So I was supposed to go to a friends for dinner this evening but again she changes it

AMKC

She says she is not well again which does not surprise me. She does not exercise enough and is quiet a big Women. I have tried to help her and her family have too but in the end she has to want to do it herself and she is just too lazy. She is a good person just very lazy. I changed my whole day for her even walked the dogs at a different time so they would walk down there and had a bigger dog attack mine thankfully he had that dog on a leash but he had another slightly smaller but still bigger than my dogs loose that was uncontrolled and tried to fight with my dog.
She did improve for a while last year when she moved from a horrible tiny flat to a nice house with a nice back garden but is mostly stuck inside now.
The thing is I was going to go there for dinner but she decided she is not feeling up to it has a headache not washed yada yada. All excuses. That's fine be me but then I feel the back of my brain thinking ok what do I have for dinner. Anyone else ever get this? Thankfully I have some dinner ready I could also do something different but just trying not to think about it as that ruins it.

You do realise it's illegal under level 5 restrictions?

Surreptitious

You obviously think highly of her.

TheRiverman

Going to a friends for dinner during Level 5 COVID restrictions ?

jam_mac_jam

Hopefully she is blanking you if you talk about her behind her back like that.

cbreeze

Unless you are providing care for the friend, LEVEL 5 restrictions mean no visitors to other households.

AMKC

Deleted User wrote: »

You do realise it's illegal under level 5 restrictions?

We live in the same town and certainly not 5km away from each other. I do walk down to hers. She never goes anywhere and her family can not visit because of level 5 so I am the only other human connection she does have at the moment. I would have no problem staying at home as I am quiet the recluse anyway but I do it for her. I think she has a controlling side to her because then she says can you come tomorrow. Maybe I have plans for tomorrow although looking at the weather form it it might just be another day inside but I could have went and seen the parents today except for she had asked me to come to have dinner with her. It's just so annoying sometimes. I have my own life to live to.

POBox19

It's no wonder the case numbers are so slow to come down. Maybe she's got the message before you?

in fairness that would be considered a support bubble?

https://whatsnew.citizensinformation.ie/2020/10/22/know-your-rights-support-bubbles/#

What is a support bubble, and can I be part of one?

A support bubble is when an isolated person from one household has close contact with one other household. In a support bubble, also called a paired household, the 2 households can meet indoors, even though they do not live together.


There are special rules about who can form a support bubble. You can only form a support bubble if you:

Live alone
Live alone with children under the age of 18
Share parenting or custody arrangements
Live with an adult you provide care for
Live by yourself and have a carer or carers who support you, including a live-in carer
Remember that support bubbles can only include 2 households.

This means that you cannot:

Have close contact with anyone else outside your bubble
Join a bubble if the other household is already in a bubble with someone else
Be in multiple support bubbles
You can travel outside of your 5km radius to meet with your support bubble. However, you should try to form a bubble within your 5km radius, where possible.

maybe she didn't want to share her dinner after all?

AMKC

POBox19 wrote: »

It's no wonder the case numbers are so slow to come down. Maybe she's got the message before you?

Lol. I go no where bar the shop. She is the same. Read what I said to the poster above. My parents on the rare occasion is the only other place I go.

Buddy Bubs

A person living alone is allowed meet up with 1 other household

Surreptitious

'Quiet a big Women'.












I'm out

Mr. CooL ICE

Not sure if I read it properly, but you sound like you attended a dog fight

[Deleted User]

[Deleted User] wrote: »

You do realise it's illegal under level 5 restrictions?

I go to my GFs and she comes to mine under level 5 restrictions. Both of us live in Dublin City centre. What's the problem, as the scenario is practically the same?

People who live alone can meet one other household to form a social bubble so hardly illegal.

Ubbquittious

Lollerberries @ the level 5 crowd all being successfully trolled

timeToLive

Abraham Narrow Manuscript wrote: »

I go to my GFs and she comes to mine under level 5 restrictions. Both of us live in Dublin City centre. What's the problem, as the scenario is practically the same?

People who live alone can meet one other household to form a social bubble so hardly illegal.

it's a loophole really

Leg End Reject

"My fat, lazy friend is responsible for my dogs getting attacked. She's too lazy to wash and cook my dinner."

Thanks for letting us know.

OP it can be hard to be a friend to someone who lets you down consistently especially if you feel you've done all you can for them. It does sound though that your friend is struggling. You keep using the word 'lazy' to refer them and I don't think that's very fair. Also, 'a big woman' what has her size got to do with anything? While it's understandable that you would be annoyed and frustrated with her you seem to have a very low opinion of her. It might be an idea to reconsider your friendship.

Fake Scores

Maybe it's good she's skipping dinner.

AlejGuzman68

If she is a friend of yours, why describe her in such a demeaning way on a internet form? Maybe try being a better friend to her and more understading.It sounds she is in a slump, maybe find other ways to help her instead of talking bad about her online. IMO you are no friend of her at all.

murpho999

timeToLive wrote: »

it's a loophole really

No it's not.

I live alone and in the last 4 months or so I have only seen my support bubble once every 2 weeks.
Outside of that I have no actual face to face contact with anyone apart from shop assistants and I really need that contact and I really don't know what I'd be like without.
She also needs that contact as well.

It really is very important in these tough times.