Talk if you are feeling down

RobertKK

Another lockdown and if you are feeling down at the moment...

If you are feeling down or depressed, talk to someone, we all need someone to talk to.
If you think you have no one, speak to a family member, a friend or even me. Don't feel alone, in life we need others, when things feel too much, share with others.
You might think no cares but there is always someone who cares.
You might not believe it if feeling low, but do reach out, there is always, always someone who cares.
These times are hard and we need to look out for one another, and we need to look after our mental health.
The start of the year is going to be tough but all going well it will improve in time.
But if you are feeling down, talk to others about it.
We are often afraid to say 'I love you' whether its to family or friends, but we need to remember if it is unsaid that there are people who loves us.
There is always someone who cares, never feel worthless.

A lovely post Robert.

I hope you are feeling ok too?

Leg End Reject

Fair play, Robert, I think a lot of us are ready to give up at this stage. It's been a year of isolation, disappointment and despair at times.

Hopefully things will be better for all of us this time next year. Especially for those who lost loved ones and couldn't give them a traditional send off, that really has to be a low point.

RobertKK

Deleted User wrote: »

A lovely post Robert.

I hope you are feeling ok too?

Thank you for asking and I hope you too are doing ok, I am doing ok, the thought of another full lockdown isn't the best but I am looking beyond it. Just to get the next month or so over with but its the same for everyone.
I have family I can talk to and in recent years found a friend who tells me when he has problems and I do the same with him, sometimes easier to talk with a friend.
So I am doing ok, but it is a tough time for everyone, and none of us are looking forward to the next month, so just want people to talk if they need to, bottling up problems doesn't help, and there is nothing to be embarrassed about if feeling down, its part of being human, but no one has to be alone with their problems.
We need to look out for one another more than ever.
The first lockdown was sort of a novelty in the beginning, but we are all suffering from pandemic fatigue at this point, and it will be harder than the first lockdown.

theguzman

I was suffering from (SAD) depression since November until mid December caused by our appalling weather here. Mental Health Services in Ireland are an absolute disgrace, I'm awaiting therapy and these are the sort of supports which should be available next day or within hours. My own wife and friends of mine are great supports and the positivity of having passed the 21st of Dec and the awfulness of Christmas.

I just want to let everyone know I am here and you can PM me and i'll help you if I can. You are not alone, you are never alone and no matter how sh1tty things are it will always get better.

the_syco

theguzman wrote: »

I was suffering from (SAD) depression since November until mid December caused by our appalling weather here.

Have you ever tried the lamps?

theguzman

the_syco wrote: »

Have you ever tried the lamps?

No but it is something I am going to try, normally I'd either be away or going away within weeks this time of year. I was on an A380 1 year ago tonight making my way back from LA, came into Dublin and rang in the New Year and drank my Duty Free Champagne and Tequila on the streets of Dublin with a few friends, oh boy little did we know of what was just around the corner.

tdf7187

theguzman wrote: »

I was suffering from (SAD) depression since November until mid December caused by our appalling weather here. Mental Health Services in Ireland are an absolute disgrace, I'm awaiting therapy and these are the sort of supports which should be available next day or within hours. My own wife and friends of mine are great supports and the positivity of having passed the 21st of Dec and the awfulness of Christmas.

I just want to let everyone know I am here and you can PM me and i'll help you if I can. You are not alone, you are never alone and no matter how sh1tty things are it will always get better.

Mental health services are actually quite good here if you have private health insurance and/or are prepared to pay for private therapy, with the proviso that if inpatient treatment is required, most of the better private facilities are in Dublin, so it's not fair on those living a long way from Dublin. I know it shouldn't be like that but it is.

bassy

I think s lot of people having been living in a bubble most of there life,well a certain majority.

Graces7

If in need the Samaritans can be a great support. Anonymity can be a help.

anewme

bassy wrote: »

I think s lot of people having been living in a bubble most of there life,well a certain majority.

