Have you ever told a friend or business associate face to face in person to eff off for good

I should have a couple of times: After they shafted me for a deadline that I took a moderate hit for. It takes BALLS to do. But it would be deserved. Do you know anyone gutsy enough to do it, or have you ever stepped up to the plate? How did they react?

BrianD3

A friend of mine got a job working for a former boss of mine in a multinational. This boss was an incompetent, bull thick asshole and my friend was confrontational and prone to aggression if someone ever tried to shaft him. I predicted that there would be a massive falling out within weeks of him taking the job . There was - over H&S IIRC. They nearly came to blows with my mate telling the boss to fcuk off and stick the job up his arse. End result was no job and no reference which caused a fair amount of difficulty afterwards.

I am generally more of a keep the powder dry/ignore them type of person - even if I was seething with anger. Now that I have a good level of financial independence I'm in a better position than ever to tell people to fcuk off but still reluctant to do so. I don't like confrontation and you never know when some asshole might come in useful to you in the future.

Potential-Monke

Had a friend once, troubled lad but mostly his own fault. Was always good to him, even let him live in my house rent, bill and food free for 4 months before I had to tell him to leave because he was doing nothing to try and better himself, just falling into a hole of pain meds and weed over and over. I was affecting me financially and I couldn't afford it anymore. He moved home but I still kept in contact with him. Few months later he gets thick at me for not realising that an acquaintance of mine (friend of his) mother had passed. I lost it, told him to let me know when he's over his period and I'll be there for him, but basically no more contact since.

He tried to reach out a few times, but I realised he was depressing me more and from speaking to his father, he hasn't improved so I haven't reached back out. I don't need that negativity in my life anymore, and I done more than most people to help him. He ended up having to move out of home because he was having physical fights with his father, because he wouldn't do anything. He would give out to them for them asking him to help around the house, saying he doesn't have to and it's his house too as he lives there (ah, that's not how living with your parents work Ted!). Just a chancer, waster and woe-is-me person, doesn't want to help himself but wants everyone else to help him. Nah.

There was another lad back when I was a teenager, told me he was going to rob my then girlfriend off me. I told him where to go with some choice words. He ended up becoming a politician, suited him, as he was a massive prick to begin with.

Wibbs

Thankfully not often, but when I have there was no confusion about my feelings and that was that. Game Over. The book is closed.