FWB Scenario

Liberty_Bear

First off I am not looking on here but more so want to just enquire as to whether this is a fairly normal course of action in the gay scene. Im a stocky lad who goes for men of a similar build (talk about niche). Here is the kicker, I am not seeking one night stands and I am not seeking a committed relationship but something in between. Despite being clear in my intentions I dont seem to be having any luck in meeting like minded men. Most men dont seem to comprehend what I am articulating which leads me to believe perhaps I am in the wrong . Here is how I see it - pint, movie, take away , end up in bed and cuddle up. Thats it. See whoever else you want, few times a month. To me it is a classic FWB scenario. Thoughts are welcome

@Mods I hope this is acceptable within the confines of the rules

Rick_

There's nothing wrong with wanting a FWB arrangement, just as long as you are quite clear with the other person at the start so people don't get the wrong idea and feelings end up getting hurt. I am the same as yourself (stocky/hairy guy) and have had this arrangement with a few guys before I eventually met my partner (and soon to be husband).

I imagine you may experience guys telling you they want the same just to get to the cuddle up part, then they move on and you won't see them again. So long as you are prepared for that, you will find someone who is after the same things as yourself I'm sure.

AllForIt

I think what you're looking for is a bit unrealistic. A few times a month isn't really that casual anyway. I think you're either seeing someone regularly or you aren't, so what your describing is really a relationship, if not full blown. I think your chances of finding what you're looking for are less than slim.

Liberty_Bear

Yes I think you may have a point. Im not defining it as a relationship myself, its non committal. I am not interest in emotionally investing in committment at this particular point. To me a few times of month is just a casual arrangement but others may see it in terms of a relationship which I should be cognisant of.

Liberty_Bear

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118169670#Comment_118169670

I set out my stall from the start but I think its time to re-evaluate it

Frostynight

I honestly thought that sounded a bit like a bf - but without all the good or the responsibility/comittment that that entails.

I find in the gay world, lines are blurred.

I'm a pretty black and white guy tbh. I find the grey area confusing personally.