Cohabiting couple

celineos

I'm in a long time relationship. We are together 10 and a half years. I have a child from a previous relationship and we have a child together. 5 years ago we moved into his parents home and looked after one of his parents for about a year. The house is in probate but I've been paying the revenue tax, house insurance and all other bills. We get 450 per week he is on my payment so he gets 134 I give him 70 of it and 60 towards the house (doesn't last long as his eldest, 23 lives with us and only gives 40per month). He spent 140 of the household money on beer last week. Do I have any rights in the household seeing as all the payments are being paid by me and my card plus have a 9 year old together. When we argue he kicks me out of the room and I'm in the sitting room but he makes sure everyone hears it in the house even though he's in the wrong.

Xterminator

Hi Op

if you were living alone what would your rent and bills have been? do you get where i am going with this ? you don't have any 'rights'. your not a tenant, or a co-owner. he could ask you to move out anytime!

you have been benefiting from co habituation but your not too happy with the relationship. i suggest you look after yourself and your children now. cut back on what your spending, put less into the house, let him & his adult child pick up the slack. Keep your money separate. Save up a deposit. you may need it.

But allowing things to go on as long as you have, is really a lesson to learn here. if things aren't fair, stand up for yourself. It sounds like you have been a bit of a doormat putting up with things for a quiet life. If you decide its time to change, good on you. But be aware you may need to make plans to move out if the living situation becomes (more) uncomfortable.

You say the house is in probate - is he going to be the sole beneficiary?

How did it end up that you claimed for him as a dependant, and paid all the bills? He can claim he is financially dependant on you.

You need to read this carefully -

Rights of cohabiting couples (citizensinformation.ie) and in particular Redress scheme for cohabiting couples (citizensinformation.ie)

It's real childish of him to do what he's doing .not long-term material...however ...it's not your house....hope you can sort it out.

I think you really need to seek the advice of a solicitor on this one. As the house is in probate, its unclear who owns it, or who has a claim on it (does he have siblings?)

As a cohabitant and with a child together you do have the right to make a claim on any property he owns (or his share of it) - but this is where it gets complicated - if he claims that he is your financial dependant.

Though I do find it interesting that you're registered to pay the Local Property Tax on his parents house. (I assume thats what you meant by "revenue tax").

If I were in your shoes, I'd make your exit plan, on the assumption that you won't get anything from the house, because even if you did manage to get an award, its unlikely he would be able to pay it, and you'd have to consider if the legal fees would be worth it.

Sometimes its better to cut your losses and move on with your life.