age. Everything they touch turns to crap, I am officially announcing that now. I am taking sides, it feels good, I am in the fight at last. They are total gobshights who have manged to interfere negatively al over the globe, in fact , everyone hates them and thinks they are spas? Except their comedians and artists who we gracefully have awarded a pass. I fairness Richard Curtis, Shakespeare, John Sulivan and Christopher Nolan is hardly a fluke, with respect to Dylan Thomas , John Niven and Justine Frischsmans gorgeous arse. She loves me two times, i can feel it.

The only country to ever drop a nuclear warhead in anger was the USA. the same country want you to pay for their instigated arms race or will be forced to invade another poor unfortunate country in the hope of demonstrating to the rest of the world that they are simply a gang of ruthless authoritarian chunts? As a country it stinks, their sport is shight for starters, who watches basketball anyways, who does that? Like what is going on there? Basketball? Before anyone gets all smarmy there is a gargantuan difference between 5000 Fanatic Greek neo nazi's chanting probably rascist ethnic anthems, when contrasted to multitudes of obese white trash Nebraskans parking their 3.5 litres chevrolets in a carpark surrounding a custom made indoor sports arena that only opens during the summer?To enable them to tolerate the boredom that starts the moment they turn off their engine they feed them processed carcinogenic pig meat which has been roasted on an electronic hot dog machine which collates the drippings of lard and disposes of it into a sewage system that hopefully one day will emit sufficient quantities of toxic carbon to eventually annihilate the chunts for once and for all.

Fangs crossed. Their beer is the worst in the world, that is an undeniable fact which I challenge anyone to argue?

I am also ensuring that my personal footprint is enshrined, on this glistening Geoid of the Damned, by announcing that I felt that it was quite indignant of that lying overrated pussy magnet to not thank Joel Schumacher, or the brilliant Kevin Spacey, at the Globes last week, it was the least he could do? It is full circle for the gates of hell when the writers of entertainment are content to award people for not being talented.

To give it context, Fassbender wearing a paper mache mask of a 2 dimensional cartoon and pretending/acting to have a nervous breakdown was not only funnier, by a substantial distance I might add, but also showed the tenacity of Jamie Lee Curtis's god-daughter to actuality act and enjoy her life instead of moaning and cranking incessantly about some time a gothic supernatural fanged immortal demon invented by one of Oscar Wilde's lovers got her drunk on Buckfast spiked with MDMA and allowed himself to caress and grope her intensely whilst she giggled and writhed naked on some blow up mattress in a hut in Co Wicklow, bitch loved it. A may zeen. She can act , so can Fassbender Seven psychopaths was a funny, side splitting, creative comedy with some beautiful dark humour and outstanding performances from Sam Rockwell in particular, Farrrell was brutally hammy throughout, in a role where, lets' be honest here, was never going to be much of a stretch? I mean that Mcdonagh dude is a cruel mistress, talk about ripping the piss.. creating a role about a gormless wannabe actor having the misfortune to get involved in the shambolic kidnapping of pet dogs as a ruse to eek out a living... is and was thoroughly sublime pathos? For the record in 2012 the globe for best comedy went to ..... The Artist??????????? .... I rest my case. At least Bridemaids got nominated. The phucking Artist??? pleaazzzzzzzz?

sporina

@Count Dracula sorry - didn't get past the 1st 2 lines.. ekk..

I guess the world takes all sorts..

Graces7

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120140087#Comment_120140087

I get to know folk in groups online and sometimes meet them after years! eg Texas, and other far away places, when they come to Ireland. Many ways to express caring...

Riesen_Meal

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120141049#Comment_120141049

Is that one of them written with ChatGPT posts?

Wild

sporina

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120141097#Comment_120141097

wow - cool.. you mean, make friends?

sporina

@Riesen_Meal whats chatgpt?

Riesen_Meal

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120142072#Comment_120142072

https://www.pcguide.com/apps/what-is-chat-gpt/

Feed it info, and it types up stuff for you...

AI stuff is getting scary

Obviously it gets it wrong sometimes, that's when it gets funny

https://youtu.be/wGYAZv4-lBw

To go back to your original post :

I prefer face to face meeting people, maybe I'm old school but get a much better handle on someone if you can look them dead in the face...

sporina

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120142136#Comment_120142136

thanks for the info.. wow - mad world..

face to face - yep - me too - apart from liking the option of contact... you can't read body language and other forms of non verbal communication accurately.. virtually

Strumms

I’ve never done work from home I’d never accept using my home as a full time workplace.

it’s not hard if you have intelligent, disciplined and purposeful management to ensure that a business workplace can be ran safely, responsibly and diligently.

of course lots of workplaces and staff won’t have the luxury of such active and proactive management…

igCorcaigh

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120140087#Comment_120140087

Aren't we all friends here? 😉

igCorcaigh

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120142244#Comment_120142244

I guess it depends on what type of human interaction is required. For me, it's mostly about sharing important information and status updates. I don't need to see into someone's soul.

Graces7

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120142068#Comment_120142068

Indeed yes. Deep friendships with folk in faraway places. eg Canada. Bodily presence is only one element in friendship and I have known folk become less friends after meeting.

Friendship is about caring and sharing. Giving and taking. Eminently possible at a very deep level when continents apart.

sporina

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120143458#Comment_120143458

awe - always lovely to read your posts

sporina

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120143681#Comment_120143681

thanks for the clarification.. interesting..