Do you feel you have lost friends during lockdown or because of lockdown?

ILoveYourVibes

Have you found it more difficult to nurture friendships?

I feel like if you don't see people face to face for some time. Things change its nobody's fault. It just happens.

Some are less verbal on the phone etc.

I was wondering if many people had lost friendships or certain friendships might seem now distance or more awkward?


Its strange anyone i see face to face (from a safe distance) is now only people in my locality. And we can't be long.

I feel a lot has changed socially for me. I wondered if this has happened to anyone else?

I want to get out there when this is over and be more social make NEW friends instead of chase the old times.

But someone said ..that might be even psychologically different. That lockdown might have changed us?

What do you think?

PsychoPete

Myself and my friends do plenty of work for each other so seen them fairly often through the last 12 months

bb1234567

Yeh unfortunately I've realised I don't have much but a small handful of friends I feel comfortable to call up for company. Last year in college it felt like I had loads because everybody just hung out and had parties a lot after classes and you didn't need to be close enough to actually call them up and meet , everybody just naturally gravitated towards the big group and meetings were so large it didn't rely on any one or small number of indivudals to 'arrange' social activites. With it being over a year of our class not meeting as a group as we are all scattered across the many counties of the country I feel like I've really lost a lot of them as friends. Especially as many now plan to move to UK or Europe for work after college.

Sadly I feel like now, as I join the workforce, I'm basicaally starting from square one with a friends base, I'll meet them all again for sure but I think the boat is long gone now for solidifying some of those relationships into good post-college friendships. I did make some great friends for life but it's not enough for the buzzing social life I'd like ,like I had last year in college.

ILoveYourVibes

bb1234567 wrote: »

Sadly I feel like now, as I join the workforce, I'm basicaally starting from square one with a friends base, I'll meet them all again for sure but I think the boat is long gone now for solidifying some of those relationships into good post-college friendships. I did make some great friends for life but it's not enough for the buzzing social life I'd like ,like I had last year in college.

This is exactly how I feel.
I just really need people to hang with or chat with. Not even super deep stuff. Just ...to let off steam with.

People were in diff counties and even countries and lockdowns were diff.

I hope you have a renaissance when things open up again bb12.

Pussyhands

You'd feel for all the ones who would have met their lifelong friend or best friend during the past year if Covid wasn't around.

ILoveYourVibes

Pussyhands wrote: »

You'd feel for all the ones who would have met their lifelong friend or best friend during the past year if Covid wasn't around.

Will you be my best friend??

Its a hard one,i hope not...im not a keep-in-touch person....so havnt spoke to most my mates in about 18 months or so and grown to really really dislike whatsapp group chats


But im sure they know,if they ever stuck/need a hand,they can call me and vice versa.......sure we'll see how it pans out over next few months

eggy81

I seem to only communicate with my work friends now. All my old socialising friends I have pretty much lost touch with since last March. Goes too show the only thing really holding us together was the few pints every few weeks.

No simply because we don't need to chat every day, but still do anything for each other at the drop of a hat.

Haven't seen some of them face to face apart from Skype for over five years because they emigrated.

Even those that are still in Ireland we would only have a night out once a month because they all have young families, rent or a mortgage.

If you can't maintain a friendship without talking regularly or meeting up face to face, what you have isn't a friendship.

Hamachi

eggy81 wrote: »

I seem to only communicate with my work friends now. All my old socialising friends I have pretty much lost touch with since last March. Goes too show the only thing really holding us together was the few pints every few weeks.

Unfortunately, that’s the way it goes for a lot of male friendships. As men, we usually bond over a common interest like sport, work, or drinking. Take away that common interest and the friendship tends to slip away. There’s no ill will on either side; it’s just the way it goes.

I’ve actually made one new friend totally unexpectedly during Covid. It’s a colleague from abroad who lives within my 5km radius. I had no idea he lives here only for the fact that we literally ran into each other while out jogging last March. We’ve since become running and takeaway beers buddies.

Just goes to show that it’s always possible to rekindle those old friendships or forge new connections.