Low mood and weight

Kauto0709

Hi all,

Hoping for some advice. I'm in a very bad place at the moment. I've put on a lot of weight this year and I really hate my body. I've been congratulationed twice recently on being pregnant even though I am not! I hate my body and I feel really depressed with it. I'm in a vicious cycle whereby I hate myself for being fat so I comfort and pity eat more then hate myself for doing it. I know the basic advice would be eat healthier, exercise more etc but I'm so down right now I find it hard to motivate myself. I do want to lose weight but yet at the back of my mind it's almost like I feel I don't deserve it. I'm probably not explaining it well. I just feel miserable in myself. Has anyone had any similar experiences and managed to successfully get out of this rut?

Thanks in advance

Blush_01

Kauto0709 wrote: »

Hi all,

Hoping for some advice. I'm in a very bad place at the moment. I've put on a lot of weight this year and I really hate my body. I've been congratulationed twice recently on being pregnant even though I am not! I hate my body and I feel really depressed with it. I'm in a vicious cycle whereby I hate myself for being fat so I comfort and pity eat more then hate myself for doing it. I know the basic advice would be eat healthier, exercise more etc but I'm so down right now I find it hard to motivate myself. I do want to lose weight but yet at the back of my mind it's almost like I feel I don't deserve it. I'm probably not explaining it well. I just feel miserable in myself. Has anyone had any similar experiences and managed to successfully get out of this rut?

Thanks in advance

You might find things easier if you can start speaking about yourself like you would speak about a friend you care about. And if you can try to love yourself, and treat yourself the way you would treat a friend you love. You won't ever make a permanent change if you hate yourself. Anger is a fuel that burns out. You deserve to treat yourself well, and if you treat yourself like you love yourself, and talk about yourself like you care about yourself, your internal monologue will improve and you'll find motivation easier because you'll believe your own value.

Ultimately the diet industry is a huge one because it makes huge money from people who use their services short term and repeatedly. But if you are kinder to yourself and more mindful of your own value, you'll start making choices that are kinder and the cumulative effect is positive.

I hope this doesn't come across as insensitive or preachy. Lots of people will say it's simple, to eat less and move more. It's not that simple. You deserve to be treated well and you can be the one to start that process.

Kauto0709

TP_CM wrote: »

Let's forget about your body for a second. Was there a time you didn't feel like this? What was different back then?

It's hard to pinpoint when it started because it seems to have just been an ongoing downward spiral culminating in this awful feeling of hopelessness.

I definately didn't always feel like this but it's hard to say what changed.

Kauto0709

Blush_01 wrote: »

You might find things easier if you can start speaking about yourself like you would speak about a friend you care about. And if you can try to love yourself, and treat yourself the way you would treat a friend you love. You won't ever make a permanent change if you hate yourself. Anger is a fuel that burns out. You deserve to treat yourself well, and if you treat yourself like you love yourself, and talk about yourself like you care about yourself, your internal monologue will improve and you'll find motivation easier because you'll believe your own value.

Ultimately the diet industry is a huge one because it makes huge money from people who use their services short term and repeatedly. But if you are kinder to yourself and more mindful of your own value, you'll start making choices that are kinder and the cumulative effect is positive.

I hope this doesn't come across as insensitive or preachy. Lots of people will say it's simple, to eat less and move more. It's not that simple. You deserve to be treated well and you can be the one to start that process.

Thank you. And it doesn't come across as insensitive at all but as very kind. I will try to be kinder to myself.

Coybig_

I have been there. I've been exactly where you are.

I was in great shape and slowly I started putting on weight. This made me shun social outings because I was self conscious about my weight. Because I shunned the social outings I ate more because people weren't seeing me anyway. This pushed me farther away from the social outings. A vicious cycle whereby I was hiding food from people as it was the only comfort I was getting, but I knew it was wrong. I even started to be self conscious about exercising because I felt like people would be talking about how badly I let myself go.

All the while I felt like ****e. I had little to no energy, I used to wear rubbish clothes, I stopped caring about my appearance in ways other than just my weight.

Nobody will be able to help you but yourself. You have to want it enough.

Just start. Take it one day at a time. Soon a day will be a week and a week will be a month. If you mess up just get back on the horse.

If you want any diet or exercise advice then feel free to ask. I'd be happy to oblige.

Kauto0709

Coybig_ wrote: »

I have been there. I've been exactly where you are.

I was in great shape and slowly I started putting on weight. This made me shun social outings because I was self conscious about my weight. Because I shunned the social outings I ate more because people weren't seeing me anyway. This pushed me farther away from the social outings. A vicious cycle whereby I was hiding food from people as it was the only comfort I was getting, but I knew it was wrong. I even started to be self conscious about exercising because I felt like people would be talking about how badly I let myself go.

All the while I felt like ****e. I had little to no energy, I used to wear rubbish clothes, I stopped caring about my appearance in ways other than just my weight.

Nobody will be able to help you but yourself. You have to want it enough.

Just start. Take it one day at a time. Soon a day will be a week and a week will be a month. If you mess up just get back on the horse.

If you want any diet or exercise advice then feel free to ask. I'd be happy to oblige.

Thanks so much Coybig. I can tell by reading your post that you've been exactly where I am. I just reached absolute rock bottom. Over the last couple of days I've been trying to take the kind advice from posters on board and I am feeling a little better. I know it will be a very long and slow process but as you said it's just one day at a time. Thanks so much for the support x