Help me

Pignose

I lost all my thread.

I have nobody to talk to. I can't talk out loud as he'll hear.
I doubt he'll do anything but I don't know.

He strangled me earlier. I thought he was going to kill me. I couldn't breathe and I could feel him crushing my windpipe and he lifted me off the floor.
I accepted it for a split second and I kicked out because we have kids. He's never been abusive towards them. Our daughter idolises him.

My knee is messed up too. I can't walk properly and I'm panicking. He's asleep now because he's working and first alarm is in a few mins.

Furasta

If you have bruises take photos and write a note on your phone or something about all of details of what happened.

Then call the Gardai..... 999/112

Marz66

Ring 999
You can tap the phone instead of speaking

https://www.her.ie/news/next-call-112-999-cant-talk-328919

Pignose

What's weird is my cat is standing guard now. His alarm rings at 30:30. It seems ok now.

Earlier I thought I'd be ok but when he grabbed me I bit him. I don't remember it fully but I did it because he'f et me go. I left a mark and he pointed that out until he went to sleep.

bertsmom

If you ring 999 and can't speak they will direct you to tap on the handset screen or otherwise to indicate you do need assistance. They are trained for all types of scenarios and will be able to get help to you. Reach out to them they will help. Don't stay in silence.

Pignose

I can't do 999.
Im waiting until he goes to work.

I bit him. I was scared and it got him off me.

bertsmom

OK whatever you feel is best but do just know that there is help out there for you. You do not have to stay in an abusive relationship no matter what.
Mensaid: 015543811
Womensaid: 1800341900
Either of these organisations will be able to provide you with help but if this situation you are in right now deteriorates before he goes to work do not hesitate to call the guards or 999 even if you can't speak into the phone if rang they could listen to the situation and get help out to you.

heretothere

You need to get yourself and your child out of there. Is there anyone you could stay with? I don't know anything about it really but if you contact the Gardai can they force him to leave the house if you get a restraining order? What he did to you is awful, and it will more than likely only get worse.

YellowLead

Act now OP, if you leave it you are likely to build it up more in your head and give yourself excuses not to do it. That was a full blown attack on you, you poor thing!!!!! Call somebody - the Gardai, Women’s Aid. Now is the time to act while it’s all fresh. You are not alone - please seek help.

And don’t mind the little bite you gave back - self defence!!! Don’t let him scare you with that.

spaceHopper

Pignose wrote: »

I can't do 999.
Im waiting until he goes to work.

I bit him. I was scared and it got him off me.

That doesn't matter in the slightest, the police won't care that you bit him. All they will care about is that you are safe.

If you are in dublin opposite the church in Rathmines is a womens refuge you will be looked after there.

Pignose

Just an update. I eventually rang 999 and police were here in minutes. He's been removed from the house.
I wasn't going to at first but decided to press charges when I had time to get over the shock and saw the marks on my neck. Thanks to all.

bertsmom

Well done for ringing for help to protect yourself and your daughter. That was brave and I'm sure you had a lot of conflicting thoughts.
Reach out to womens aid or any of the numbers the guards may have given you if need them. Don't hesitate, that's what they are there for.
Well done again and hopefully you'll get a good night's sleep tonight . Its a hugely stressful time right now so its perfectly normal to feel totally overwhelmed but it will get better.