This is a positive thread.

Please keep it that way.

ILoveYourVibes

anewme wrote: »

This is a positive thread.

Please keep it that way.

I think he is saying that actually there is less help than is needed.

And people can be lot more cruel than you think.

We don't think of others as much as we should.

That is something to be mindful of. And not to recognize it would be to live in a bubble.

I don't think he means to be negative.

Services ...are shall we say ...poor.

Life is very very hard for some folk.

anewme

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

I think he is saying that actually there is less help than is needed.

It read like a dig at the other posts.

Apologies to Bassy if I took him up wrong.

RobertKK

Graces7 wrote: »

If in need the Samaritans can be a great support. Anonymity can be a help.

Yes there organisations like the Samaritans who will listen too.
The main thing is to talk

RobbingBandit

This situation has compounded things for many of us already having a hard enough time of things cutting off access to vital services and other supports it's hard to refocus or emerge when you are already so far down.

I am absolutely lost if I spend even one moment thinking about things, I am trying to use any and all positive aspects in my life to keep smiling it's hard but even the smallest thing you have canlifht the way towards you staying on top of the weight that is hold all of us down just remember that little thing no matter how insignificant it may seem to others

nacho libre

You are a good man Robertkk. Fair play for posting this.

ancapailldorcha

nacho libre wrote: »

You are a good man Robertkk. Fair play for posting this.

Agreed. I think most of the problem is that a lot of people who feel the need to talk either have nobody to talk to or feel like they have nobody to talk to.

Hodger

I,ll be honest over the last couple of months its weekends I find hard in the context of not being able to go out on a nights out or not being able go to the cinema to see the newest films or other general activities. This time last year on new years eve I had a good night out vs new years eve this year not being able to go out also I worked part time in retail which is also gone again with the new full lockdown measures in place.

I honestly can,t wait until there is a full rollout of the vaccine for everyone who wishes to take it can take it so we can move forward getting things back to normal and we can all live our lives again.

growleaves

Not all God's problems are a microbe.

_Whimsical_

Great post!

I'm going to add to it by saying please listen to someone.

If someone says they're struggling please ask them a question and give them an opening to say more in case they need it.
If someone needs you please try be there in the way you can.
If you don't feel up to listening make a small gesture to let them know you care, even if it's dropping a bar of chocolate after you're at the shop so they know you've thought of them.
If you see someone quietly struggling or isolating send them an odd text, include them in a whatsapp group, whatever effort you can make, any little gesture to keep them in touch.

If you can do a lot, do a lot. If you can't that's ok , it's the small things that keep a lot of us ticking over through rough times.

_Whimsical_

Is there any boards.ie discord server?

It could be fun to have a place to join in chats and meet new people. Might be an outlet for some of what's lost in socialising and give people on their own a bit of a sense of involvement.

Rezident

RobertKK wrote: »

Another lockdown and if you are feeling down at the moment...

If you are feeling down or depressed, talk to someone, we all need someone to talk to.
If you think you have no one, speak to a family member, a friend or even me. Don't feel alone, in life we need others, when things feel too much, share with others.
You might think no cares but there is always someone who cares.
You might not believe it if feeling low, but do reach out, there is always, always someone who cares.
These times are hard and we need to look out for one another, and we need to look after our mental health.
The start of the year is going to be tough but all going well it will improve in time.
But if you are feeling down, talk to others about it.
We are often afraid to say 'I love you' whether its to family or friends, but we need to remember if it is unsaid that there are people who loves us.
There is always someone who cares, never feel worthless.

Good advice.



What worked for me was watching that 'SAS: Who Dares Wins' show and one of the ex-SAS guys was saying that after he had been blown up so many times that they discharged him, he didn't want to leave, it was all he wanted to do but he couldn't do it any more. He said he thought about killing himself, and that 'men don't usually talk about these things, but talking about them is the best thing you can do'.