Dating sites

SheroP

So , awkward question
Unexpectedly Separated a couple of years ago
Not on any social media
Seriously missing company
Mid fifties male
Is the likes of tinder really for the “quick fix” and is that the assumption of all subscribers ?
Just enquiring cos not sure if this is the elephant in the room in a normal conversation, makes sense ??

ulster

Nah don't bother with Tinder.

Leg End Reject

So you just want a leg over but aren't sure if you should make your intentions clear to the ladies?

Sharpyshoot

Far from tinder, grinder or kango back in the day.

triona1

ulster wrote:

Nah don't bother with Tinder.

Tinder is cruel rootless ive came across 2 out of about 10 dates (no sex/kisses) but 1 of the 2 is gone.

triona1

SheroP wrote:

So , awkward question Unexpectedly Separated a couple of years ago Not on any social media Seriously missing company Mid fifties male Is the likes of tinder really for the “quick fix†and is that the assumption of all subscribers ? Just enquiring cos not sure if this is the elephant in the room in a normal conversation, makes sense ??

Have a try of Facebook dating it doesn't come up in your feed and if you have blocked ex's they can't see you I find it ok might be worth a look for you?

SheroP

Leg End Reject wrote: »

So you just want a leg over but aren't sure if you should make your intentions clear to the ladies?

No sorry, the very opposite actually , don’t want to start out meeting someone gagging for it and all I want is a coffee or a pint , if that makes any sense ??

beertons

Only fans is hilarious. You get blocked fairly quick though.

SheroP

triona1 wrote: »

Have a try of Facebook dating it doesn't come up in your feed and if you have blocked ex's they can't see you I find it ok might be worth a look for you?

Thanks but as I was never on the Facebook , none of that means anything to me , but thanks for reply

SheroP

Sharpyshoot wrote: »

Far from tinder, grinder or kango back in the day.

Agreed

beertons

Sharpyshoot wrote: »

kango back in the day.

Is that not a drill?

Leg End Reject

SheroP wrote: »

No sorry, the very opposite actually , don’t want to start out meeting someone gagging for it and all I want is a coffee or a pint , if that makes any sense ??

When you're chatting just say you'd like to get to know them and suggest a coffee. Be a while yet before you can go for a pint.

BorneTobyWilde

Seeking Arrangement is your best option, you can wine and dine lots of women on there, you'll be paying for the whole meal and drinks though.

YFlyer

When they started out in the 90s. Some people made a fortune from them.

Thelonious Monk

I would imagine there are people of all ages on Tinder and it's just mostly normal people looking to go on dates, I don't know where it got this reputation for being some kind of sex app

SnuggyBear

SheroP wrote: »

No sorry, the very opposite actually , don’t want to start out meeting someone gagging for it and all I want is a coffee or a pint , if that makes any sense ??

You think women are going to be gagging for it? You will be lucky to get a match on tinder.

SheroP

SnuggyBear wrote: »

You think women are going to be gagging for it? You will be lucky to get a match on tinder.

You’re quite right , though I was exaggerating merely to explain myself 👍👍

Thelonious Monk

Thelonious Monk wrote: »

I would imagine there are people of all ages on Tinder and it's just mostly normal people looking to go on dates, I don't know where it got this reputation for being some kind of sex app

Tinder of c.2013-15 gave it that (well earned) reputation.

But it has definitely changed.

SnuggyBear

SheroP wrote: »

You’re quite right , though I was exaggerating merely to explain myself ðŸ‘ðŸ‘

I wish they were gagging for it. Honestly stay away from it, its a nightmare.

Sharpyshoot

beertons wrote: »

Is that not a drill?

Is grinder not for cutting metal?

Lirange

Thelonious Monk wrote: »

I would imagine there are people of all ages on Tinder and it's just mostly normal people looking to go on dates, I don't know where it got this reputation for being some kind of sex app

Well it has become a minefield. At least in Ireland/UK. Tinder is a bit of a necessary evil (and perhaps I’m being generous here with the necessary). It’s teeming with opportunists cloaked under false pretences. The 2 month fling is the new one night stand. These people have always been about but the online aspect has greatly facilitated this behaviour.

