Advice - Where to begin

captrim

Hi Everyone,

I’m in my mid thirties, male and looking to start to get on to the dating scene and not sure where to begin.

I have dated before but nothing serious at all, most of my teens and twenties I was in poor health which was my focus but that has been all sorted over the last few years and recently I’d like to see if there is someone with interests out there.

I hear/read about the online apps and presume that’s where everyone is searching/meeting up through these days? My question is what the best app if your looking for something meaningful, is the best option on a night out or something else . I’d love to hear any thoughts or opinion on where to begin or any general advice

I do work in a male orientated industry and live in the countryside but not far from a major town. I’m not sure if that matters

TIA

zoobizoo

My advice would be to join some clubs whether that be running, tennis, surf, football etc...

Great way to meet people and have fun.

Clubs with weekends away (if restrictions allow - I've no idea) where you're sharing houses, out for dinner etc are a relaxed way to meet others.

chattering

And just get to know more people in general to widen your circle if you think that would help.

TheadoreT

Despite what people may say your tinders/bumble ect by and large have people looking for what you are(especially at your age range) so plenty of opportunity there to find something meaningful. Saying that if you're new to to all you'll need to prepare yourself for various challenges and adapt a fairly relaxed attitude to it all. If you get talking to someone don't wait too long to ask them out, if they're hesitant or stalling the likelihood is they're there for an ego boost. Don't attach to much hope to any one person early days, have fun, and if something is meant to develop with someone it will naturally and slowly.

YellowLead

I can only echo what others have said about local clubs, be it sports (albeit mixed gender situations like tennis and tag rugby might be best), drama, etc.

Volunteering is also great for it, there are often more men than women depending on what is is you are doing.

Lastly do join some dating apps, I just wouldn’t rely on them solely. I’d say start with bumble and hjnge and leave tinder until you are a bit more experienced, you need a thicker skin for it and there are a lot of fake profiles and time wasters.

But hinge and bumble are more oriented towards people who want something meaningful. It’s important that you say something about yourself on your profile (hinge has prompts to make that easier) and choose good photos - it’s not how you look but how you present yourself that matters. Smile!

Good luck

captrim

Thanks for the advice, all welcome and appreciated