Anyone not get how there is a thrill in pursuing a women?

completedit

Anyone opt for women to come to them? I personally believe it's the only way

ancapailldorcha

completedit wrote: »

Anyone opt for women to come to them? I personally believe it's the only way

Not really sure what you're getting at here.

You can't really sit back and expect opportunities to come to you This applies to life beyond dating as well. If I'm interested in someone, I'll act on it. Not taking an opportunity like that if I think she might be interested in me and available in the vain hope of her acting is just a bit childish IMO.

That said, I can't be holed with chasing or playing games. Life's too short for that carry on.

completedit

completedit wrote: »

Anyone opt for women to come to them? I personally believe it's the only way

The title and the 'filler' seem to be at cross purposes.

As for a thrill in pursuing women, it palls over time. With experience comes a certain jaded feeling about encountering the same "types" (don't read too much into the phrase) of women/behavior/attitudes through dating. I've noticed a decline in interest by men after a while, simply because they've seen it all before. The same patterns of behavior leading to the same results. Young men tend to focus on sex as the end result, whereas when you live in a land of plenty, sex become far less important, with other results becoming more important.

As for waiting for women coming to them.. you need a hook, and in western society where women tend to placed on pedestals, most men are missing such a hook. However, I live in Asia so my race is a hook in itself. Yes, I tend to wait for women to show an interest in me before I invest any amount of effort in converting an encounter into something more memorable.

Jimmy Twotimes

completedit wrote: »

Anyone opt for women to come to them? I personally believe it's the only way

Bro you better be extremely handsome, otherwise that strategy will result in dying alone...

PsychoPete

OP after a few years

bobbyy gee

let woman come to you woman don't want disparate men
it helps if your good looking

completedit

That's kind of my point. I don't see how you can chase a women and not come across desperate and/or a stalker

completedit

completedit wrote: »

That's kind of my point. I don't see how you can chase a women and not come across desperate and/or a stalker

Well, there's two obvious approaches (there are more but..the less said about them, the better.) . There's the usual guy who chases, tripping over his own tongue, showing his desperate need for affirmation/approval/sex... (the same guy will cockblock others to show he's worthy, while ultimately failing)

And then there's the guy who plans his campaign, controlling the situations they're together, keeping his state in control, and generally providing the woman with a better overall experience. Doesn't seem naturally romantic, but overall produces the best memory for the woman.

The first case, the guy will likely be focused on one woman, and therefore creep out that woman with his concentration on her. The second, will likely be dating multiple women at the same time, until he's ready to commit to an actual relationship, with the women knowing that he's in demand.

I've done both before. The second is the way I am now.. and it's much better. Nothing needy or creepy involved...

jmlad2020

completedit wrote: »

Anyone opt for women to come to them? I personally believe it's the only way

I know someone like this who waits on women to come to him. He will be waiting a very long time on signals that will probably will never come.

Make them come to you..

Kylta

I've never tried any dating sites ever. I love the chase (covid fu¢ked it up) and chatting up women.

spaceHopper

What's wrong with the odd glance or a little eye contact and flirting. As long as they show some interest then go for it the moment they don't - it was nice to meet you - gracefully move on. By the way I'm married so what would I know about dating today.

completedit

spaceHopper wrote: »

What's wrong with the odd glance or a little eye contact and flirting. As long as they show some interest then go for it the moment they don't - it was nice to meet you - gracefully move on. By the way I'm married so what would I know about dating today.

Women should come to you. The chase doesn't work in a society where women(all women) are in high demand. The good should come to the consumer; not the other way around.

Feisar

It's not an either or thing. If women came to me great, I'd also be hunting tail as well.

completedit

completedit wrote: »

Women should come to you. The chase doesn't work in a society where women(all women) are in high demand. The good should come to the consumer; not the other way around.

Equality. If you have a reasonable level of personal respect, and also respect for others, then it doesn't matter who is chasing/approaching who, because you're secure in how the whole situation is perceived. In turn, that makes you more attractive to women because they're not dealing with an immature guy. Most women have enough insecurities without having to deal with the guys as well.

The good should come to the consumer? Seriously? haha.. no, sorry, but that's utterly warped logic.

Maintain your state, be a gentleman, don't be needy, or aggressive... and women will approach you out of simple curiosity, and then, you can cement the curiosity with attraction (through your personality, knowledge, experience, humor, whatever).

greenspurs

must look like Brad Pitt , or hung like a horse !

greenspurs

greenspurs wrote: »

must look like Brad Pitt , or hung like a horse !

why?

begbysback

completedit wrote: »

Women should come to you. The chase doesn't work in a society where women(all women) are in high demand. The good should come to the consumer; not the other way around.

So true, and the math is there to prove it, for every man in Ireland there are 1.07 women, let those one and a bit women fight over us.

spaceHopper

completedit wrote: »

Women should come to you. The chase doesn't work in a society where women(all women) are in high demand. The good should come to the consumer; not the other way around.

So when they come to you, do you ever turn them way because you aren't attracted to them or have you low standards.

Do you go to the shops or does food show up on your door.

You have to at least show some interest in them so that them might approach you. Smile and wave boys, smile and wave

completedit

spaceHopper wrote: »

So when they come to you, do you ever turn them way because you aren't attracted to them or have you low standards.

Do you go to the shops or does food show up on your door.

You have to at least show some interest in them so that them might approach you. Smile and wave boys, smile and wave

I put out a feeler and then wait to see how it escalates.
I will never approach a women first because doing that immediately puts you on the backfoot

Limpy

Plenty of women won't make the move Incase there friend's judge them. If your one on one and chatty then you'll have good success. I always found it easier to pull in the chippy afterwards.

Calahonda52

completedit wrote: »

The goods should come to the consumer; not the other way around.

So they are now goods

completedit

Limpy wrote: »

Plenty of women won't make the move Incase there friend's judge them. If your one on one and chatty then you'll have good success. I always found it easier to pull in the chippy afterwards.

What kind of birds are floating around chippers?

Limpy

completedit wrote: »

What kind of birds are floating around chippers?

Abra, supermacs all prime spots lol. Atleast if she was looking for a fling that's the last chance saloon. Its a good spot to see them in the light aswell, the beer googles can be distorted in the club.

bobbyy gee

most woman ask me out.

Kylta

completedit wrote: »

What kind of birds are floating around chippers?

Snack box's of course

Passenger

bobbyy gee wrote: »

most woman ask me out.

Wasn't it you who the police tried to arrest for being so gorgeous?

mr_fegelien

Unless you're in the top 20% of men, you'll be waiting till death for a woman to approach you.

mr_fegelien

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Unless you're in the top 20% of men, you'll be waiting till death for a woman to approach you.

Pretty much, although there are circumstances you can engineer to increase the odds. However, for the most part, culture plays a huge role in this. Women in most countries have simply grown up with men approaching them. It's the way things are. I'd be skeptical of an average guy claiming success from waiting for women to approach them.. it goes against the social conditioning, we've all received.

However, you can increase your odds by stepping into a foreign country/culture because being "exotic" can be enough, although TBH it still mostly comes down to a guy making the initial approach or instigating some form of contact.