Many falsely believe they can better suss them out up front. That’s the trap because people overestimate their intuitive abilities. If you poll people almost everyone believes they have great intuition. But as people have always done they fool themselves because they want to believe. So they compartmentalise and rationalise any red flags. The online deets don’t change this. But it provides some with the false notion they can pre-audit people with profiles and correspondence. If your potential companion is really serious they’ll accept moving things along gradually. You’re quite unlikely to miss out on the love of your life if you refuse to do the business right out of the gates.

*I posted a version of this on the other sidetracked thread. But is probably more fitting here.*

Leg End Reject

triona1 wrote: »

Tinder is cruel rootless ive came across 2 out of about 10 dates (no sex/kisses) but 1 of the 2 is gone.

This reads like you masturbated over someone without so much as a preliminary kiss.

ILoveYourVibes

SnuggyBear wrote: »

You think women are going to be gagging for it? You will be lucky to get a match on tinder.

There are also people looking for a quick full on relationship....without getting to know one another.

They want love and they want it NOW ....quick fix ...its the nature of our relationships today ..people order food ...they think love will come just as fast ..or a deep relationship will come just as fast.

Now don't get me wrong ..that CAN happen ...you can meet someone for three weeks then just know you want them to be serious relationship for you ...you can know someone six months and just know they are the one. But that is ....rarer.

I find today more than wanting a one nighter. People want and expect deep emotional connections with you ...really fast ..like in a few days . It feels forced and weird and kind of scary. And they are actually scared too ...its why they blow hot and cold because DEEP down they know its not real.

Imo op trying and be as social as you can ....make friends with all sorts of people both genders and all ages. OPEN up your circle.

You can try sites etc ..but just be aware ...you need to open up your circle too.

ILoveYourVibes

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

There are also people looking for a quick full on relationship....without getting to know one another.

They want love and they want it NOW ....quick fix ...its the nature of our relationships today ..people order food ...they think love will come just as fast ..or a deep relationship will come just as fast.

Now don't get me wrong ..that CAN happen ...you can meet someone for three weeks then just know you want them to be serious relationship for you ...you can know someone six months and just know they are the one. But that is ....rarer.

I find today more than wanting a one nighter. People want and expect deep emotional connections with you ...really fast ..like in a few days . It feels forced and weird and kind of scary. And they are actually scared too ...its why they blow hot and cold because DEEP down they know its not real.

Imo op trying and be as social as you can ....make friends with all sorts of people both genders and all ages. OPEN up your circle.

You can try sites etc ..but just be aware ...you need to open up your circle too.

Or don't mind me cause i am projecting

SheroP

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

There are also people looking for a quick full on relationship....without getting to know one another.

They want love and they want it NOW ....quick fix ...its the nature of our relationships today ..people order food ...they think love will come just as fast ..or a deep relationship will come just as fast.

Now don't get me wrong ..that CAN happen ...you can meet someone for three weeks then just know you want them to be serious relationship for you ...you can know someone six months and just know they are the one. But that is ....rarer.

I find today more than wanting a one nighter. People want and expect deep emotional connections with you ...really fast ..like in a few days . It feels forced and weird and kind of scary. And they are actually scared too ...its why they blow hot and cold because DEEP down they know its not real.

Imo op trying and be as social as you can ....make friends with all sorts of people both genders and all ages. OPEN up your circle.

You can try sites etc ..but just be aware ...you need to open up your circle too.

Agreed, thank you

Sharpyshoot

hansblitz wrote: »

Most people just want the hop bud

Escort.ie

SnuggyBear

hansblitz wrote: »

Nah I don’t pay for it, call them over for Netflix , it get them in, get it in, get them out, my motto bud

Sounds like you don't need any help then

Sharpyshoot

hansblitz wrote: »

Nah I don’t pay for it, call them over for Netflix , it get them in, get it in, get them out, my motto bud

Trippin bud

Leg End Reject

hansblitz wrote: »

Nah I don’t pay for it, call them over for Netflix , it get them in, get it in, get them out, my motto bud

Well lads, there you all go. Netflix is the secret weapon of the man about town.

Mystery solved!

The DayDream

I personally think Netflix's lacks a great deal of quality programming. If that's all it takes for a woman to put out I'd be thinking I could do better.