If you hadnt married/in serious relationship where would you be now?

Dickie10

Those married/partnered, what would your life be like if still single?
as the name suggests , those men/women here who are married /partnered, do you ever let your mind wander and think what life would be like had you not met your other half? would you have gotten married anyway to someone broadly similar? would you have missed the boat and not seen yourself with anyone else? what if you had that sliding doors moment and not gone to a certain bar/nightclub on a certain night would you be still single and if so what would you spend your time or money doing? would you think you would enjoy it? and the 1 million dollar question would you trade it now for single life?

Probably in Syria with the Peshmerga.

Looks like good craic

retalivity

Id be drunk and living abroad, probably

Insect Overlord

Didn't someone already do this thread 24 hours ago???

Antares35

Insect Overlord wrote: »

Didn't someone already do this thread 24 hours ago???

Yes but it was in the gentlemen thread IIRC. I too thought I was losing the plot!

Church on Tuesday

Insect Overlord wrote: »

Didn't someone already do this thread 24 hours ago???

We ran out of material a long time ago folks.

uch

Well OP i'm glad I'm still alive, my partner was the one that saved me from a life of hard drugs and hardship, I've been well documented here as having struggled with being a junkie over the years but when I met my partner and eventually got married it changed my life forever and helped me to get clean, so your flippant question about would you trade it to be single, in my case would have meant certain death for me, so no I wouldn't trade it for the world

KungPao

Not in this house, with the mortgage and all that.

Probably living in some dreary travel travern, equidistant between London and Norwich.

Your Face

I'd be living in a VAN down by the RIVER.

Purple Mountain

This thread is discriminatory against those of us who are single and would like the opportunity to share our insights into where we think we'd be if we had married.
Shame on you OP.

2lazytogetup

Snorting coke and with a bunch of hookers.

All downhill when we got together. Single people... Beware

Dickie10

uch wrote: »

Well OP i'm glad I'm still alive, my partner was the one that saved me from a life of hard drugs and hardship, I've been well documented here as having struggled with being a junkie over the years but when I met my partner and eventually got married it changed my life forever and helped me to get clean, so your flippant question about would you trade it to be single, in my case would have meant certain death for me, so no I wouldn't trade it for the world

well done , sounds a great story.

Dickie10

i suppose the thread is a bit of fun but serious elements too. i often wondered as i seen people get settled and married/kids etc . was it just luck they met their partner when they did or were they actively seeking to settle down within a time frame of 1-2 years and various potential partners would have filled the role depending on luck/fate etc. i suppose i find it all very crazy to think how we end up with people we will spend our lives with and maybe if it really can be natural or does their have to be tactical planning involved.

.anon.

Is this some sort of reference to me not being married?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pUEV4rnu5V8

Tarah04

If I hadn't married my husband, I would have probably been married to someone else by now. I'd never marry again though.

I'm single now for the first time since I was 19 and though originally id have preferred to work on the marriage, we are much better off apart. I'm super excited and enjoying being able to do what I want even small things like just picking which takeaway to order without it being a big issue and maybe I'll meet someone again in the future but I dont really care for it now.

Potential-Monke

I'm on the other side, I get to wonder what it would be like if I was married or had ki... k... chi... I can't even say it, I'd be miserable I reckon.

Single4Lyfe yo!

Antares35

I like to think I'd be a vet, working in an elephant sanctuary somewhere. Being a vet was my lifelong dream but I didn't get the points. Could have gone to Budapest to study it, but was already tied down. Biggest regret of my life, the road I didn't take. But if I hadn't stayed in Ireland and met OH, I wouldn't have my babba.

Sometimes though when I'm up to my neck in legal and regulatory work, which is well paid but strikes me as a rather sterile existence, I think about the elephants

fryup

happy

gogo

My husband and his best friend were moving to Holland, a long term move to work and live, dates planned, companies contacted for work .... they were saving up when I came along.
They have been best friends since they 3/4 yrs of age, they call each other mammies, ‘mammy’. Neither have a childhood picture without the other in it.
When it came time to book the flights and accommodation, my boyfriend (at that time), made a call to stay at home for me, it was getting serious and he wanted to stay and see where it went...
The best friend lost his ****, f’d me out if it, f’ed him out of it and went alone, it was really hard going on both of them, there was tears.... . We all made up well before he left but I honestly felt like Yoko Ono, this was before everyone had mobiles and they used to write to each other before they got phones. The best friend has been living in Holland for over 20 yrs now, he was best man at our wedding and they are still as close today as they ever were..
I’d probably still be here, but my husband would have had a different life without me ...

GazzaL

I could've got married a few years ago. Thank **** I didn't. The amount of women that I would've missed out on is unbelievable.

corner of hells

GazzaL wrote: »

I could've got married a few years ago. Thank **** I didn't. The amount of women that I would've missed out on is unbelievable.

What happened?
Did your intended not turn up at the ceremony? Or was it something else ?

GazzaL

corner of hells wrote: »

What happened?
Did your intended not turn up at the ceremony? Or was it something else ?

I saw sense.

dowhatyoulove

Honestly probably married to someone not good for me who wouldn’t respect me and maybe I’d be divorced? (Clearly daddy issues)

My husband was a gentleman from our first date and at the beginning I thought we’d break up cos he wasn’t my typical type and was so good to me - pretty glad I’ve sorted out my own issues and seen him for the fantastic person he is

fits

I think I’d be working in Africa or Far East. Was in international organisations a few years ago but wasn’t compatible with settling down. Came home had kids, career crashed and still trying to get it back up and running five years later. But we are happy and healthy so could be worse. I wouldn’t swap for the other life.

Andrea B.

For me, without the kids, I would say big chance I might not be here.
Had (and still probably dormant) been a reckless risk taker. Said "no" to very little.
I recall getting an adrenalin kick working with live wires when there were opportunities to isolate them.
Kids depend on me so I think 3 times before doing something.
Remember them being toddlers whereby I still had motorbike, but one close call due to a car driver error and I never drove bike again.
Same with employers. One I would not have stayed with as long as I did.

Tarah04

gogo wrote: »

They have been best friends since they 3/4 yrs of age, they call each other mammies, ‘mammy’. Neither have a childhood picture without the other in it. ..

Don't forget to remind him to send him a card. ☺️