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My Younger sister was murdered years ago..

  • 22-12-2020 12:20pm
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    Closed Accounts Posts: 91 ✭✭


    I find it hard to talk to people

    I think I was just devastated but people don't talk about it, it's such a lonely feeling


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 91 ✭✭Yuser.


    YellowLead wrote: »
    I can’t imagine the trauma and pain of that. Have you had therapy? Are their support groups out there? Friends etc might be fearful of bringing it up and upsetting you and therefore avoid the topic, have you tried to chat about your feelings with anyone?
    I can imagine this time of year in particular being hard for you - are you close to other family members - parents, other siblings?

    Thanks

    I wasn't prepared for the loss and lonelines

    It was such a lonely experience


  • Registered Users Posts: 16,221 ✭✭✭✭banie01


    Sorry for your loss and the manner of it.

    I'd advise you to get in touch with AdVic for support from people with more experience of your situation.
    https://advic.ie/counselling/homicide-bereavement-support/

    AdVic offer specific counselling for those bereaved by violence that does make a difference (I'm told).


  • Registered Users Posts: 17,495 ✭✭✭✭eviltwin


    I’m so sorry to hear what you’ve been though. There is a group called Support After Homicide which supports families who have lost a loved one in this way. Deepest condolences to you and your family.


  • Registered Users Posts: 29,820 ✭✭✭✭freshpopcorn


    So to hear about this OP.
    One thing I would say tough OP there are lots of your friends, extended family, etc who think and care about you but they don’t want to bring the subject up encase they upset you or they come across as nosy!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 91 ✭✭Yuser.


    So to hear about this OP.
    One thing I would say tough OP there are lots of your friends, extended family, etc who think and care about you but they don’t want to bring the subject up encase they upset you or they come across as nosy!
    It changed everything I thought I knew about everything


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  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,586 ✭✭✭sasta le


    Sorry to hear i can't imagine the pain
    Only thing I can say is maybe start the new year with a goal to live your life to the fullest in honour of your sister in sure she would want you happy and not down


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,142 ✭✭✭Katgurl


    I'm so sorry op. I cannot imagine the pain.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 91 ✭✭Yuser.


    It isolated everyone

    Some of us became addicts or died


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 91 ✭✭Yuser.


    The loneliness was the main thing

    People around me just breaking down when I needed them


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,586 ✭✭✭sasta le


    Yuser. wrote: »
    The loneliness was the main thing

    People around me just breaking down when I needed them

    I can only imagine.You can't blame them for breaking down either they trying not process it too
    Your never gonna forget it but you can get over it
    Put the energy thinking about it into something positive for yourself:)


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 91 ✭✭Yuser.


    sasta le wrote: »
    I can only imagine.You can't blame them for breaking down either they trying not process it too
    Your never gonna forget it but you can get over it
    Put the energy thinking about it into something positive for yourself:)

    I always meant to say it

    Instead of saying" oh ya I felt bad after it"

    I just wanted today it it was fukking brutal


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,653 ✭✭✭✭Plumbthedepths


    Sorry to read this OP , has your sister got justice?
    I understand you are in pain, can you speak to someone?


  • Registered Users Posts: 5,013 ✭✭✭Rubberchikken


    I'm so sorry Op.
    In our home we always talked about family members who died and we still do it today. My kids have grown up knowing that it's fine to talk about the dead. They're still part of us and our family.

    I'm sorry others didn't talk to you about your sister. It has to have hurt and still hurts you.
    Get support to help you with this.

    Take care


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 91 ✭✭Yuser.


    That's probably why people split up when a child is murdered

    The intensity is different

    Grief is hard I guess but add the shock and trauma


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