Do political beliefs bother you in dating?

nj27

It's definitely something that would come up in conversation at some point, but it ain't the be all and end all. I can get past it, and I have had a mixed reaction in terms of it. Sometimes it's a deal breaker, sometimes it's like your preference of music. I dated a straight up Leninist at one point, we argued constantly, not throwing dinner plates at the wall type arguments, and it was always chill. Also went on a date with an nyu student and she basically told me I'm the divil. I don't understand why it's such a big deal for some, I'm not running for office nor are you, why do you care? The banging is the issue at the end of the day kid.

Sleepy

You'd need to be a fairly foolish man to date an intersectional feminist tbf...

Montage of Feck

Only if they were members of the youth wing of ffg, the weirdos lol.

play4fun1

it depends on values attached to political beliefs

would be hard to date, or interact in general with anybody; pro life, pro capital punishment, anti LGBT - think there's few"political beliefs" representing them

Gregor Samsa

I’m a Parnellite, and my wife is more of a Healyite. We make it work by not taking about William O’Shea.

Strumms

I couldn’t go out with anybody that held extreme views on either side.

my politics are centre left so they are the girls I’d gravitate towards…

extremism and extremists bore the living daylights out of me..

Feisar

I went out with a girl for a while that was big into Sinn Fein, in SF Óg and the whole bit. Couldnt hack it after a while.

nj27

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118572590#Comment_118572590

That must be tough, being limited to basically every chick and all. Tough spot to be in kid.

goldenmick

I couldn't possibly date a centrist.

Chicken-livered lot.

fryup

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118573243#Comment_118573243

are you a unionist? 😉

AllForIt

No, but I've never dated anyone with strong political views.

It's an interesting enough question though. I don't know how I'd handle it if I had the hots for someone only to find I didn't agree with his opinions. Hope it never happens then!

I think though, it's not really about the opinions, it's whether someone just keeps banging on about issues/politics 24/7. I don't think I could be with that type of person no matter whether I agreed with said political views or not.

I have to be the centre attention, of forget it ! :)

edit: boards is good for getting thinks off your chest, lovers are not for that.

goldenmick

"boards is good for getting thinks off your chest, lovers are not for that"

You're with the wrong lover then 😁😁😁

Feisar

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118573328#Comment_118573328

LOL my blood is as green as the next man's however I wouldn't take the juvenile shinner waffle.

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118574178#Comment_118574178

Well, did you tiocfaidh? 🙊😆

Couldnt care less about political views. Any hint of woke and i would be out.. also anybody banging on about Israel/palestine(either side) can take a walk

silverharp

it shouldnt matter that much outide of extremes, a lot of lefties vote left but live "right" , they get married, send their kids to private schools and live in less diverse areas if they can afford it and raise their kids with values most conservatives would be happy with.

EmmetSpiceland

I could go a couple of “degrees” either way but any further, no. I just couldn’t be with anyone with beliefs too dissimilar to mine, someone without any compassion.

It would be awful to have to listen to someone constantly, and angrily, criticise foreigners, LGBTQI+ people or, if she was a “black knight”/Schlafly type, other women.

There is always some compromise with “compatibility” but it would be very hard to love someone deranged and so filled with hate.

People who take extremist views or who blame particular groups constantly for the ills of the world are best avoided as their locus of control is very weak and it’s a sure sign they take little responsibility for their own actions.

saying that, if they were really really, and I mean really hot, I’d consider it. 😁

TooTired123

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118574656#Comment_118574656

What I’ve found is that because I have,at 57, very established ideas about things, id be very unlikely to find myself in a situation where I was in the company of, never mind tempted to, date someone who was at polar opposites in opinions to me.

Birds of a feather tend to flock together. The difference between me and you is that I don’t consider people who disagree with me to be full of hatred and rage. I just think that they disagree with me and they’re entitled to that.

ancapailldorcha

Depends on the views. White victimhood, anti-vaxx, cults of personality or advocation of communism or fascism would be massive red lines. If there's respect and logic, I'd have no problem.

3DataModem

Anyone with extreme views on anything political would be a red flag, especially political parties (which in Ireland are all fairly similar flavours of democratic socialism), and double-especially anyone who defined themselves by those views.

freshpopcorn

Yes it would to be fair.

I couldn't see myself dating somebody who wanted to stone the gays to death or somebody who thought all men were sort of evil.

Wouldn't ever date a shinner. Not negotiable.

Also, nothing far right either.

cannonballTaffyOjones

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118574656#Comment_118574656

He/him/his

“When you're used to privilege, equality feels like oppression”.

#bekind

The irony here .... filled with hate ?

The lot that use the #beKind and have pronouns in social media are the most hateful bigots out there, but it's the "acceptable" kind of hate ... so carry on..

Feisar

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118574448#Comment_118574448

Like Semtex. She could fairly actively service a unit.

seamus

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118574850#Comment_118574850

Yeah, a bit like this.

I would find it odd to go out with a card-carrying member of any politicial party tbh. It implies that you have made that party's ideology a part of your own identity, and will defend or support them in what they do.

It implies little room for questioning, no willingness to walk away when the party steps outside the line.

In general, someone who holds hard views on anything and is not willing to engage on them in an open, rational and logical way; someone who is ideologically opposed to ever consider changing their position on something, is someone I have difficulty engaging with, romantically or otherwise.

EmmetSpiceland

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118575241#Comment_118575241

Settle down, Beavis. I made a post outlining my position on the point at hand, there is no need to get personal and start, angrily, attacking me, or my “signature”.

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118574850#Comment_118574850

Social democracy.

Democratic socialism advocates for a socially owned economy.

3DataModem

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118575551#Comment_118575551

I'm using the dictionary definitions, not political science definitions. Democracy = we vote. Socialist = we have safety nets for less fortunate etc.

Feisar

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118575241#Comment_118575241

In fairness it's a piss take "account".

Riddle101

It'd be nice to say no, but there are some things you just can't ignore with political beliefs. I wouldn't date a bigot or someone with extreme political views like neo nazism. I just don't see how things could work out tbh.

AyeGer

I couldn’t go out with a northerner with strong unionist beliefs. Even though I am only a moderate nationalist.

Rothko

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118574789#Comment_118574789

Good post. Very well said.

titan18

Anything to the extremes really. Any of the ultra woke far left types or anyone on the extreme far right neo nazi sort.

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118576010#Comment_118576010

Whatever definitions you're using, you're wrong.

Scandinavian countries are far closer to democratic socialism than Ireland and even they consider themselves social democracies.

DPRK - Democratic = we vote. Republic = Not a monarchy.

Mister Vain

Interestingly enough I put "conservative" on my dating profile on Hinge without really giving it much thought and I couldn't believe the reaction I got. One girl kept incessantly asking about my political views which was very off-putting. It's a pity because she was fairly hot. I have my political and religious beliefs hidden on my profile now which has made things a lot easier.

Mad_maxx

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118574656#Comment_118574656

It never ends